I am on the phone with them now.
Quoting Jeeper:" I am on the phone with them now."
I may get slack for this, but if I was honestly putting myself in your shoes I would talk to her and/or help her before calling. She was your roommate, I'd give her a chance to shape up and get her shit together first. But I also understand there is a very thin line between trying to help and going too far when help should get involved
Eta I think it's up to you and how well you know your roommate
<blockquote><b>Quoting ⚓ Sarah ⚓:</b>" I feel like this too. She should offer to watch the baby for a few days while her roommate has time to talk to someone, maybe get on meds if they decide thats the best course of action. "</blockquote>
Maybe it's just because my roommates have always been my best friends and I'd do anything for them lol. Oh college
<blockquote><b>Quoting Just Ames:</b>" True. I think she'd also know whether a talk would do any good anyway."</blockquote>
I think you guys aren't taking the child in to consideration. The baby is in really bad shape, she needs help now.
<blockquote><b>Quoting Akeema:</b>" I think you guys aren't taking the child in to consideration. The baby is in really bad shape, she needs help now."</blockquote>
I totally understand this side too, that's why I am so conflicted. But I was being totally honest, if it were me with my old roommate I would opt to help her than get CPS involved. But if something happened to the baby I'd never forgive myself either. There is no wrong choice in this situation IMO
She already offered to help that one day and she obviously didn't want her help because she left the baby alone while she took a shower. Sounds like either she needs to accept the help or CPS should get involved.. Either way, sounds like PPD and she needs to get help
Quoting ⚓ Sarah ⚓:" Because OP cant do that while the mom gets her shit together? What help is a foster home going to do ... [snip!] ... do that the OP cant? I mean I know its asking a lot of the OP but that is something I'd be more than willing to do for a friend"
She already offered to help and was told no. So I think at this point the only way this woman is going to take help and have her child saved is if they force her to.
Quoting Akeema:" She already offered to help and was told no. So I think at this point the only way this woman is going to take help and have her child saved is if they force her to."
If something does not feel right and you feel the child's health was in danger you should ALWAYS call. Best case scenario is that an investigation is done and is unfounded. I would rather be told that I was wrong about my suspicions then to do nothing and have it weight on my heart if something happened to the baby.
What did they say? I would have called too. That poor baby :(
If CPS decides the baby needs a foster home I believe you (OP) can volunteer yourself, can you not? I mean, I'm sure they'd want to check you out. Or, of course, her parents/family can take her. I don't see why she would need to go to a stranger... Def sounds like PPD. Keep us updated on mom and baby both!
CPS is going to send an investigator out within the next 24 hours. I texted her roommates to give them a heads up and someone had already beat me to the punch there was a cop at their apartment for her. I would not volunteer to foster the baby I have a baby of my own and am a single mother myself so there is no way I could do it. I just want them to make her do the right thing. I am not normally a whistle blower but I couldn't sit back and watch her kill her own baby. I really hope she pulls her act together and takes care of the baby but if she doesn't I hope they take her.