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How do I do it? Baby Mutilator 18 kids; Modesto, California 13001 posts
Mar 27th '13

I'm sure I'll delete this later, so it'd be nice if I wasn't quoted but it really doesn't matter..



Backstory. My SO and I have been together for 8 years. He lost his job in August and has been a lazy f**k ever since. We moved back in with my dad, and I am going to school at nights for Respiratory Therapy while he watches the kids. His unemployment has been suspended because he collected benefits while collecting paychecks before he was fired in August. (Stupid, yes). So now we have no money, I've been contemplating leaving for quite some time, and I've finally had enough. I can't sit by anymore and watch my children be damaged by his verbal abuse. We've been fighting all day, and I've told him "Get the f**k out, I don't want to be with you anymore" and he doesn't get it. He won't leave. I need to be rid of him, he's bringing me and our kids down, and I can't let him get in my way anymore. Help.

user banned (boy); 2 kids; f**king, Austria 36337 posts
Mar 27th '13

call the cops.

tinana+2 Orlando, FL, Switzerland 39387 posts
Mar 27th '13

Have your Dad give him the boot, and if that's not an option, get the authorities involved.

Baby Mutilator 18 kids; Modesto, California 13001 posts
Mar 27th '13

But then what? I mean, the cops will solve the problem initially, but what then?



The only reason I've continued with this is because I don't have anyone else to watch the kids at night while I'm inn school. I know that's a shitty reason..but I can find someone else probably.

ILOVEWINE Due April 24; 2 kids; Sweden 10814 posts
Mar 27th '13

Well you can tell him again to leave and if he doesn't call the police.

ILOVEWINE Due April 24; 2 kids; Sweden 10814 posts
Mar 27th '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Baby Mutilator:</b>" But then what? I mean, the cops will solve the problem initially, but what then? The only reason I've ... [snip!] ... else to watch the kids at night while I'm inn school. I know that's a shitty reason..but I can find someone else probably."</blockquote>




Then file for divorce?

tinana+2 Orlando, FL, Switzerland 39387 posts
Mar 27th '13
Quoting Baby Mutilator:"


He will still have rights as a father unless it's documented that he's abusive or unless he doesn't want those rights... so you'll have to pursue custody but you'll likely not get full custody unless you have that proof (of the abuse I mean).

TheyCallMeMOMMY♥ 3 kids; Albuquerque, New Mexico 6825 posts
Mar 27th '13

Ive been in this situation before, SO wouldnt leave. And he drank with the little bit of money he had (didnt bother to help me one bit) So he was an alcoholic as well. We own a house together. I moved out, I moved the kids and myself to my parents. And stayed there for 3 months. It took all that for him to get off his ass. He finally went to school to get a CDL and is now working.
I know with my SO when he lost his job he got depressed, like super depressed. I dont handle change well, so I took all my frustration out on him and all we did was fight. I couldnt even look at him without wanting to kill him. It was a mess!! But we worked through it and were better now. But like I said, I know what your going through and honestly if me leaving didnt make him snap we wouldnt be together right now.

Baby Mutilator 18 kids; Modesto, California 13001 posts
Mar 27th '13
Quoting ILOVEWINE:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Baby Mutilator:</b>" But then what? I mean, the cops will solve ... [snip!] ... inn school. I know that's a shitty reason..but I can find someone else probably."</blockquote> Then file for divorce?"


We're not married. There's a reason why we never got married. This is it.

ILOVEWINE Due April 24; 2 kids; Sweden 10814 posts
Mar 27th '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Baby Mutilator:</b>" We're not married. There's a reason why we never got married. This is it."</blockquote>




Then just tell him to leave and move on, and then go file for custody,

K and N TTC since Nov 2012; 2 kids; Denver City, Texas 1890 posts
Mar 27th '13

If YOU have somewhere else to go, then go, take your kids, and leave his ass at your dad's house (if you're dad doesn't want to make him leave). LOL. Maybe then he would get the picture... if he's stuck there with YOUR dad and doesn't know where YOU are.

ILOVEWINE Due April 24; 2 kids; Sweden 10814 posts
Mar 27th '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Ravey Candyass:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting ILOVEWINE:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting Baby Mutilator:</b>" ... [snip!] ... that simple. He's hard headed and won't believe that she actually wants him to leave . I do believe she stated this in the op"</blockquote>




Yes I'm aware. I already suggested she can call the police to remove him if he won't freely leave.

Baby Mutilator 18 kids; Modesto, California 13001 posts
Mar 27th '13
Quoting Ravey Candyass:" <blockquote><b>Quoting ILOVEWINE:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting Baby Mutilator:</b>" ... [snip!] ... that simple. He's hard headed and won't believe that she actually wants him to leave . I do believe she stated this in the op"


Wtf am I supposed to do Bri? I'm tired of crying. I'm tired of fighting in front of the kids. I'm tired of him treating Tait the way he does, now it's starting with Layla too. I'm just tired.

Baby Mutilator 18 kids; Modesto, California 13001 posts
Mar 27th '13
Quoting Ravey Candyass:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Baby Mutilator:</b>" Wtf am I supposed to do Bri? I'm tired ... [snip!] ... dad back you up if you take. Him to court for full custody? Does he hear what Kyle says? Here, I'm about to go to jm to talk"


Meet you there.