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Internet BF? CLC Due October 15; TTC since Jul 2009; 3 kids; 1 angel baby; Nebraska 1741 posts
May 6th '13

So I've never posted in here but I have a 15 year old foster daughter for the last 6 months. I just looked through her Internet history and found out she's been chatting on her gmail with some boy from the Middle East and their telling each other they love each other and he's asking to see her b**bs. And she's been on my other foster daughters iPod touch in her room. I haven't been able to check the iPod yet. Omg I have no idea what to do other than block her from going on her email on the computer.

Good Queen Bess Due December 27; 2 kids; Ontario 49564 posts
May 6th '13

Instead of banning her from the internet, talk to her about online safety.

Faye's Mama 1 child; Springfield, MO, United States 4569 posts
May 6th '13

Talking to her would be a good idea.

lolajessup 3 kids; 1 angel baby; Beaverton, Michigan 44076 posts
May 6th '13

I'd sit down and talk with her calmly. Do t make her feel staked but just ask how she met him why her intentions are, talk about online safety, how men lie on there, how scammers work, etc.



And btw I think this forum is for teen moms haha

Rette Mich 1 child; Texas 27612 posts
May 6th '13

You should talk to her, banning a 15 y/o is like stroking a fire. She'll just find another way, this it the time where everyone and their dog has a way to get onto the web.

user banned 21 kids; North Dakota 3800 posts
May 6th '13

Well...I shall tell you how my mother ended these shenanigans for me.



I talked to a guy online who was 15-16, gave him my address and everything. One day my mom picked me up from school and asked if I'd been talking to a "Josh" online. I said yeah, why? She told me that a sheriff in Georgia had called her and let her know that they intercepted mail from a prisoner who was really a 40-something man named Dave and found that he had been talking to me, had my address, and planned to come visit me when he got out.



That was the end for me. I was scared shitless. She didn't tell me until I was 20-something that she had made up the whole thing...the boy I was talking to sent me a letter in the mail and she intercepted it. Tricky, but I'm glad she did it. Had she only told me not to talk to him I would have continued behind her back. I knew everything then, you know...

Nicola. 2 kids; Manton, MI, United States 13396 posts
May 6th '13

Stay calm would be the first thing! You need to talk to her about what she's been talking about and why it is such a big deal. Explain why you are worried and about being safe when talking online.



Just blocking her from everything, especially with a 15 year old girl, is going to do nothing but make her defiant. She will find another way if she isn't talked to and taught the right thing to do.

Japan 388 posts
May 6th '13
Quoting *Mayhem*:" Well...I shall tell you how my mother ended these shenanigans for me. I talked to a guy online who ... [snip!] ... did it. Had she only told me not to talk to him I would have continued behind her back. I knew everything then, you know..."


Ha haha. Thats a good one. Your mom is creative.

Jackie Burkhart 1 child; Baltimore, MD, United States 7276 posts
May 6th '13

Your first instinct should be to talk to her.



Forbidden fruit is the sweetest. If you block her from getting on the internet, I can assure you she will find a way and completely disregard your rules.

lolajessup 3 kids; 1 angel baby; Beaverton, Michigan 44076 posts
May 6th '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting *Mayhem*:</b>" Well...I shall tell you how my mother ended these shenanigans for me. I talked to a guy online who ... [snip!] ... did it. Had she only told me not to talk to him I would have continued behind her back. I knew everything then, you know..."</blockquote>



Omg that's awesome!!!

CLC Due October 15; TTC since Jul 2009; 3 kids; 1 angel baby; Nebraska 1741 posts
May 6th '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting *Mayhem*:</b>" Well...I shall tell you how my mother ended these shenanigans for me. I talked to a guy online who ... [snip!] ... did it. Had she only told me not to talk to him I would have continued behind her back. I knew everything then, you know..."</blockquote>




Oh wow that's pretty funny! Idk if I could be that creative.

CLC Due October 15; TTC since Jul 2009; 3 kids; 1 angel baby; Nebraska 1741 posts
May 6th '13

Ok thanks I will check the iPod when my other foster daughter gets home. Should I ask her if she knows what the other ones been doing? Cause they both sit in her bedroom? I printed out the conversation with the boy but I won't show it until I ask her what she's been doing.

CLC Due October 15; TTC since Jul 2009; 3 kids; 1 angel baby; Nebraska 1741 posts
May 6th '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Ladee+Grant+Lilly:</b>" I really think the internet security talk is a great idea. Some young teens don't understand if you take ... [snip!] ... love Mayhem's Mom's idea...if it were me, I'd probably do something similar lmao and then lead into internet security. "</blockquote>



Ya I realized maybe she doesn't understand what she's doing. She's a Virgin and only had her first kiss like a couple months ago. The other foster kid however is not and she got in trouble before she came to live with me for texting naked pictures of herself to a boy. So she could be giving her ideas. I went to school and got the iPod at lunch and asked the girls for there passwords and told them we were gonna have a talk about the Internet tonight. However the older one has been on Skype on the iPod in the bedroom wih the door shut. And she gave me the wrong password for her Skype and I couldn't sign in

CLC Due October 15; TTC since Jul 2009; 3 kids; 1 angel baby; Nebraska 1741 posts
May 6th '13

Sorry they have forums for parents with infants and kids so I thought this was for parents of teenagers! Oops sorry! Anyways I talke to her about talking to strangers and about how she doesn't know if she's talking to some middle aged pervert asking to see her b**bs. And I asked her to delete that person from her email. They were telling each other they lived each other. I said how do you lovesomeone you've never met? And you don't go around telling everyone you love them. It's a special thing. I told her she should not talk to anyone she's never met in person just as a general rule. I told her the iPod is not hers so she doesn't need to use it. Good thing the other girl made sure she wasn't sending make pictures.