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whitney ♥ ainsley 1 child; New Hampshire 16454 posts
Apr 18th '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Supafly★:</b>" Not hers but the father's. If the father can't make sure his daughter is in safe hands, he can at least help OP out with childcare costs. OP, does he pay child support? "</blockquote>




No cause we have 50/50

user banned 3 kids; Los Angeles, California 54034 posts
Apr 18th '13
Quoting Dovahkiin:" I agree... but I just think if OP communicates her concern with ol' Nana, it might not even be an issue. ... [snip!] ... And I mean, if she goes off and says "f**k you, I'm gonna beat her ass again!" then you know, OP can do as she sees fit. "

It sort of sounded to me like she already knows the way she feels about even just spanking the kid, and disregards her. If THAT's the case...whew. How about no.



I feel like, OK, if someone much bigger than nana came over and beat her ass with a rod, she'd be pressing assault charges, not being like, "ok, well, just don't do it again and we cool." You know?

Dovahkiin 1 child; 1 angel baby; Kentucky 16776 posts
Apr 18th '13
Quoting tinana+2:" I get that plenty of people find it acceptable to beat their children with random objects but there ... [snip!] ... simple not acceptable to hit your OWN child with a rod, so why the hell should it be okay to hit someone else's child with it?"


I never said I thought it was acceptable. ALL I was saying was that it could probably be handled without involving the po'po.

Dovahkiin 1 child; 1 angel baby; Kentucky 16776 posts
Apr 18th '13
Quoting whitney ♥ ainsley:" Apparently it was the first time it happened. I guess she moved while she was being spanked and that's ... [snip!] ... comfortable with it, and she said she rarely ever has to do more than put her in time out. If it happens again ill report it."


That's up to you. I hope it never happens again. How often does she see Nana?

Dovahkiin 1 child; 1 angel baby; Kentucky 16776 posts
Apr 18th '13
Quoting Supafly★:" Gotcha. Did you call the grandmother yet? I'm really curious on what she has to say for herself. "


Something about WHEN I WAS A KID I'm sure.

Bobber Due October 1; 1 child; Manitoba 137 posts
Apr 18th '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting tinana+2:</b>" With a ROD? I would take her to the freakin hospital and have it documented, and have them call CPS right from there. That is EFFED up! That b***h wouldn't be allowed near my kid again."</blockquote>




Yep. That's what I would do too. Everything in my power to make sure it would not happen EVER again.

whitney ♥ ainsley 1 child; New Hampshire 16454 posts
Apr 18th '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Dovahkiin:</b>" That's up to you. I hope it never happens again. How often does she see Nana? "</blockquote>




Typically supervised everyday. She's with her for an hour or so 2 days a week, and then one the next. Also if I have to work straight through. Sadly I can't change my hours, my boss is good to me and I wouldn't be able to get another job making what I do and still getting tips which is what I need.

Dovahkiin 1 child; 1 angel baby; Kentucky 16776 posts
Apr 18th '13
Quoting whitney ♥ ainsley:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Dovahkiin:</b>" That's up to you. I hope it never happens again. ... [snip!] ... my boss is good to me and I wouldn't be able to get another job making what I do and still getting tips which is what I need."


Just please communicate your concerns with her. Try not to do it in a accusatory fashion, just say something like "I noticed some bruises on Ainsley and she said you spanked her with a rod. Is that true? If so, I'm really not comfortable with that. Here are some discipline actions I do at home that really work with her..." Hopefully she will listen.

whitney ♥ ainsley 1 child; New Hampshire 16454 posts
Apr 18th '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Supafly★:</b>" Gotcha. Did you call the grandmother yet? I'm really curious on what she has to say for herself. "</blockquote>




Yeah I did. I told her I was uncomfortable with it. She said that day Ainsley ran out of the house and went to play outside by herself because nana didn't get up and get her shoes on fast enough. She knows that's definitely not okay. This was after screaming for a half hour about wanting to go outside and repeatedly trying to go out by herself

Dovahkiin 1 child; 1 angel baby; Kentucky 16776 posts
Apr 18th '13
Quoting Supafly★:" Probably. Like you said, she probably doesn't see a problem. But if she has any respect for OP as a parent, she won't do it again if OP nicely asks her not to. "


Definitely.

Jays*Mama 2 kids; Michigan 5689 posts
Apr 18th '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting whitney ♥ ainsley:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting Supafly★:</b>" Gotcha. Did you call the grandmother yet? ... [snip!] ... not okay. This was after screaming for a half hour about wanting to go outside and repeatedly trying to go out by herself"</blockquote>




Abuse is never ok. And she didn't bruise by moving. .. and 3 rod marks. You only should spank once. 3 Times is more out of anger. ... but whatever guess its ok to bruise our children for not listening.

Dovahkiin 1 child; 1 angel baby; Kentucky 16776 posts
Apr 18th '13
Quoting Jays*Mama:" <blockquote><b>Quoting whitney ♥ ainsley:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting ... [snip!] ... only should spank once. 3 Times is more out of anger. ... but whatever guess its ok to bruise our children for not listening."


Um of course, bruising children is the best.

Bobber Due October 1; 1 child; Manitoba 137 posts
Apr 18th '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting whitney ♥ ainsley:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting Supafly★:</b>" Gotcha. Did you call the grandmother yet? ... [snip!] ... not okay. This was after screaming for a half hour about wanting to go outside and repeatedly trying to go out by herself"</blockquote>




So? My kid throws fits too. I wouldn't spank her with a rod three times because of it. I hope you explained there are other disciplinary techniques.

Tig Ol' Bitties Due June 16 (girl); 2 kids; 1 angel baby; d***o,, NF, Canada 4057 posts
Apr 18th '13
Quoting whitney ♥ ainsley:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Supafly★:</b>" Gotcha. Did you call the grandmother yet? ... [snip!] ... not okay. This was after screaming for a half hour about wanting to go outside and repeatedly trying to go out by herself"


She is a kid. That's what kids do, if Nana can't understand that than she is in position to be undertaking child care. She will continue to have child like meltdowns and from the sounds of things she will continue to be beat.



It sounds like Nana is making a lot of excuses and blaming the BEATING on the victim, your child.



I could really give two flying f**ks about what happened in "her day". Carseats were not manditory when I was a kid but I still put my child in one, today.



OP, I get it. You are not rich, you are stressed out, you want all this business to kind of disappear so that you can go on about your life without stressing about child care. Unfortunately however, its too late for that. Something has happened and its extremely bad and extremely damaging to your child. Please, please take pictures and document what happened. And please alert the authorites.



Tell your boss whats happening, tell a neighbour, tell anybody that you have to to save your daughter from this woman.