I am on a board on FB for Mothers, and someone asked something that really intrigued me.
This was the question:
How many of you mommies never told your kids about Santa, Easter Bunny, etc.? I was planning on not telling my son about them, but I'm getting a lot of crap about it from everybody. I was just wanting your opinions. Thanks!
and this was someone's response:
I don't do it with my kids. My opinion is you teach ur kids not to lie but if u tell them about them u are lying to them. And i sure as heck am not giving a fat man in a red suit credit for stuff i buy. I was raised the same and turned out perfectly fine.
So first of all, do you do this with your kids, like not tell them about Santa, Easter Bunny? Religious reasons aside.
2nd of all, do you really consider this lying to your children and teaching them to lie?
We don't celebrate any of those holidays, so I don't have to lie to them about fictional characters.
I do not teach my kids about it. We don't celebrate either.
I don't even have to worry about it. My kids went to church with my in-laws and my 2 oldest told me how "everyone lied because there is no way God or Jesus is real."
I ask the girls not to ruin it for their friends though. We've discussed that people have different beliefs and some people believe God/Jesus/Santa/East Bunny are real and that we shouldn't tell them they're not because we need to respect others' beliefs.
We celebrate all of those holidays, despite the fact that none of them have religious affiliations for us because we don't do religion.
Anyway, I think it's more about imagination. I don't think i have ever met a 12 year old who says "Don't tell me not lie you told me Santa was real when I was 5"
I tell my son the truth. That Santa and the Easter Bunny are pretend and it's fun to play pretend. He just kind of assumes that everyone thinks that, so it's not a big deal to him.
Technically yes it is a lie but its not that serious lol. Like we see the fun and cheerful side kf it. Its not like its this huge ugly lie.
We do not lie to our children either. We celebrate all the holidays but our son knows that santa, easter bunny, tooth fairy, etc are all made up characters.
In my opinion. there is a difference between a fib and a lie. you are fibbing about santa still being alive. and i see nothing wrong with keeping magic alive in my kids eyes. Most kids i know.. thought it was funny when they learned the truth.
a lie is different "your hamster died peacefully in his sleep" when you accidently let him out. then ur kid finds him outside with his guts ripped out.
Or even worse " we are going on vacation this summer ( and told this every summer) and never go"
somethings are for kids enjoyment. others break a kids spirit
We celebrate the holidays but I don
I don't feel like I was lied to about those things. And when my dd asks questions I don't say "yes they're real" I just ask her what she thinks. So when we play pretend tea party am I lying because I pretended to drink her imaginary tea and said "mmm that's good?" No. Kids don't feel lied to about imaginative play. And that's all I think Santa and the Easter bunny are.
I am sure my kids won't resent me for lying about a jolly ol' man who gives them presents.
I dont feel like I'm lying to my kids when we talk about santa and the easter bunny and other fictional characters. I believes it helps to build there imagination and allows them to be children and live in a fantasy world. I dont think anything is wrong with telling the truth either I just choose to let them believe.
Quoting Taryn - Anya's mommy:" I am on a board on FB for Mothers, and someone asked something that really intrigued me. This was the ... [snip!] ... Bunny? Religious reasons aside. 2nd of all, do you really consider this lying to your children and teaching them to lie?"
I don't do the entire Santa, Easter Bunny, all that stuff. My kids know about them, but are aware they are made up stories just like the things they watch on TV. They are no different than Mickey Mouse. Just a fun pretend game.
I do believe it's lying. It's obviously lying. I don't think it really hurts them. It is lying because you are telling them something that is not true. Make pretend means they KNOW it isn't real and use their imagination to pretend. Lying is telling them something is true that is not.
Again, it's lying, but I don't think it messing children up or anything. I just see no positives to it. I'd rather my kids know that these things are false since I see no benefits.
When it comes to lying to your kids, would you tell your child if the dog died? Say to a 3 year old?
Regarding Santa, he knows about him but I'm not sure if he thinks he's real or not. We live in Russia and here nobody thinks Santa is real, it's just something people dress up as.
Santa and the Easter bunny and what not are for fun. My son believes in them but we only do a small amount of gifts from them (like one or two) then the rest from us.
I do NOT lie to my son about anything else though. Like if medicine is going to taste good or if a shot is going to hurt or if we're going somewhere. My mom's husband is notorious for doing that last bit to my son. He ALWAYS tells him "I'll come see you later and we can play "" and then never shows up. It pisses me off to no end. My son is three and had a great memory for his age so he remembers and asks about it and I have to be the one that says sorry he never showed. And then console the hurt feelings and sometimes tears that follow :(