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lolajessup 3 kids; 1 angel baby; Beaverton, Michigan 44076 posts
May 5th '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Squeaky McGee [27 wks]:</b>" I won't even get started on his drinking. He gets drunk every night. It must be miserable living with me. :("</blockquote>




:( does he just have an addictive personality? Like if its not those will he just move on to something else?

user banned 3 kids; 3 angel babies; Indiana 75866 posts
May 5th '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting tonys_mama(army wife):</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting Squeaky McGee [27 wks]:</b>" I won't even get started on his ... [snip!] ... don't blam yourself for his wrong doings Hun. You said he has final exams soon, maybe he is just extremely stress about them?"</blockquote>



This has been going on our entire relationship, not just during finals week.

castaway 2 kids; Pittsburgh, Pennsylvania 20306 posts
May 5th '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Squeaky McGee [27 wks]:</b>" I won't even get started on his drinking. He gets drunk every night. It must be miserable living with me. :("</blockquote>




Aww, don't take it that way. It is probably just how he copes with stress. :(

user banned 3 kids; 3 angel babies; Indiana 75866 posts
May 5th '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting lolajessup:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting Squeaky McGee [27 wks]:</b>" I won't even get started on his ... [snip!] ... :( does he just have an addictive personality? Like if its not those will he just move on to something else?"</blockquote>



I think he does. He acknowledges that he's a functional alcoholic. He just doesn't really care about his health.

Sweet Little Lies 3 kids; 1 angel baby; Deception, WI, United States 6900 posts
May 5th '13
Quoting Squeaky McGee [27 wks]:" <blockquote><b>Quoting lolajessup:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting Squeaky ... [snip!] ... I think he does. He acknowledges that he's a functional alcoholic. He just doesn't really care about his health."

Do you think he doesn't care about his health or that his addiction is clouding his judgement?

user banned 3 kids; 3 angel babies; Indiana 75866 posts
May 5th '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Sweet Little Lies:</b>" Do you think he doesn't care about his health or that his addiction is clouding his judgement?"</blockquote>



I don't know. He has just told me that he doesn't care about his health and thinks he'll be dead by 40.

Sweet Little Lies 3 kids; 1 angel baby; Deception, WI, United States 6900 posts
May 5th '13
Quoting Squeaky McGee [27 wks]:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Sweet Little Lies:</b>" Do you think he doesn't care about his ... [snip!] ... I don't know. He has just told me that he doesn't care about his health and thinks he'll be dead by 40."

I'm just really sorry you are having to deal with all of this. My husband is an alcoholic as well and I know how hard it is. I wish you all the best.

Severus Snape 2 kids; Tennessee 3550 posts
May 5th '13

On the original topic I'd say talk to him about it. He's probably lying because he knows it'll upset you but that doesn't make it ok.



From reading the later posts I'd say he is depressed. Especially since he doesn't care about his health. I'm sorry you and him are having a hard time. Good luck OP

Two Princesses 2 kids; Los Angeles, CA, United States 7205 posts
May 5th '13
Quoting Loka Lokita:" I would tell him that it hurts me that he feels he needs to be dishonest, but I would let the smoking go as long as it is not when I can see it and it's outside only. "


I agree with this.
My alcoholic ex used to lie about drinking. but I could always smell it on him whenever he did it. and the fact that he was lying to my face made me really angry.

Mom[Oh] 2 kids; Fort Wayne, IN, United States 713 posts
May 5th '13

Stef don't blam yourself. He obviously has problems of his own.
We'll be praying for Ty. That he takes his life,family and responsibilities more seriously. Love you.

b**b Juice Factory. [EBFB 3 kids; Melbourne, Australia 3264 posts
May 5th '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Squeaky McGee [27 wks]:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting b**b Juice Factory. [EBFB:</b>" Someone else's smoking habits ... [snip!] ... it. Would it start an argument if you asked him?"</blockquote> He's my husband. His health is very much my concern."</blockquote>




I probably shouldn't have used the word concern, but he's a grown man... He obviously knows smoking is bad.

user banned 3 kids; 3 angel babies; Indiana 75866 posts
May 5th '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting b**b Juice Factory. [EBFB:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting Squeaky McGee [27 wks]:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting ... [snip!] ... I probably shouldn't have used the word concern, but he's a grown man... He obviously knows smoking is



Thanks for clearing that up. I didn't think he knew.

user banned 3 kids; 3 angel babies; Indiana 75866 posts
May 5th '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Mama♡MoriYah :]:</b>" Stef don't blam yourself. He obviously has problems of his own. We'll be praying for Ty. That he takes his life,family and responsibilities more seriously. Love you."</blockquote>



Thanks. Love you, too.

1inpink3inblue Due December 7 (boy); 3 kids; Switzerland 13391 posts
May 5th '13

Honestly I would just tell him I knew he was lying and I didn't appreciate the lying and going behind my back thing. As far as the smoking goes I would drop it. He might be your husband but what he puts in his body isn't up to you. Would you like it if he told you to stop eating sweets because you could get fat and that is bad for you? No you are an adult and you know that already. Same with him.

user banned 3 kids; 3 angel babies; Indiana 75866 posts
May 5th '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting 1inpink2inblue:</b>" Honestly I would just tell him I knew he was lying and I didn't appreciate the lying and going behind ... [snip!] ... eating sweets because you could get fat and that is bad for you? No you are an adult and you know that already. Same with him. "</blockquote>



While I see your point, there is a big difference between cigarettes (a known carcinogen) and sweets. I would never tell him he HAS to quit. I don't know why people assume I'm trying to tell him what to do. That isn't what this post is about. Yes, he knows cigarettes are bad for him. Everyone knows that. This post is about the fact that he lies about it.