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snglemama 4 kids; Georgia 11978 posts
Apr 19th '13
Quoting saageex3:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Mom of 3 Little Boys!:</b>" I have my own debit card so if I ... [snip!] ... then I just do it. He doesn't give me an allowance or anything. "</blockquote> Does he put money on it for you?"


debit card is a card that pulls directly from the bank account

JoAnna &hearts's Jett 2 kids; Midlothian, TX, United States 7883 posts
Apr 19th '13

We both have debit cards, I spend money however I want. He never says anything. He doesn't even know when the bills are paid. I manage all of that. If I see something I like I buy it, I never ask him.

NICKEL☮POLIS 2 kids; Ontario 6268 posts
Apr 19th '13
Quoting saageex3:" So this is a question about money. Does your SO give you a specific amount of money a week? Does he give ... [snip!] ... go get her stuff. I don't know if its wrong to ask for money to take DD somewhere or really how this works lol. Some input?"


We go shopping together, or he gives me his debit card or cash to shop. He doesn't limit me or anything but that's because I do the majority of our budgeting. He's sensless with money, bad with bills and he knows it lol

Ivana, VBA2C success! 3 kids; Aurora, Colorado 6834 posts
Apr 19th '13

wow all you ladies are lucky to be able to spend money willy nilly!! lol
I wish!!!

Brantley+Savannah 2 kids; Mills River, NC, United States 3119 posts
Apr 19th '13

We have a joint checking account. Both have debit cards, sometimes I wish he didn't though. We usually are always together but on the off chance I am out by myself we agree on how much I can spend or what all I am doing. Its not because either one of us are controlling its just that we both like to know exactly where our money is going and we don't like getting surprises when we check the bank. But if I go and spend like $5.00 at taco bell or get a drink at the store or something is whatever but like actually going out to like the mall or the movies I tell him exactly what im doing and about how much it will cost.

saageex3 Due August 3; 1 child; New York 6622 posts
Apr 19th '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting snglemama:</b>" confused.. you live at home with your parents.. or with him? are you guys married? I think if not ... [snip!] ... and you should be able to spend too. if you're not living together, and not married... he should be paying child support."</blockquote>




We use to live together but we split and so we lost our apartment which was super cheap and affordable for us. I live at home and he lives at his moms but we have been back together for a while now and are engaged. He knows it isn't his money so that's not the issue. It's more so of trying to figure out how to make the money work between us because we really never had to deal with this

saageex3 Due August 3; 1 child; New York 6622 posts
Apr 19th '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting JoAnna ♥'s Jett:</b>" We both have debit cards, I spend money however I want. He never says anything. He doesn't even know when the bills are paid. I manage all of that. If I see something I like I buy it, I never ask him."</blockquote>




See this is what I am trying to figure out but he handles all of his bills such as car note, insurance, gas etc and I don't have any bills so I don't really know how much goes to what. We probably should sit down and discuss it. I guess I never really thought it was a big deal until I realized that when I graduate we are moving out and I don't even know what we could afford

user banned 2 kids; New York 34017 posts
Apr 19th '13

I'm in charge of finances. I pay all the bills and i say if we can afford to go out to eat. Ifi want to buy myself or the kids something, I do . I don't need to ask.

Elle&Cole⛄️ 2 kids; 1 angel baby; Rio Rancho, NM, United States 32237 posts
status Apr 19th '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting saageex3:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting Elliot Grace's Mama:</b>" We share a bank account and I do whatever ... [snip!] ... with Sophia and have to say no when people invite me out because I have no money. How much do you think you spend a week?"</blockquote>




I spend on average like $20-40 a day lol oops

user banned Lesbos, Greece 95211 posts
Apr 19th '13

No.
I have all control over finances and money. My husband doesn't even know our bank account number.



But I have my very reasonable reason why.

saageex3 Due August 3; 1 child; New York 6622 posts
Apr 19th '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Elliot Grace's Mama:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting saageex3:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting Elliot Grace's ... [snip!] ... I have no money. How much do you think you spend a week?"</blockquote> I spend on average like $20-40 a day lol oops"</blockquote>




Lol oh lord :lol: I know we couldn't afford that but then again I really don't know what we could afford. This could evidentially become a big issue so I guess when he gets home from work on Sunday, we will discuss it all

user banned 2 kids; Bat Cave, North Carolina 64587 posts
Apr 19th '13
Quoting saageex3:" <blockquote><b>Quoting drunk mayhem.:</b>" We have a joint bank account and each have ... [snip!] ... I kind of am on an allowance type thing. I just texted him since he's at work to tell him how I felt and he caught an attitude"


Maybe the solution would be to put the tax money in a savings account, and put his paychecks in the joint count so that you actually have access to the money?

MrsRoo07 Due November 11; 17 kids; Twentynine Palms, California 381 posts
Apr 19th '13

I manage all the money/bills, but with DH being away so often it is a necessity. We have multiple joint checking, savings, and credit card accounts that I budget and manage. We both have all the passwords/info.



Seeing as you're not married, and currently living apart, I would budget what you need each month for your daughter and how much it costs, then tell him. He can either buy it, or you can.

saageex3 Due August 3; 1 child; New York 6622 posts
Apr 19th '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting LEGENDARY JAS ♥:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting Legendary Amanda:</b>" :shock: I would not deal with that, ... [snip!] ... what bills we needed to account for but I'd die if I had to ask him for money "</blockquote> Right? That's demeaning."</blockquote>




That's true. Like I said, I never really thought too much into it because he has a lot on his plate but I don't feel like that should entitle me to less. I'm not looking for 100s a month but I would just like to know that if I wanted something or to go some place, I could

user banned 2 kids; Bat Cave, North Carolina 64587 posts
Apr 19th '13
Quoting saageex3:" <blockquote><b>Quoting snglemama:</b>" confused.. you live at home with your parents.. ... [snip!] ... issue. It's more so of trying to figure out how to make the money work between us because we really never had to deal with this"


Oh, well if you don't live together, it's different IMO.