co sleeping Mandy Schlatterer Due March 27 (girl); 2 kids; New Port Richey, Florida 1842 posts
Mar 28th '13

Okay so I know a lot of mothers co sleep.
With newborns, even..
And here is my situation..
I am SO TIRED! But I breast feed. And as you know, this means never sleeping more than 3 hours at a time..
I've fallen asleep BFing about 8 times now. LO is only one week old. Every time I wake up terrified, thinking one of these times I'm going to roll her over and kill her..
But every time we wake up in the same position..
I'm so irritable during the day time. Because I don't sleep enough.
Is there any science behind the thing I've heard that moms, especially BFing moms that are NOT on drugs or alcohol, are super aware of baby during sleep?
Is it truly dangerous?
I'm SO afraid to suffocate her... she's so little.. it'd take one repositioning to kill roll a parent it's my job to be sure her airways are always clear..can I really trust myself to do this in my sleep?
ANY advice or info is needed!

SaucyPoppet Due July 10 (girl); 1 child; Colorado Springs, Colorado 1172 posts
Mar 28th '13

I move a lot in my sleep, I always have. But when I had my daughter, she coslept with me until she was like 5, I never ever moved when she was in bed with me. But I know when she's not in bed with me, I move all over the place now, whether alone or with my now husband. I think our bodies are very aware even when we aren't :)

Chibs 2 kids; Missouri 12147 posts
Mar 28th '13

It depends on the person
We've coslept since birth and ds is 2 now,never rolled over on him
But babies do die from co sleeping so if you're that paranoid or dot trust yourself I would stick to letting LO sleep in their own bed

SaucyPoppet Due July 10 (girl); 1 child; Colorado Springs, Colorado 1172 posts
Mar 28th '13

You could try one of those cosleeper crib things though if you don't trust yourself not to move around a lot in your sleep, it at least saves you the trouble of getting up at night to get her and fully waking up?

Ꭶwan♥Nemo Due September 24 (boy); 1 child; Kansas City, Missouri 7526 posts
Mar 28th '13

i sleep heavy but when my son is in bed with me im hyper aware of him even while sleep.

Meli ❤ 1 child; Don't worry about it, CA, United States 31152 posts
Mar 28th '13

I have co-slept since my daughter was born & before I had her I moved all the time & was a heavy sleeper, but once she came home from the hospital and was sleeping with me, I was super aware of her and never moved. :)

Allissa Specht 3 kids; 2 angel babies; Essexville, Michigan 5736 posts
Mar 28th '13

I have coslept since day one with my LO. I am dead to the world while I sleep, except when it comes to him. He can take a deep breath and I'm wide awake. Every time he twitches I am aware of it. I know exactly where he is, and when he got there.

Betty Draper Due April 20; 1 child; Illinois 800 posts
Mar 28th '13

I've been co-sleeping with LO since he was a newborn. I would also fall asleep breastfeeding. I would be scared that I would suffocate him or he would fall etc... truth is babies and mothers have co slept for thousands of years . Most cultures encourage it except western cultures where its preferred for baby to be a crib. I never imagined i would co-slept in the same bed . When my LO was a newborn the dog would sleep on the bed with us too. Family beds co-sleeping are very common and iDK the stats abiut the dangers. For me it's a personal choice so both me and my son get sleep.

Wildflower 🌈 1 child; Oregon 7078 posts
Mar 28th '13

That is the way nature intended it to be. Babies are supposed to sleep close to the mother. Breastfeeding and co sleeping does make moms very light sleepers.
An example. I normally slept with LO in the middle of the bed, but one time I needed to nurse her on my other side because it was super full, so I put her on the edge of the bed to nurse but I ended up falling asleep and turning over on my other side, with my back to LO with her on the edge. I was dead asleep, and suddenly I flipped over and caught LO as she was falling before she hit the floor. Now obviously it was a bad idea for me to put her on that side of the bed, and I never did again, but my point was I felt her move a tiny bit and I had super fast reflexes and woke up super fast out of a dead sleep to catch her before she fell.
Unless a mother has a medical condition that causes her to be a very heavy sleeper even when co sleeping, or she is on some kind of medication, it is very safe to co sleep. That is how every other mamal on earth is made to do, why not humans? Until cribs were invinted, every mother followed her instincts and co slept. Instincts are there for a reason, because they are always right. follow or instinct momma :) I hope that goes you piece of mind, just trust yourself and try not to worry. She is safer with you than she is in a dark cold room by herself.

user banned Due October 22 (boy); 17 kids; d***o, 4998 posts
Mar 28th '13

I've co-slept since the day we came home, when he's not in bed I sleep alllll over the bed, but he's two now and still sleeps in my bed and even though he's bigger now, I wake up in the same position I fell asleep in. I don't move when he's in my bed because I know he's there, even in my sleep

♥Rach♥ 2 kids; Arizona 12877 posts
Mar 28th '13

It is true that a breastfeeding mother (who is not under the influence of drugs or alcohol) are usually very aware of their child's position and breathing.

Here are guidelines for safe cosleeping:

We've coslept with my daughter since she was born and it worked wonderfully for us.

Mandy Schlatterer Due March 27 (girl); 2 kids; New Port Richey, Florida 1842 posts
Mar 28th '13

Thanks everyone!
I've fallen asleep on our very squishy couch with a big gap in between the back and seat cushions so of course that is a bad thing..
But when done safely I think this may be a doable option :)