I had given up dating for just over a year when I started a new job and met who is now my husband. We had to keep our dating on the downlow because it was against company policy and for the most part no one knew about us until I went on maternity leave lol. No one cares that we are together now, everyone thought it was pretty funny that we kept it under wraps for so long and they didnt know. A couple of our co-workers apologized to my hubby because they would always hit on me and bug me for a date. Because they never met my made up bf who i said I was dating.. I called the fake bf Ryan (my husbands middle name).
Quoting LayLu:" Aww, I love hearing about guys dating pregnant women and raising the kid as one of their own. I dunno ... [snip!] ... of their own. I dunno why.. I just feel like that's one of the sweetest things ever, and you definitely know he's a good guy."
:) yeah me and my mom were like why is he even wanting to? i had alot of guys tell me they wanted to be with me when i was pregnant and be there for my son blah blah blah i told every one of them well i guess we will see im not rushing and your not getting in my pants till you prove it lol they all eventually were gone in less than a month, but not my DH he stayed the whole time we talked for about 3 months did nothing but maybe held hands, hugged and a little bit of kissing nothing huge. there were of course the texting though after the 2nd month lol but once we were officially dating then i was like yup hes the one! i had a huge wall up because i been hurt in the past and i did not want my son to have men in n out of his life so i made sure DH knew that from the start and that he will be put second because my son will be number one even if we got married. he understood everything which is how i knew he was perfect for me and my son! i fell in love quick to and that scared me but he stayed by my side till i was ready :) hes pretty amazing!
Quoting Zepplin's Mommy :):" :) yeah me and my mom were like why is he even wanting to? i had alot of guys tell me they wanted to ... [snip!] ... for me and my son! i fell in love quick to and that scared me but he stayed by my side till i was ready :) hes pretty amazing!"
Aww, that's awesome. Every girl deserves a guy like that. :)
Quoting Zepplin's Mommy :):" Me and DH went to middle school together, he would always try to talk to me but i ignored him lol then ... [snip!] ... we moved in after 4 months of officially dating, been together for a year now, and have been married since feb of this year :)"
I have a friend who is very supportive of DS. We went through a HUGE party stage around the same time and pretty much lived together. I split from the house and got pregnant, he split & went into rehab. Seen him at a pizza place when he got out. He wanted to date when I 1st found out I was pregnant, but every time I keep shutting him down. He says he loves me and wants to be a positive male figure in DS's life, but idk if he wants to keep me in the friend-zone because he's always talking about whether he sees this girl, or that one, etc.But like i said, i dont know. I'm nervous ill get shut down because being in a relationship with a child is a lot to take on for a 20 year old :?
Quoting Aliana:" I have a friend who is very supportive of DS. We went through a HUGE party stage around the same ... [snip!] ... dont know. I'm nervous ill get shut down because being in a relationship with a child is a lot to take on for a 20 year old :?"
i was 20 when i was 9 months pregnant, this was my thinking when a guy said he wanted to be there for my son. If he is willing to wait till your ready, stay by your side, will not push you into anything sexual if you dont want to, and take things very very slowly then hes worth it. my thing was i wanted to see how he was once DS was born, if he stuck around, if he liked being around me and my DS, stuff like that. He was always at the hospital after i had him, well as much as i let him. He offered to stay over night with me since i was being induced so my mom was able to go home and tend to the my brother and sisters during the week since DS was stubborn and didnt come for 3 days lol but because of my wall i didnt let him. he let me have my space but took advantage of when i would ask if he wanted to hang out. any hour of the night when i was up with DS for feedings and i would text him he was always there to respond. he is a big 6 foot really big guy (not fat just big) but as soon as he was around DS he was just a huge teddy bear and love both of us from the beginning. :) great now that im typing this im becoming more in love with him and missing him very much since he is states away because he joined the military to better our future together :)
Quoting LayLu:" Aww, that's awesome. Every girl deserves a guy like that. :)"
yes they do! :) im very lucky to have him in my life! i honestly do not know what i would do without him :) we do have our moments but our love for eachother is so much greater than the bad. i went threw so many guys that would tell me what i wanted to hear and i believed them then they would break my heart. and DH has been 100% different from all of them :)
blind date!! set up by a friend from school (who i hadn't seen for years)it was her partners brother, who i had been saying no to being set up for years as the friends partner is a waste of space and i thought if he is anything like his brother NO WAY! well id gone over for dinner at there house and my now husband turned up!! (i was set up totally)!! after 1 week we have never spent the night apart and been together 11 years!! he drives me mental but he is my soul mate x
Quoting Nic Smith Lawrence:" blind date!! set up by a friend from school (who i hadn't seen for years)it was her partners brother, ... [snip!] ... after 1 week we have never spent the night apart and been together 11 years!! he drives me mental but he is my soul mate x"
The best ones drive you mental but you love them to pieces still! :) haha mines drives me insane sometimes but i wouldnt trade him anyday :)
Quoting Zepplin's Mommy :):" The best ones drive you mental but you love them to pieces still! :) haha mines drives me insane sometimes but i wouldnt trade him anyday
neither would i he totally restored my faith in the human race, he is my world but shhh dont tell him!! lol
Quoting Nic Smith Lawrence:" neither would i he totally restored my faith in the human race, he is my world but shhh dont tell him!! lol"
haha i agree! once i got pregnant i hated men because they all lied to me :roll: but he never has :) i wont tell him if you dont tell mine lol i cant let his head get any bigger than it already is hahah
My late-fiance and I met at a strip club (he was the DJ/manager). I wasn't interested in meeting anyone at the time as I had just semi-recently gotten out of an abusive, two-year relationship. I also was hesitant to even be friends with him because I figured he was probably a player of sorts. But after a few months of being friends, I gave it a chance and he swept me off of my feet. We were together four years and have a son together. He was the type of guy you see in movies; surprised me with flowers, put our son and myself ahead of him, worked hard all of the time, was beyond loyal. He was romantic and sweet and perfect.
After he passed away unexpectedly, a relationship was the furthest thing from my mind. However, a new coworker of mine asked me out several times. I had known him for a few years through mutual friends, but probably never so much as held a conversation with him before. I finally gave in after about a month of him asking, thinking going out with him and a few other coworkers for a couple of drinks couldn't cause any harm. But once again, I was swept off of my feet. He is a genuine sweetheart, just like my late-fiance was. The kind of guy who opens doors for me, surprises me with flowers, surprises my son with toys, takes us out to dinner, understands and accepts that I will always have love for my fiance, is family-oriented... I could go on.
So basically, both times I was not looking or interested, and it just happened.
Before I met my fiance, I had lots of relationships because I felt pressured to have a boyfriend (so I dated guys I didn't even like, just because they liked me and were "nice enough"). They were always jerks, cheaters, liars, and a few were abusive.
<blockquote><b>Quoting Aliana:</b>" That's how I feel :oops: I'm just scared no one will accept me because I already have a child"</blockquote>
It is something that a lot of single moms worry about, but it def wont matter when you meet the right person! Youre lucky because your son is really young and the guy you meet will feel even closer to him and be able to bond with him and possibly even feel he wants to take over as a father figure. My son was 11yo when I met my so and he didnt mind that I had a child one bit. Its been a little difficult in the bonding aspect because hes already half grown but my so does a great job. My advice would be to not involve your son in the relationship until you are absolutely sure you want an ltr with this person, and also make. Sure you have many conversations regarding how he will handle meeting and being involved in his life. If he truly loves u he will do anything to be with you and that includes accepting your baby boy. Good luck :)