Quoting ♥ darah ♥:" that's a part of life. i regret it and i recommend all women stay away from adoption. it's a scam. human-trafficking with a cute name baqsically, where the mother gets nothing out of it."
Nail right on the head. And once they have the baby, the adoption agencies dont care about anything about the [birth] mother. IMO I would not want to give my child to someone that I knew [friends friends or otherwise]. It would be so much harder to do that.
Quoting ☮Sugar Magnolia:" I haven't gone through this, but I will link you to someone on here who has, and I'll link her to your post. She'll help you out and be real about how she felt."
Thank you! :)
Quoting Snotface♫[usmc]:" No one was being nasty, just honest. Don't lump everyone together because of a few jerks on here. "
Seriously! Most of these people on here think of the most positive things about adoption and dont know the hard times and what have you of adoption. I have said it before loads of times and I will again now. I wish I would have aborted my youngest child if I knew how much pain and deep depression I would be in at time. Yes I realize that nobody said it was hard. But at the same time you dont know anything about anything. You can say one thing while pregnant about how you and the adoptive parents are going to act, and whatnot, but then things happen like they suddenly close the open adoption. And many people dont realize that open adoptions arent legally binding.
Quoting Mrs.R =):" <blockquote><b>Quoting orchidlovingmama:</b>" All of the nasty comments are exactly ... [snip!] ... nasty comments,because what others say don't really bother me. I want to hear some people's experiences,and I got an answer."
Thats what I think you got, was real honest answers. Please dont be afraid to ask me anything. I will be honest with you. My son was 4 and a half when I placed my youngest son. It is really hard on the other kids that you have to go through the pregnancy. Its hard. My son has a half sister a month older than my youngest son, and he comes home from his dads and sometimes asks me why couldnt we keep him. And lately I dont know what to say. I want to repeat the script that I told him throughout my pregnancy. I hate myself for putting him through all of that. My youngest son just turned 18 months a week ago.
Quoting Yurvette [♥]:" Seriously! Most of these people on here think of the most positive things about adoption and dont know ... [snip!] ... happen like they suddenly close the open adoption. And many people dont realize that open adoptions arent legally binding. "
Exactly, they aren't. I love how everyone always says "that's such a selfless thing for you to do" etc etc. While that may be the case, that doesn't really make those words comforting.
Quoting Snotface♫[usmc]:" Exactly, they aren't. I love how everyone always says "that's such a selfless thing for you to do" etc etc. While that may be the case, that doesn't really make those words comforting. "
Right. It ruins your life because you are never truly "whole" again.
<blockquote><b>Quoting Yurvette [♥]:</b>" This. What do you want to really know about it? I have a blog that I keep to help deal with my emotions ... [snip!] ... It is VERY HARD to do. I suffer from depression too. And now PTSD due to the adoption. http://monksporkers0711.blogspot.com/"</blockquote>
Thank you for linking me your blog. It's giving me an insight of what I wanted.