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Cast Your Vote:

    • I would let her wear it -- Votes: 24
    • I would not let her wear it -- Votes: 34
    • just the bathing suit/onsie is ok -- Votes: 17
    • I dont care about any of them -- Votes: 2
Tasha & Nika 2 kids; San Jose, CA, United States 16053 posts
Apr 23rd '13
Quoting she nan igans:" I wouldn't get those for her either. I clarified because being a bride takes nothing. Yes, being a great ... [snip!] ... do, rather then being told, from the start, that she is a female and thus amounts to a "future bride" or "future baby-maker.""


Like I said, I'd only put one of those on my kid if it were to be for a 'themed' event, such a wedding and the like.



But if I were to see a little girl or boy wearing them, I wouldn't feel like their future is being impacted by the matter in any distinct way. They're just words, equivalent to 'cutie'. Sure, I want my kid to be more than a 'cutie', but that's why a lot of things are going to get done in order for that to happen, a onesie or shirt she won't remember by the time she goes off to college, graduates, gets her first successful job and the like.. I just don't see it as a contributing factor

mamaluvsher4babies 36 kids; California 4230 posts
Apr 23rd '13

Ya I have a onsie thats says " I will kick your babys ass" it was given to me, I had her in it one day at home and for got I needed to got to Joanns. Rushed over there and saw a friend she said "nice onsie" Then the girls at the register said exact words " Why couldn't your kid be in here earlier! " LOL

Mama Rice 34 kids; North Las Vegas, Nevada 11987 posts
Apr 23rd '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting A❤T=P&W:</b>" It's weird how the ones who don't see an issue with the onesie are mocking those who find it offensive....like I said it speaks volumes about the parent. "</blockquote>



I wasn't mocking you....I just wondered if it applied to the rock star, heart breaker, etc.

user banned 2 kids; Georgia 24891 posts
Apr 23rd '13
Quoting ღFrodoliciousღ:" SOME of the ones. I don't care about the onesie, but I can see why it would bother others. *shrug* I ... [snip!] ... put it on mine. Just because it's not our family's style, lol. We're more into band tees and Tapout/Marvel/TMNT shirts. "


The only g*****c tee of any sort that I own is a TMNT one, lol

user banned 2 kids; Georgia 24891 posts
Apr 23rd '13
Quoting Mama Rice:" <blockquote><b>Quoting A❤T=P&W:</b>" It's weird how the ones who don't see an ... [snip!] ... the parent. "</blockquote> I wasn't mocking you....I just wondered if it applied to the rock star, heart breaker, etc."


I also take issue with pants with words across the butt, lol

Tasha & Nika 2 kids; San Jose, CA, United States 16053 posts
Apr 23rd '13
Quoting she nan igans:" Nice job with the extemes, lol. I don't think anyone is saying that a 6 month old in a shirt like ... [snip!] ... months old that shirt would harm her? Obviously not. But it's the same feelings in me that would mean I wouldn't put her in it."


Oh come on, I was just making fun of the situation.



I think clothes these days, in general are stereotyped whether we want them to be or not - girls dresses have berries, cupcakes or flowers on them, and most of the boys clothes have something sport-related on them, or vehicles. That's already an underlying stereotype, without 'Bride' or 'Champion' being printed on the stuff, ya know? I don't think that a cupcake dress is any different to the Bride onesie, just another 'gender specific' thing, if you really think about it

Tasha & Nika 2 kids; San Jose, CA, United States 16053 posts
Apr 23rd '13
Quoting A❤T=P&W:" I also take issue with pants with words across the butt, lol"


Nika had a pair that had 'Stinky' across the butt. :oops:

_______Nope_________ 23772 posts
Apr 23rd '13
Quoting Tasha & Nika:" Oh come on, I was just making fun of the situation. I think clothes these days, in general are steretyped ... [snip!] ... that a cupcake dress is any different to the Bride onesie, just another 'gender specific' thing, if you really think about it"


And I agree, which is why I try hard not to force any of that on my kids. Does it happen? Sure! But I take special exception to ones that are a way of putting women in their place. That is the entire idea behind a shirt like that. Is that what people think when they get it and wear it? No. That doesn't change that it's the mindset behind it that makes it true.



A man doesn't get married, he's a bachelor. He's okay, just wants to be free.



A woman doesn't get married by a certain age and she's a tragedy.



Society says that woman NEED to be married. I don't like that idea. It is that idea that leads to the onsie, which is why I don't care for the onsie. Will wearing it hurt my daughter? Of course not, but it still is part of a system I don't like, which means I don't care for the shirt.

Mama Rice 34 kids; North Las Vegas, Nevada 11987 posts
Apr 23rd '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting A❤T=P&W:</b>" I also take issue with pants with words across the butt, lol"</blockquote>



My DD can't wear those either. I didn't buy onesies with cuss words or gross things like the ones that say "all mommy wanted was a back rub" or other references to their creation on them either.

mamaluvsher4babies 36 kids; California 4230 posts
Apr 23rd '13
Quoting she nan igans:" I wouldn't get those for her either. I clarified because being a bride takes nothing. Yes, being a great ... [snip!] ... do, rather then being told, from the start, that she is a female and thus amounts to a "future bride" or "future baby-maker.""


Have you not seen Bridezilla!! It takes a lot of work :)

user banned Lesbos, Greece 95211 posts
Apr 23rd '13

2 pieces are easier to get kids out of than a one piece.



My kids aren't wearing clothes because they're "sexy"; they're wearing them because they like the color or pattern.

_______Nope_________ 23772 posts
Apr 23rd '13
Quoting Mama Rice:" <blockquote><b>Quoting A❤T=P&W:</b>" I also take issue with pants with words ... [snip!] ... or gross things like the ones that say "all mommy wanted was a back rub" or other references to their creation on them either."


Yeah, I don't care for those either. I got a few of them for my kids as presents, and I just found them tacky. If others what to use them, whatever. I just don't care for them.

_______Nope_________ 23772 posts
Apr 23rd '13
Quoting mamaluvsher4babies:" Have you not seen Bridezilla!! It takes a lot of work :)"


To be a basketcase bride, sure. But not a bride in and of itself. To be a bride you just need to get married, lol. ALl you really need is another person and someone to do it. Las Vegas can manage that pretty fast, lol.

☮Sugar Magnolia 1 child; Indiana 18298 posts
Apr 23rd '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Tasha & Nika:</b>" Pretty much. ... Does that mean that the 'Monster' onesie I put on my child when she was 6 months old ... [snip!] ... had an impact of her self-esteem and has potentially, shaped her personality for the rest of her life? O.O What have I done?"</blockquote>




Lol for real.




My kid has a lot of stuff that says she's cute, beautiful, princess, beauty queen, etc. Doesn't mean that's all she is.

user banned 2 kids; Georgia 24891 posts
Apr 23rd '13
Quoting Vault Dweller