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CountingBlue+3 3 kids; Bridgeton, MO, United States 3781 posts
Mar 21st '13

I don't think it should be mandatory that a woman needs to have a job before having kids, but some education past high school seems like a good idea to me. Even a class or so at a time. It adds up eventually, and even without work experience, at least you wouldn't be without a degree/some higher education and only eligible for lower paying jobs. Although I know there are people who don't have degrees and make more money than those that have them...
I make more money than my husband, not a lot, but more, and if something happened to him, I would be fine on my own. It is not something that I think of all the time, but I feel better knowing I would be able to take care of my kids alone, if needed.

Crystal Gems 3 kids; 1 angel baby; Beach city, CA, United States 17670 posts
status Mar 21st '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting speaktruth2powr:</b>" I think it is extremely important for a woman to have skills. While I don't necessarily think it has ... [snip!] ... think a woman is dumb if she doesn't want to ensure she has something to fall back on. ETA: Be it education, job skills, etc."</blockquote>




Nailed it.

user banned Minneapolis, Minnesota 612 posts
Mar 21st '13

I am not judging anyone but if you are truly disabled how on earth can you take care of a child. I work an office job and it is much easier than taking care of a small child. Plus we have people working here in wheelchairs and who can barely walk working full time! Makes no sense why you can have a kid and do active things with a kid and can't work....

user banned 3 kids; Los Angeles, California 54034 posts
Mar 21st '13

Yeah. I think so. And I'm also going to go on a limb and say that being a mom doesn't count. It's not a job, it's not a marketable skill unless you're a nanny, doing daycare, etc.



All women need a skill set that doesn't include breeding.

user banned 3 kids; Los Angeles, California 54034 posts
Mar 21st '13
Quoting Susan Schultz:" I am not judging anyone but if you are truly disabled how on earth can you take care of a child. I work ... [snip!] ... who can barely walk working full time! Makes no sense why you can have a kid and do active things with a kid and can't work...."

I don't get it either.



Especially when it comes to "disabled" women who claim being a mom is the "hardest job ever." well i being an SAHM is so damn hard, why are you too "disabled" to do an easier job?

user banned 3 kids; Los Angeles, California 54034 posts
Mar 21st '13
Quoting lilmzzgreeneyez *NMOA*:" so if a woman gets pregnant unplanned while young (while in school) they have to abort??? i had my first ... [snip!] ... my oldest was born (i was 15) im just curious if this includes teens who end up pregnant or just women who are older (over 18)"


they shouldn't be made to, but clearly it's the best idea.

Destinite 2 kids; 2 angel babies; Paradise, FL, United States 35176 posts
Mar 21st '13
Quoting Dr. Paradigm Shift:" I don't get it either. Especially when it comes to "disabled" women who claim being a mom is the "hardest ... [snip!] ... being a mom is the "hardest job ever." well i being an SAHM is so damn hard, why are you too "disabled" to do an easier job?"


Easy..they want that disability check so they can stay home.

user banned 3 kids; Los Angeles, California 54034 posts
Mar 21st '13
Quoting Destinite:" Easy..they want that disability check so they can stay home."


I could respect someone who could just admit that more than the whole bullshit, "Oh, well I'm too depressed to work/I have a bad knee"...etc. Just own up to being lazy.

Destinite 2 kids; 2 angel babies; Paradise, FL, United States 35176 posts
Mar 21st '13
Quoting Dr. Paradigm Shift:" I could respect someone who could just admit that more than the whole bullshit, "Oh, well I'm too depressed to work/I have a bad knee"...etc. Just own up to being lazy. "


Pretty much. I can appreciate honesty. lol



Crystal Gems 3 kids; 1 angel baby; Beach city, CA, United States 17670 posts
status Mar 21st '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Pusherman:</b>" Yeah. This is pretty much why I don't feel that bad for women who are in shitty situations (broke) ... [snip!] ... who think that their life is and always will be perfect, that their DH makes enough money so they don't have to do shit. :P "</blockquote>




I f**king love you.sorry ladies its true.im glad i have a medical assisting background and im in school to be a medical billing and claims clerk.IN case my SO does the unthinkable.

NopeNotGonnaDOIt 6 kids; Cuba 3000 posts
Mar 21st '13

well geez I don't really have it in me to tell other people what they SHOULD be doing. Having a job doesn't necessarily equate to being ready for parenting though. Hell jobs are just here to keep us all hopelessly enslaved anyways.

Interrobang!? 6 kids; Ontario 1176 posts
Mar 21st '13

I've never had a "real job," but I can easily support myself and family if it comes to survival mode. I've worked since I was 12, mostly in the horse industry but in various other things too. But I've never had a job wageslaving for a criminal corporation or the government, ie a "real job."



Now I'm running our horse hauling business from home, and employing several other people full time to boot. If for some reason DH were to lose his job, we'd be fine on this income alone. Worst comes to worst we could change our lifestyle and go back to how we lived when we were first starting out and one/both of us were in school.



Of course I'd take any work if it came to survival, but I sincerely doubt it will ever come to that, not while I'm still physically and mentally able to do other things. We have many layers of protection around our jobs and way of life, all of them would have to fail simultaneously to put us in the position of me having to take a wageslave job.

Good Queen Bess Due December 27; 2 kids; Ontario 49564 posts
Mar 21st '13
Quoting Interrobang!?:" I've never had a "real job," but I can easily support myself and family if it comes to survival mode. ... [snip!] ... and way of life, all of them would have to fail simultaneously to put us in the position of me having to take a wageslave job."


You obviously have marketable skills, which is more what the people in this thread are talking about.

Interrobang!? 6 kids; Ontario 1176 posts
Mar 21st '13
Quoting speaktruth2powr:" You obviously have marketable skills, which is more what the people in this thread are talking about."


I know. I'm a bit defensive about it. My mother constantly berates me about never "having a real job" and threads like this tend to touch a nerve. :oops:

Amelia [a Mom] 1 child; 4 angel babies; Tallahassee, Florida 18492 posts
Mar 21st '13

I think it's the responsible thing to do. But certainly not to be made a requirement.