~*~*~*~ ; 1 child; Biteme, ca, United States 1716 posts
Apr 12th '13

I think your sister should apologize to your DD. She was being descriptive, that is all. She did nothing wrong, and having someone tell her she did is confusing and unnessecary (sp).

Elena Gilbert 4 kids; La Center, KY, United States 2730 posts
Apr 12th '13

i dont think that its wrong at all. your sister is stupid.. most people use color to discride someone. i have 2 mixed kids. and when my DD was in preschool another little girl (one of my friends nieces) ask her why her skin was brown. her aunt had a shit fit and called me appologizing and said that her niece would be punished for it.. SO and i both told her that we are more upset at the fact that she was punished for it. becuase she just asked a question. most kids ask that question. its not she said called her a name or anything.

Mama Rice 34 kids; North Las Vegas, Nevada 11987 posts
Apr 12th '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Tikaytasha:</b>" That's so sad your sister yelled at her :( she's just a kid and didn't know any better. Racism is taught from people like that"</blockquote>

She didn't yell at her, she told her it wasn't nice to say her skin was brown. My DD when I talked to her later she said "mommy, her skin is brown though." She knows she didn't do anything wrong.

ChavieChavo 2 kids; Pittsburgh, PA, United States 3597 posts
Apr 12th '13

saying "the brown skinned one" is not racist and no different than "the one with white skin" "the Asian one" "the light skinned one." "The tall one." "The one with red hair." "The one with curly hair" IMO . I'm always the "the tall light skinned one" when people don't know my name or need to point me out :)

Bumpachucka 2 kids; Missouri 84 posts
Apr 12th '13

Your sister was wrong but I don't think she is stupid. I think she has been programmed to automatically shut down anything that MIGHT be somehow construed as racism.

It is so common (just look at the media) to say the word "lazy" or "illegal" or mention even what the president is doing wrong and people to scream "RACIST!!". It has caused people to censor themselves (and now their children) for fear of being labeled something that you are not.

Just talk to her.

Vitameatavegamin 19 kids; League City, Texas 5829 posts
Apr 12th '13

I don't see anything wrong with it.

Reminds me of a time I saw a kid jump off a spinning amusement ride at work while it was in motions(he was small enough to get out of the lap bar O_o).

My supervisor, who happened to be black, was walking by and I immeadiately imformed him of it and in the line of kids trying to ride another ride he was the only black one. So I simply said, "It was the little black boy over there"
He goes "Oh, nice, the 'black boy'"
I was like "Well, that's the one...."
I actually think he took it as racist, which I think is ridiculous. If he had been a white boy in a line of all black boys, I would have said "The little white boy"
Lol. I don't get it.

Amelia [a Mom] 1 child; 4 angel babies; Tallahassee, Florida 18492 posts
Apr 12th '13
Quoting Mama Rice:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Tikaytasha:</b>" That's so sad your sister yelled at her :( ... [snip!] ... was brown. My DD when I talked to her later she said "mommy, her skin is brown though." She knows she didn't do anything wrong."

I would ask your sister why. Why isn't it nice to say someone's skin is brown? Is brown skin something to be ashamed of? She likely had good intentions and didn't realize that she might be teaching the opposite of what she intended.

MahmuhMahmuh 3 kids; Wichita, Kansas 6706 posts
Apr 12th '13
Quoting jazzzzz*:" Your sister is stupid.."

:!: And I have a black daughter, and a bi-racial son. I do get irritated when I hear anyone say something like "you know, the black girl" instead of learning someone's name, whether it's my kid or not.. But to try and point someone out in a crowd, no, what she said was perfectly innocent!