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user banned Due November 7 (boy); 1 child; Dayton, Ohio 26853 posts
Mar 20th '13
Quoting TmA's mommy:" It isn't his idea at all. I feel bad because we used to have sex daily. Now I have to force myself to ... [snip!] ... he tells me not to and he knows how hard this pregnancy is being on my body. I just wish he was still being satisfied sexually."


Then tell him to rub one off.
That is not a good reason to open your relationship.

mama2manyyy 33 kids; South Carolina 1823 posts
Mar 20th '13
Quoting Forrest Bondurant &hearts:" There is nothing wrong with being polyamarous! Don't listen to all these judgmental women. If this is something you both really want, talk about it. The hard part is finding the third person."


I think I will just wait till after the pregnancy and talk to him about it. I would at least like a t*******e at some point.

Mommy2ThreeLilMonkeys 3 kids; California 5005 posts
Mar 20th '13

would he be as comfortable bringing another man into the relationship instead of a women? i am just curious...

mama2manyyy 33 kids; South Carolina 1823 posts
Mar 20th '13
Quoting Forrest Bondurant &hearts:" Your DH sounds like a great guy. "


Hes a really great guy, I am very lucky to have someone so understanding.

user banned California 36390 posts
Mar 20th '13
Quoting #3dueOct*11weeks*:" would he be as comfortable bringing another man into the relationship instead of a women? i am just curious..."


Why does that matter?

user banned 1 child; :), :), United States 5380 posts
Mar 20th '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting speaktruth2powr:</b>" Ridiculous. For every one of these stories, there are thousands that work out wonderfully. That's like saying that because a husband murdered his wife, no one should get married."</blockquote>



I didn't say that's why she shouldnt do it. It just reminded me of a freaky story. I highly doubt it would go horribly wrong like that. I just don't think it would go over well, jealousy issues and such. But if it works for people, then awesome.

Julieeuhhh 2 kids; 2 angel babies; Texas 5884 posts
Mar 20th '13

Don't do it!!! We did it and it almost caused a divorce. He wasnt the jealous type at all. And now he is. It's not worth it.

mama2manyyy 33 kids; South Carolina 1823 posts
Mar 20th '13
Quoting #3dueOct*11weeks*:" would he be as comfortable bringing another man into the relationship instead of a women? i am just curious..."


I would never ask because I have zero desire to be with another man. He did ask once if I would ever give oral to another man and I let him know that would never happen.

P Pickle Pants 98 kids; California 20532 posts
Mar 20th '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting TmA's mommy:</b>" It isn't his idea at all. I feel bad because we used to have sex daily. Now I have to force myself to ... [snip!] ... he tells me not to and he knows how hard this pregnancy is being on my body. I just wish he was still being satisfied sexually."</blockquote>



I'm high risk and haven't had sex since August. 2 weeks after DH got back from a deployment with 8 months of no sex.



Neither of us are terribly upset about lack of sex and we both have VERY high sex drives.

LayLu (girl); 17 kids; Virginia 4007 posts
Mar 20th '13

If you have any sort of doubt in your mind (and it sounds like you do), you shouldn't do it.

MontanaMadness 2 kids; Small Town, MT, United States 4536 posts
Mar 20th '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting TmA's mommy:</b>" My husband has never said anything about needing someone else. I am actually the one who brought it ... [snip!] ... and I don't want to give him oral or even a h*****b. But now reading responses I am seeing that its probably a really bad idea."</blockquote>



First never try to push another women in your husband. Do not let the guilt of not being able to give your husband sex drive you to something k**e that. I was guilty too...but think of it this way you are sacrificing so much to hace his child....it's fair for him to have to sacrifice too. . If you are the interested party wait until you can enjoy the benifits of a relationship with another women. Not my style and i fear it would negatively effect a relationship but it's not a bad thing....

mama2manyyy 33 kids; South Carolina 1823 posts
Mar 20th '13
Quoting Kiki's Mommy:" <blockquote><b>Quoting TmA's mommy:</b>" My husband has never said anything about ... [snip!] ... relationship with another women. Not my style and i fear it would negatively effect a relationship but it's not a bad thing...."


It is something I have wanted for a while so its not something I am trying to force out of guilt but I think posting on here and reading the responses made me realize now is not the right time.

MontanaMadness 2 kids; Small Town, MT, United States 4536 posts
Mar 20th '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting TmA's mommy:</b>" It is something I have wanted for a while so its not something I am trying to force out of guilt but I think posting on here and reading the responses made me realize now is not the right time."</blockquote>




Yea. Probably when you are both able to fully participate would be better

usernametx Texas 19751 posts
Mar 22nd '13
Quoting TmA's mommy:" My husband has never said anything about needing someone else. I am actually the one who brought it ... [snip!] ... and I don't want to give him oral or even a h*****b. But now reading responses I am seeing that its probably a really bad idea."


I was meaning more that it seems to be coming from low esteem from you, and that if you realized you should be and are enough then you might feel differently.

mama2manyyy 33 kids; South Carolina 1823 posts
Mar 22nd '13
Quoting Mama*AtoZ:" I was meaning more that it seems to be coming from low esteem from you, and that if you realized you should be and are enough then you might feel differently."


It really isn't a self esteem issue. It is something I have wanted for a while, I was the one who brought it up to my husband and at first he wasn't too sure about it. I have not said anything to him about it lately but I had just been thinking that it is something that I want anyways and maybe now would be a good time since I am not really interested in having sex right now and he wouldn't have to go without sex and I wouldn't feel bad for not giving it to him. I know I am enough for him and he would be fine going without sex for as long as it took for me to decide I wanted it again.