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Drunk Blair Waldorf 2 kids; Alpharetta, Georgia 19630 posts
Mar 3rd '13

My grandfather and great grandmother were racist, but they were polite enough not to say things openly in front of us until we were adults.

My parents raised us to treat everyone equally and to see no differences in people based on skin color.

I raise my kids the same way. We don't tolerate judging people based on their skin color. If my parents or my SO's parents (who are deceased so this is completely hypothetical) were openly racist and refused to tone down the language around my children, I would not let them around my children while they were still young and impressionable.

It's completely different if they're willing to tone it down around my kids.

mamaluvsher4babies 36 kids; California 4230 posts
Mar 3rd '13

My granmother is racist against mexicans..she wouldnt talk to me for 9 years cause my son is half hispani..then she met him and fell in love with him and she changed her views..she still is a stuck up b***h though

Subtle As A Hurricane 2 kids; Texas 4135 posts
Mar 3rd '13

I refuse to be around people that act that way, and there is no way I'm going to let DD hear that. The relationship would be limited to birthdays, holidays, and other special occasions. Once she was older and knew that racism was wrong, I'd let her spend more time with them if she wanted.

Gone 12345.... 2 kids; Houston, Texas 16000 posts
Mar 3rd '13

definitely not and I think people who continue to be around such ignorance and say nothing are just as guilty..It's completely unacceptable and I refuse to allow my children to be surrounded by such ignoranceor think it's okay because they may be family

Taryn - Anya's mommy 2 kids; 1 angel baby; Toronto, Ontario 49464 posts
Mar 3rd '13

My dad is racist, but he keeps his mouth shut most of the time, and I know him well enough that if I think he is going to say something, I tell him to keep it quiet around my children.

**Quinn** 1 child; f**k it, CA, United States 5205 posts
Mar 3rd '13

My BIL is openly racist. He has a s******a tattooed on his head :roll: We see him often, usually once a week or so. He's learned not to talk about it as much with us. We won't keep our children from him because I believe they have a right to know their family, but I will ask him to refrain from the comments and we will teach our child that it's wrong.

user banned 2 kids; Iowa 7762 posts
Mar 3rd '13
Quoting Vodka Knockers:" If either your parents or your child's father's parents were openly racist, would you be comfortable ... [snip!] ... your child. Said grandparent is not willing to change, as they believe they are exercising freedom of speech. Just curious."

Nope, not at all.
But DH is hispanic (although we joke about him being the "whitest" mexican ever, lol). So therefore our kids are white/hispanic. I've already chewed out my sister for making racial jokes and slurs towards other races.
I told her it doesn't matter if she's talking about a race that is not hispanic, I don't want my children thinking their Auntie is a racist (she's not, she just finds raunchy humor funny).

TheNuge 1 child; Pennsylvania 23152 posts
Mar 3rd '13

It depends on what you mean be "be around." I doubr we'd spend much time there is the slurs were frequent. and, i'd want to be around and not leave her with them.
So sad.

624582 Neilton, Washington 9312 posts
Mar 3rd '13

My FIL spouts n****r, wet back, beaner, coon, chink and so on...but he's too big of a p***y to say it outside of the comfort of his own home.

No, I'm not okay with DS being around him, but it's more than just that.

delightfully mad Slut, Sweden 146 posts
Mar 3rd '13

No. We wouldn't either.

OH's parents are becoming racist. They weren't when OH was growing up, though they weren't particularly accepting either, they were just neutral. But they've gotten in with some megachurch that's almost all white (I think my MIL, being Greek, is the darkest person in that church), super conservative, anti-gay, anti-immigrant, the whole "Christian nation" shebang. It's changed them. The racist part has been just the last few years, maybe a response to the Obama thing? Who knows. All I know is that when we met 14 years ago, they were NOT like this, now they're getting worse and worse.

I'm not even angry about it. I'm not cutting them off spitefully. I'm just sad that my kids are becoming increasingly isolated from their grandparents. On the one hand I'll tolerate a lot of BS in the name of my kids knowing their grandparents. On the other hand, when my 8 year old comes home telling us that we need to get guns because Obama is going to send the military into peoples' home and take away private property, and mommy and daddy don't care about her safety because we just let it happen and voted for it, I have to draw a line somewhere.

Vivialopod 2 kids; Vantaa, Finland 42788 posts
Mar 3rd '13

My great Grandma was racist, but not in a hateful way. In a grew-up-in-Texas-in-the-30's unthinking way. If she was hateful, as much as I loved her, I wouldn't have wanted to be around her or have my kid around her. As it was, "omg Grandma. You can't say that!" was said a lot :lol:

KissMeFinnNelson<3 1 child; 2 angel babies; Glasgow, Scotland, UK, United Kingdom 5419 posts
Mar 4th '13

No my children would not be around them and I wouldn't be around them either. I take racism, homophobia, etc very seriously. DH actually had a close friend who was around our house all the time, he was really very good to us with helping us move, etc until he became increasingly racist and started making comments all the time. I a few times brought it up to him that I did not find his language about other races acceptable, he just laughed and continued it. Well he doesn't come in my house any longer, I don't tolerate that behaviour.