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Vivialopod 2 kids; Vantaa, Finland 42788 posts
Mar 9th '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Smally and Smish:</b>" Hey ladies. Just here to throw my two cents in. My 6 month old has Down syndrome. For all you ladies ... [snip!] ... have definitely considered it. Thank God he is here. He has change our lives and I truly wouldn't have it any other way. Xoxo"</blockquote>



Wishing a special needs child on someone is pretty fucked up

♥MOBAS♥ 2 kids; 1 angel baby; California 7198 posts
Mar 9th '13
Quoting 6 til Gwen:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Smally and Smish:</b>" Hey ladies. Just here to throw my two ... [snip!] ... truly wouldn't have it any other way. Xoxo"</blockquote> Wishing a special needs child on someone is pretty fucked up"


Who did that?

♥MOBAS♥ 2 kids; 1 angel baby; California 7198 posts
Mar 9th '13
Quoting ⚓ Sarah ⚓:" I didnt even see that the first time I read it and shes calling somoene else the b***h/ wow"


See what?

♥MOBAS♥ 2 kids; 1 angel baby; California 7198 posts
Mar 9th '13
Quoting ⚓ Sarah ⚓:" The one that wrote out her story and posted the picture She said in her post I hope y'all are blessed enough to have a special needs child to love the way I love mine"


What she said is "I hope you are all blessed enough to love and adore a person with special needs the way I do. It is life changing."



I can not speak for her personally but I know she is NOT wishing a special needs child on anyone. What I think she is trying to say is that babies, kids, adults with special needs can change your life and they way you view it. I think there is a bit of overreaction to her sharing her experience as a mom.

S U Z I E 3 kids; Venezuela 18567 posts
Mar 9th '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Sonia[MOBAS]:</b>" What she said is "I hope you are all blessed enough to love and adore a person with special needs the ... [snip!] ... can change your life and they way you view it. I think there is a bit of overreaction to her sharing her experience as a mom."</blockquote>




Exactly.

Rachelbabyxx 1 child; Nottingham, United Kingdom 405 posts
Mar 9th '13

Continue it's your flesh and blood I could never terminate a baby no matter what.. but it's your choice no one else's!

_______Nope_________ 23772 posts
Mar 9th '13
Quoting Smally and Smish:" Hey ladies. Just here to throw my two cents in. My 6 month old has Down syndrome. For all you ladies ... [snip!] ... have definitely considered it. Thank God he is here. He has change our lives and I truly wouldn't have it any other way. Xoxo"


I'm glad it's worked out well for you.



However, this is a big difference between seeing something once it's done, and deciding on it before hand. Most women who have children as teenagers would say they love their child, it was a blessing, they are happy they had them, but that doesn't mean it was a choice others SHOULD make. Making the best of a situation is great. Of course you can love dearly a child with SN. That doesn't mean that it's better or worse then a child without SN's. Those same things, the patience, the experience, come more from parenting, and while YOU are happy, not everyone else may be.



I think your post sort of wreaks of a self assured "I know so much more then others" guilt trip. Again, I'm so glad that it's work out well for you. That's wonderful. However, the way you talk implies basically that EVERY person should do as you did or it devalues your choice. That isn't the case. I had a NICU baby. I learned SO MUCH from having a NICU baby, from the tears, the joys. Having to deal with developmental delays and everything else. I am thankful I had her, but I wouldn't wish it on another person. It was just being a parent, and I don't think other parents learn less or are less for not having gone through that experience.

.nnnb British Columbia 18155 posts
Mar 9th '13

I never wished a special needs child on anyone I said I hope you one day love someone with special needs the way I do.

.nnnb British Columbia 18155 posts
Mar 9th '13
♥MOBAS♥ 2 kids; 1 angel baby; California 7198 posts
Mar 9th '13
Quoting she nan igans:" I'm glad it's worked out well for you. However, this is a big difference between seeing something once ... [snip!] ... was just being a parent, and I don't think other parents learn less or are less for not having gone through that experience. "


First of all I asked her to come in here. I don't understand why everyone is making her post out to be so much more than it should be. I asked her to come in here and give some insight on what is now her life since having a son with DS. It is fine if you don't agree or care but to assume she is doing something other than sharing her life with you, you are wrong.

Allissa Specht 3 kids; 2 angel babies; Essexville, Michigan 5736 posts
Mar 9th '13

I was in this situation with this pregnancy. The doctors told me my son would most likely have Downs, and told me I COULD terminate (but implied I should). I switched doctors obviously, and refused the termination. At 22 weeks I saw a perinatologist who, after a thorough screening, ruled out Downs Syndrome. I found that even if he would have had Downs, it wouldn't, have changed how much I loved him, or the fact that he was my child.

Idlehands 2 kids; Perth, Australia 6121 posts
Mar 9th '13

I would terminate. It's not a decision I would take lightly but it is the choice I would make.
I know beautiful people with DS and other SN and they are gorgeous people. I could not imagine not having them in my life but I cannot make a decision based on a pre-existing life. I would be basing it on a foetus in utero. I have also known many low functioning DS to pass away at young ages, in extreme pain and sadness from further complications of DS.



I would never judge any one else's decision to keep or terminate, so I would hope that others would respect my decision is my own and not theirs to judge.

Princess Celestia +1 TTC since Nov 2014; 1 child; Tallahassee, Florida 3681 posts
Mar 10th '13

Depending on how far along I was, I'd terminate or find a great adoptive family.

[Doe Eyed Dirty Lurker] ; 18 kids; noneya, TN, United States 3252 posts
Mar 10th '13

Its odd...reading the topic I was leaning towards terminate. Then my sleep deprived ass recalled I refused the test with this one. Apparently it doesn't matter to me as much as I thought it did. I think if I did somehow find out early on I would have though...

Thread Killa 3 kids; Ocala, Florida 9822 posts
Mar 10th '13

I refused testing with my daughter. I wanted her no matter what. I was doing a home birth and now realize how stupid it was not to pre screen. I paid for a 3D ultrasound and found something odd that wasn't detected with my first anatomy scan. I had to get a level two done and we found out that her intestines never attached together and she had a hole in her lower chambers of her heart. Both things were common with Down syndrome. By this time I was 31 weeks and there was nothing I could do even if I wanted to. I didn't get any further testing til after she was born and it turned out she had that extra chromosome. I am so happy she was given to me. It's not for everyone and I understand some people can't handle the thought of raising a special needs child. To me it just came naturally.