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Cast Your Vote:

    • yes automatically makes you privelaged -- Votes: 16
    • no does not automatically make you privelaged -- Votes: 40
    • depends -- Votes: 26
❥New Beginnings Due September 2; TTC since Jul 2012; 1 child; California 16189 posts
Mar 15th '13

believe it's a privilege. Not everone is privileged enough to be able to afford that.


on a side note I did not know you could get disability for being pregnant

Destinite 2 kids; 2 angel babies; Paradise, FL, United States 35185 posts
Mar 15th '13

It is a privilege when you can afford to take the time to be at home with your kids. (If that is what you want to do).
It sounds like this person is juicing of the system to be a SAHM, which I don't agree with.
Pregnancy is not a disability.

B♡ 3 kids; 1 angel baby; ,, ,, United States 17936 posts
Mar 15th '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting LEGENDARY JAS ♥:</b>" Its a privilege. Being a SAHM is no one's right. Not everyone is able or wants to stay home with their ... [snip!] ... who says something negative about being a working mom or SAHM is fighting with a deep insecurity about their current situation."</blockquote>




that is how the girl came off. I took how she said it as an automatic assumption that I wouldnt knkw much because I am simply an SAHM. I feel that both SAHM and working moms have pros and cons but one is not above the other.

ERMAGHERD BEEDS! 3 kids; Philadelphia, Pennsylvania 4103 posts
Mar 15th '13

I don't understand. Are you asking if being a SAHM makes you privlaged in that its a privlage to spend the time at home with your kids, or are asking if only "privileged" (wealthy?) people are stay at home moms?



Anyways, it is a privlage to be able to be home with my daughter and step kids, I try to stay grateful for it because I know SO would love to be able to do it. On the other hand, we are mostly doing things this way, with me staying home and him working, because if I were to get a job right now it would probably just cover the cost of daycare.



Also SO doesn't want DD in daycare yet, but he very rarely admits it.



Anyways, I'm going back to school in the fall and I consider THAT a privlage too!

Vitameatavegamin 19 kids; League City, Texas 5829 posts
Mar 15th '13

I think it's very circumstantial, and also very dependent upon the person's personality.

user banned 2 kids; Georgia 24891 posts
Mar 15th '13
Quoting LEGENDARY JAS ♥:" Why is that? Do you only have one vehicle? I always get lost in the sauce when some SAHMs start complaining that they never go any where...you don't literally have to stay at home."


:!:

The Dandelion Rapist 18 kids; New Mexico 6885 posts
Mar 15th '13
Quoting Just Ames:" Wait....if you worked you'd still have to show up with a headache or while sick, lolz. Life just sucks that way sometimes. There is no way around it."


I agree you do. I was just using those as examples. :)



I do agree that it is a privilege to be able to stay home but, I in no way, shape or form feel privileged.

B♡ 3 kids; 1 angel baby; ,, ,, United States 17936 posts
Mar 15th '13

ok so explanation on how I think she meant privelaged... that I have it in some way easier or better... and I also feel that she was in some way demeaning our knowledge about the work place when it came to me asking for an explanation on the disability thing.

~*~*~*~ ; 1 child; Biteme, ca, United States 1716 posts
Mar 15th '13

The question at hand does not have a clear cut answer for me. There are privelages and disadvantages to both sides, and each SAHM has a different reason and way of looking
at it. This is why I picked depends.

Smokey_Taboo Due April 22; 1 child; California 5480 posts
Mar 15th '13
Quoting LEGENDARY JAS ♥:" Why is that? Do you only have one vehicle? I always get lost in the sauce when some SAHMs start complaining that they never go any where...you don't literally have to stay at home."

We only have one car, but my town has a great bus system and we can walk to most parks or libraries. It wouldn't make sense for us to have 2 cars in a one income family..

user banned SAN FRANCISCO, CA, United States 24574 posts
Mar 15th '13
Quoting LEGENDARY JAS ♥:" Why is that? Do you only have one vehicle? I always get lost in the sauce when some SAHMs start complaining that they never go any where...you don't literally have to stay at home."


What!? "Stay at home mom's" don't actually stay. at. home.!? Next you're gonna tell me baby sitters, don't really sit on babies! ;]

Turtley Mikey Due October 31; 2 kids; California 50611 posts
Mar 15th '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting .chele.:</b>" What!? "Stay at home mom's" don't actually stay. at. home.!? Next you're gonna tell me baby sitters, don't really sit on babies! ;]"</blockquote>




Bwhahahahahahah!!!!

The Dandelion Rapist 18 kids; New Mexico 6885 posts
Mar 15th '13
Quoting LEGENDARY JAS ♥:" Why is that? Do you only have one vehicle? I always get lost in the sauce when some SAHMs start complaining that they never go any where...you don't literally have to stay at home."


Yes.. We only have 1 vehicle. DH works about 30 minutes away and has to leave at about 5:30 AM to go to work. It would be too much of a hassle to get the kiddo's up to take him to work in the morning.



On top of that he works 13 hour shifts Monday, Wednesday, and Friday. Not to mention as much over time as possible so we can live comfortably.



I do what I can during the day to take the kids out of the house. There is a park up the street and since the weather has been beautiful lately I have been taking the kids there.



I guess I just miss when I lived in Arizona. Aaron worked 48 hour shifts, and my dad lived with us. So I would take Aaron to work in the morning without having to get DD up and ready. Not to mention it was nice being able to come and go as I please. Everything in that area took only 10 minutes driving distance.



I guess I have just been miserable since we came out to Albuquerque. :cry:

Tasha & Nika 2 kids; San Jose, CA, United States 16053 posts
Mar 15th '13

Well, it depends on how one would define 'privileged'



I certainly feel lucky to be a SAHM now.. because I know what it's like to be a working mom and barely see my child.

LoveMyBubbaBoy Due October 4; 2 kids; 3 angel babies; Michigan 3214 posts
Mar 15th '13

DH works 2 jobs for me to stay at home because it's what is best for us. I don't get to just spend the day shopping and spending money or anything like that. My "job" is budgeting groceries to the penny and keeping our bill under $40 a week. Also making sure the house is in order (which when you are home all the time and living in it, it's harder to do than when I was working. lol).



Sure some people who are married to people with really great jobs get to do more fun things, but I wouldn't call it privileged. I love being able to raise my children and not miss anything so I guess that's a privilege. But we didn't try for our first until we were sure I could stay home and we'd be financially ok.