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user banned New York 15996 posts
Apr 5th '13

For the people who are anti abortion most of you had a respectul opinion and I just wanna say thank you. <3

NICKEL☮POLIS 2 kids; Ontario 6268 posts
Apr 5th '13
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Gone 12345.... 2 kids; Houston, Texas 16000 posts
Apr 5th '13

I've had two abortions.. one was twins.. both times I felt awful but I did what I thought was best... abortion is a tough decision to make.. especially when others judge you, or you have protestors picketing and telling you not to murder your baby...I absolutely grieved but I wouldn't of made any other decision

The Master Due September 8; 2 kids; Perth, Australia 20023 posts
Apr 5th '13

I'll admit I only read the first 8 pages so I might have missed something ... BUT ... why is everyone assuming that all abortions are performed due to 'mistakes', life situations, or rape? So women who abort molar, ectopic, or babies with severe deformities (developing without heads, brains, hearts, livers, abdomens ... etc), aren't allowed to grieve?

user banned Lesbos, Greece 95211 posts
Apr 5th '13
Quoting Destiel:" I'll admit I only read the first 8 pages so I might have missed something ... BUT ... why is everyone ... [snip!] ... babies with severe deformities (developing without heads, brains, hearts, livers, abdomens ... etc), aren't allowed to grieve?"

Nope. Since, you know, she chose to terminate the pregnancy.

user banned 1 child; Golden, Colorado 28482 posts
Apr 6th '13

I absolutely believe they have a right to grieve. I had an abortion, and I mourned the loss of that baby. I had to do it though. To say I didnt have the right because I chose to have an abortion is asinine.

1inpink3inblue Due December 7 (boy); 3 kids; Switzerland 13391 posts
Apr 6th '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting kacti:</b>" I said I didn't want to go into details. But since you asked... Yes I was 13, my father was not apart ... [snip!] ... job, and moved 2000 miles away from all of the shit in my past. It still f**ks me up sometimes. Yea... you need to walk a mile."</blockquote>




I'm so sorry you went through that hun. My aunt went through something similar except she was 12 her father was the bd and her mother and aunt took her to get an illegal abortion. Her story and stories like yours are why I'm pro-choice. My dh is hard core pro-life and we argue the topic a lot. He sees things as black and white right and wrong because he was very sheltered as a child. I grew up hearing these kinds of things knowing that somethings are neither black nor white but grey and sometimes we must choose betten the lesser of two evils so to speak. My grandmother left her husband after that and my mom said she understood why she waited so long. She lived in a car for months with little to no food for her kids. Then lived in a tiny shack with no running water or heat. Had her kid been younger they might not have survived.

user banned 1 child; Golden, Colorado 28482 posts
Apr 7th '13
Quoting Grandma.:" Ive had losses, but I found that when I was younger, I was pro-life and angry at others for their ... [snip!] ... or thoughts.... because of my own inability to deal with my pain and grief. Now that I'm older and wiser, I'm pro-choice."


I feel like such a dickface for the brief period in time I was pro life. Seriously, I wish I could rewind and never say the shit I'd say. Now I am pro choice all the way, and really think most pro lifers are absolute d**k faces.

user banned 1 child; Golden, Colorado 28482 posts
Apr 7th '13
Quoting Blair B:" I'm pro life so it's kind of a tough question for me. I can see grieving because they regret it but I ... [snip!] ... not be as sad as someone who has just lost a baby. And I do not think an aborted baby should be called an angel baby either."


It's a good thing that your opinions don't reflect the majority of the human population. Its really not logical to think one can't really regret or mourn their decision to abort because it was "they're choice to abort the baby." BTW, it's THEIR. To not think they could be just as sad as someone who had a miscarriage is really asinine.'



I had an abortion and I grieved. That night I took the first pill caused me to have 3 days of staying in the house with my boyfriend and crying, being held by him, and heart to heart talks. We made that decision because it was the best choice but it certainly did not lessen my pain just because we made that choice. In fact I was MORE upset than when I almost miscarried my daughter.

K and N TTC since Nov 2012; 2 kids; Denver City, Texas 1890 posts
Apr 8th '13
Quoting Saffy the Dragon Slayer:" Nope. Since, you know, she chose to terminate the pregnancy."

:roll:

user banned Lesbos, Greece 95211 posts
Apr 8th '13
Quoting kacti:" :roll:"


:?:
I was being sarcastic; not serious. :oops:

K and N TTC since Nov 2012; 2 kids; Denver City, Texas 1890 posts
Apr 8th '13
Quoting Saffy the Dragon Slayer:" :?: I was being sarcastic; not serious. :oops:"

Oh. That's ok then :)

Rob's Living Dead Girl Royersford, Pennsylvania 4304 posts
Apr 11th '13
Quoting NICKEL☮POLIS:" More a discussion rather than a debate, so keep it civil please ladies. I realize a lot of people have ... [snip!] ... if you're pro life ** don't know if I worded it correctly with the 'right to grieve' but hopefully you understand what I mean."


I may not fully understand why, but yes. She should.

Rob's Living Dead Girl Royersford, Pennsylvania 4304 posts
Apr 11th '13
Quoting NICKEL☮POLIS:" More a discussion rather than a debate, so keep it civil please ladies. I realize a lot of people have ... [snip!] ... if you're pro life ** don't know if I worded it correctly with the 'right to grieve' but hopefully you understand what I mean."


I may not fully understand why, but yes. She should.

user banned 1 child; Golden, Colorado 28482 posts
Apr 16th '13
Quoting LIVE.OUT.LOUD:" I consider myself pro choice. I personally would never get an abortion but I have no issue with other ... [snip!] ... that is what you chose to do then why grieve about it? If you were going to grieve then why not chose adoption? Open adoption?"


Sorry to bring up old posts but I just came back to the thread. I have one question for you.



You don't think those who have an abortion should grieve, because they chose it.




Have you ever put an animal to sleep, or known someone who has? They get upset, or you were upset, right?



Well, WHY were you upset or why didnt you tell your friends that they shouldnt be upset because they CHOSE to put the animal down. They CHOSE to terminate the pets life.



Tell me, why can we grieve over putting pets down, but one cant grieve over an abortion? We give more dignity to pets who are put down because of ideal situations, and no one says "Well if you were just going to kill your pet when it got sick then why weren't you responsible and just not get the pet in the first place?"