How important is gift giving / celebrating A&J. ♥ 1 child; Philadelphia, Pennsylvania 5613 posts
Mar 16th '13

If you are in a relationship, do you and SO/DH do gifts for birthdays or holidays? Do you do nice little things for each other?

If you saw something he liked, would you pick it up for him for no reason?

Only on special occasions?

Or never?

My best friend has been dating the same guy for 10 years. This is his fourth time in jail, the other times really short stays. This time longer because its for armed robbery.

She called me upset because they got in a fight since she didnt have the money to pay his cable bill, until next month, and he was mad that she spent all her income tax money from last year. (Lol)
I told her it was okay, and she shouldn't feel obligated at all to pay for his cable bill when he's in jail. She doesn't even watch cable at all, since she doesn't have time working 60 hours a week and going to school.

I asked her, what nice things has he ever done for you? And she said he bought her sneakers when she was fifteen, and a purse when she was 17. When they got in a fight the next year he dumped all her stuff out took it back and sold it.

I said. Nothing for your birthday or for Christmas? And she said no, never. "I'm used to that."

user banned Lesbos, Greece 95211 posts
Mar 16th '13

We don't do anything for special days really but both of us do pick up things here and there to let the person know we're thinking of them.

NICKEL☮POLIS 2 kids; Ontario 6268 posts
Mar 16th '13

Never thinks of her ever? But yet he expects her to pay his bills? .... What a keeper.
You don't have to go over board for holidays or anything but to never think of your spouse ever.. even if it's just picking them up their favourite magazine on a whim.. yeah you can see who cares more in that relationship.

username1 1 child; Chicopee, MA, United States 30921 posts
Mar 16th '13

not important at all. i think theres only been a year when we exchanged for christmas in the past 7 years

The Doctor 2 kids; Boulder, CO, United States 60775 posts
Mar 16th '13

We buy gifts when we have extra, or when we know the other person wants something. Not just for the sake of giving gifts.

Like... I got 10 pairs of fuzzy socks for Christmas. It was awesome. Some holidays we don't exchange gifts, sometimes we get each other something just because.

I don't necessarily think that gifts are important. But acknowledging the other person definitely is (I was with someone for a few years who never even said Happy Birthday. THAT was hurtful.)

Noneya Business 2 kids; Pennsylvania 12942 posts
Mar 16th '13

SO loves to surprise me with things. He knows I'll never ask for anything and he loves that I appreciated it no matter what. Like recently he bought me a matching sweatshirt. He bought me flowers on Valentines Day. The other day after my surgery he got my a Shamrock Shake because he knew I was craving it. He also bought me my favorite perfume that I haven't had in years because I couldn't afford it. Now, I think he's getting flowers delivered to me today lol He's too much.

But I also do little things for him too. I'll buy him his favorite foods or bake him banana bread or cookies. We just like to do small things for each other. I'm making him a body pillow and a quilt for everything he's done for me.

JoAnna &hearts's Jett 2 kids; Midlothian, TX, United States 7992 posts
Mar 16th '13

We really don't get stuff for each other. If I find something he likes while I'm out shopping I buy it. But what the hell is she doing paying a cable bill for someone in jail? He's in freaking jail. He doesn't deserve that!

Viv ♥ 3 kids; ., TX, United States 15559 posts
Mar 16th '13

We buy stuff for each other if we can. Make special dinners on bdays. Stuff like that. I get him random stuff all the time. He buys stuff he wants and never what he needs. Like his shirts will be worn down but he will buy a video game instead of a few shirts, so I'll buy 'em :)