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♥MOBAS♥ 2 kids; 1 angel baby; California 7198 posts
May 11th '13
Quoting ~The Lunar Flower~:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Minion:</b>" I'm late, but I think a restraining order is absolutely ... [snip!] ... wouldn't be allowed back but obviously if the school hasn't taken action against him, they didn't feel that threatened."


BUT THE TEACHER suggested I get a restraining order HE DID feel threatened but no on called the police. I don't see how I can rationalize with someone who seems so erratic.

♥MOBAS♥ 2 kids; 1 angel baby; California 7198 posts
May 11th '13
Quoting Ladee+Grant+Lilly:" I am late, and jumping in without reading all pages, but I'm going to go back and read and see if I have ... [snip!] ... my son without another adult present, and next year I'd probably make sure your son and the girl are not in the same class. "


Thank you, some people are clearly missing the point here. Regardless, you are right. I will request that they are not in the same class next year.

♥MOBAS♥ 2 kids; 1 angel baby; California 7198 posts
May 11th '13

By the way I am not seeking revenge because someone called me a shitty parent. I know who I am and what I am, his opinion of me has no impact on my life. My goal is to keep my son safe and I will do what I need to do in order to accomplish that. Thanks!

♥MOBAS♥ 2 kids; 1 angel baby; California 7198 posts
May 11th '13
Quoting Ladee+Grant+Lilly:" I'm down to page 3 catching up...I'm kind of surprised at this point. You don't know this man, and if ... [snip!] ... I think is a little overkill, but definitely coordinating with the school and whatnot that is a really good option right now. "


None of the school staff have seen this father or had been introduced to him. Sadly the teachers first conversation with him was telling him how out of place he was and should not have done what he did. The father turned his anger towards the teacher.
My son and the other student have history. They were in the same class last year too and they had problems with each other last year that I was made aware of. They possibly had issues at the beginning of this school year. I say possibly because no one notified me and my son never said anything. I check in with staff periodically and nothing big has come up this year.

CJKB+JMB=AMB 1 child; Watertown, New York 2525 posts
May 11th '13

i think you should leave it alone and get over it. ya the guy shouldn't have said something to your son but if i thought my kid was being bullied and i saw the bullier right there id say something to. all he did was say you should apologize to my daughter. sounds like you should be telling your son the same thing... besides what happened between the two kids was obviously a long time ago it shouldnt even be an issue just let it go

♥MOBAS♥ 2 kids; 1 angel baby; California 7198 posts
May 11th '13
Quoting Ladee+Grant+Lilly:" Then yeah. Coordinate with the school staff to see what their plan is to keep this from happening again, ... [snip!] ... bigger problems. And yes I'd specifically request they not be in the same class next year although I doubt they will mind. "


Right, thank you.

♥MOBAS♥ 2 kids; 1 angel baby; California 7198 posts
May 11th '13
Quoting Carissa Biron:" i think you should leave it alone and get over it. ya the guy shouldn't have said something to your son ... [snip!] ... thing... besides what happened between the two kids was obviously a long time ago it shouldnt even be an issue just let it go"


You obviously have not read all that was said.

~The Lunar Flower~ 2 kids; Alabama 6748 posts
May 11th '13
Quoting Sonia[MOBAS]:" BUT THE TEACHER suggested I get a restraining order HE DID feel threatened but no on called the police. I don't see how I can rationalize with someone who seems so erratic."

I don't understand why the teacher hasn't taken action as well then kwim? He could file a retraining order to protect his students. The man was obviously having a pms moment of some kind. More had to have been going on. It just doesn't make sense for someone to react that badly to something so small. I hope your son is alright from everything that happened too. I know being talked to like that at a small age can be slightly traumatizing

user banned TTC since Apr 2014; 2 kids; Middelfart, Denmark 15320 posts
May 11th '13

You're not going to get a restraining order because this guy got pissed at you.



It's out if taste, but not illegal.

~The Lunar Flower~ 2 kids; Alabama 6748 posts
May 11th '13
Quoting Ladee+Grant+Lilly:" I think that's why they are so worried, because it was something so small and in OPs mind any issues ... [snip!] ... it has to be the principle to do it. I think as far as the teacher goes, his hands are pretty much tied one way or the other. "

He was hostile towards the teacher & a student on school property so the teacher would have more power than the mother in this situation. They could ban him from the grounds based on that alone but if they haven't already, I doubt they will

JoeyN "babycarrot" Chaska, Minnesota 255 posts
May 12th '13

I'm late on this but this sounds like this girls father & her mom are no longer together sounds to me like there's a bad divorce going on! Find out his name & run a background check on him. He should be old enough to understand kid's say things sometimes they're kids not fully developed yet. I would be more concerned about him yelling at you & the teacher.

♛Queen Boo♛ 2 kids; United Kingdom 2532 posts
May 12th '13
Quoting Sonia[MOBAS]:" BUT THE TEACHER suggested I get a restraining order HE DID feel threatened but no on called the police. I don't see how I can rationalize with someone who seems so erratic."


The teacher is going OTT! I honestly can't believe what I am reading. You would really go and get a restraining order on someone because they asked your child to apologize? He was wrong to do that but in no way does that warrant a restraining order! You also need to be looking into your own child's behavior (he clearly really upset this mans child!)



What you need to do is speak tot he head teacher and sort this out like adults. Not go running off to get an order.



Crazy!

♛Queen Boo♛ 2 kids; United Kingdom 2532 posts
May 12th '13
Quoting kate & tilly:" <blockquote><b>Quoting ~The Lunar Flower~:</b>" All they did was apologize for him ... [snip!] ... and my child's. all she was doing was talking to her child and he went crazy on her. She did not confront him. Dude has issues."


Let's all go get restraining orders for every person who says something out of line to another person. We can all have bad days.

Minion 3 kids; ., GA, United States 21802 posts
May 12th '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting ♛Queen Boo♛:</b>" The teacher is going OTT! I honestly can't believe what I am reading. You would really go and get a ... [snip!] ... What you need to do is speak tot he head teacher and sort this out like adults. Not go running off to get an order. Crazy!"</blockquote>




Right?

♥MOBAS♥ 2 kids; 1 angel baby; California 7198 posts
May 12th '13
Quoting ~The Lunar Flower~:" I don't understand why the teacher hasn't taken action as well then kwim? He could file a retraining ... [snip!] ... son is alright from everything that happened too. I know being talked to like that at a small age can be slightly traumatizing"


Thank you. I am going to talk to the principal tomorrow and see what she suggests now that she has had a chance to hear from the staff.