I'm just kind of venting, my SO and I have been together for 5 years on April 28th. We have a 2 year old daughter and I am staying with him for my daughter to have a good life. I can't even begin to explain the things he does and the way he makes me feel but small things such as every time we fight he says I make him f**king sick, and I want to scratch his eyes out when he says that. Then comes that I don't know how to treat him and I treat him like shit. Well let me tell you how I treat him like shit, He spends all of his money on dumb ass shit for his car, then has no money for materials or gas and will freak out like well I just won't go to work then since you don't have any extra money right? Why should I have to ALWAYs give him the money because he spend it? I'm completely ok with splitting everything, helping each other when one is short but he will blow his money then waste all of mine and forget he owed it to me, then say well ok here's my whole check just take it all...but completely pissed off. He has NEVER given me gas money, I give him money f random shit all of the time and he makes much more than me. Well yesterday we are in Sacramento, he ditched me all day because he was up his friends ass watching the races. So I was just walking around with my daughter because I would of had to chase him around all day being unnoticed. On the way home, we stop at a hotel, that I'm paying for of course, I'm already pissed because we didn't get out of ere until his friend was ready to leave at 11pm, we are 3.5 hours away from home. The hotel is full and were already really tense because I was mad I was ditched all day and good thing I had some yogurt and fruit or he wouldn't have even bothered to wonder if we were hungry after 10 hours . He's just driving the wrong way pissed off because I can't find anther hotel ASAP on my navi so he's screaming at me, tells me to get the f**k out and walk home.. In Sacramento, where I know no one. And he has left me on the side of the road before after working for him all day, being yelled at because everythg I did was wrong, I didn't even get paid btw. I just feel like everything I do I have to make sure I do it right or ill get yelled at. I just can't take it anymore I feel like I'm always passed and I'm nt that kind of person, I love life,. But with my daughter, he's so sweet,makes her breakfast, takes her n walks...blah blah.. With me, I'm always doing everything wrong. I mean he can't even pick up his f**king q tips that he throws wherever he wants, but I treat him like shit Nd I don't know how to take care of him. He does nothing, no chores, no helping out, bt he's always there to tell me when I didn't clean right. I broke o with him before, and he does this doesn't go to work, making it my flat, flips out, punches holes, like makes everyone's life and my families life hell for the period we aren't together because he's like oh ill kill myself and . Besides that I found out his family was spanking my daughter so they don't see her alone anymore, and his dad just sold my engagement ring... But I wanted a break so its my fault because I wanted the break. So I guess f**k the ring nobody else cares about it. Ok sorry for the million page vent. Thanks. Lol.
Wow hun, I hope you find the strength to leave one day. For you and your daughter.
If he is a good dad and a shit partner it might be best to just leave and parent seperately
<blockquote><b>Quoting A Beautiful Disaster:</b>" Wow hun, I hope you find the strength to leave one day. For you and your daughter. "</blockquote>
Thank you, and I do too. I have been praying for the strength to leave. I wish it wasn't so much drama on my family as well.
Cut him loose, you deserve better.
<blockquote><b>Quoting Tig Ol' Bitties:</b>" If he is a good dad and a shit partner it might be best to just leave and parent seperately"</blockquote>
I wish we could do that, when I left him last, he just goes crazy and we can't even act like separated parents. Maybe with time we can work to that?
Quoting Tig Ol' Bitties:" If he is a good dad and a shit partner it might be best to just leave and parent seperately"
no, a good dad would never treat the mother of his child that way or act that way in front of his child!
Please leave. I honestly believe you deserve so much more.
Quoting Queen B*:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Tig Ol' Bitties:</b>" If he is a good dad and a shit partner ... [snip!] ... when I left him last, he just goes crazy and we can't even act like separated parents. Maybe with time we can work to that?"
get a lawyer and let the courts decide for you if he can't man up and co parent effectively.
f**k that you NEED to leave...
I think something that pisses him off lately is that I've been working out, so when I've been going to run or going to my parents to work it since we live upstars, he thinks its so stupid. He says I'm weird no that I want to wrk out, I think he's just mad I want to do my own thing.
I was in a relationship like that with my older 2s dad. Its not healthy for the kids to be in such a tense environment. Your better off as is your child to be seperated and parent separately then to be stuck in a situation that only teaches your child that's how they should have a relationship.
I know girls, I just can't, for some reason. Sometimes everything is good, lately most of the time is bad.. He just try's to it. All. Me like if we broke up he won't go to work and he's a landscaper who works for investors, one of those investors are my mom and will completely f**k her over if he doesn't show up so he try's to make that my fault and im just going nuts... Have you ever had someone turn things where it makes you look crazy?
Quoting Queen B*:" I think something that pisses him off lately is that I've been working out, so when I've been going to ... [snip!] ... upstars, he thinks its so stupid. He says I'm weird no that I want to wrk out, I think he's just mad I want to do my own thing."
He should be proud of you and glad that you are doing something for yourself. he sounds like an immature, selfish person.
<blockquote><b>Quoting Lisa Lyon:</b>" I was in a relationship like that with my older 2s dad. Its not healthy for the kids to be in such a ... [snip!] ... and parent separately then to be stuck in a situation that only teaches your child that's how they should have a relationship."</blockquote>
Exactly mama, that's what I don't want her to grow up seeing. Ugh...