Cast Your Vote:

    • Yes, I would want to know -- Votes: 63
    • No, I would prefer not to know -- Votes: 31
laurenmik 3 kids; Aurora, Colorado 7225 posts
Feb 26th '13

Cheating is not okay, ever.
I'd probably leave him and he'd be better off not living with that guilt forever.

K. P. Walsh Due August 5 (girl); Japan 1385 posts
Feb 26th '13
Quoting MommyToWesley:" I don't think being married really has anything to do with it. You're basically saying that if you're ... [snip!] ... alcohol in almost 2 years. I wasn't tempted in the least to have sex with another man, and spurned any advance with no thought."

No, that's not what I'm saying,
BUT, if you're married, getting drunk if you KNOW you're a flirt when you drink, and YOU KNOW your inhibitions are lowered and you KNOW you're going to be really drunk, that's STUPID.
And, sorry, I don't believe if you're married you should ever put yourself in a position like that.

......... nowhere, NW, United States 25972 posts
Feb 26th '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Bangtail:</b>" You're right, you don't know what's going through someone's head. But, if it's going through their head ... [snip!] ... did anything that could put my marriage in jeopardy. Even when drinking, I always think how I'd feel if the tables were turned."</blockquote>

Having issues, no doubt. I absolutely agree. But it doesn't mean your marriage is necessarily unsuccessful.

I know if I hadn't had an affair almost 7 years ago, I'd be divorced right now.

......... nowhere, NW, United States 25972 posts
Feb 26th '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Bangtail:</b>" I think if you make the choice to stay with someone after something like that, then you can't hold it ... [snip!] ... If after that, she still can't let it go, she needs to move on or she will make everyone miserable, including herself."</blockquote>

I agree.

Wiggity Wack 1 child; Connecticut 10780 posts
Feb 26th '13

I would want to know. I don't want a marriage built on lies. I don't know if I'd be able to get past it, but I'd want to know. I don't really buy the whole, "I was drunk and I didn't know what I was doing" line. Getting drunk lowers your inhibitions. It doesn't make you forget who you are, and it doesn't make you forget that you are married.

user banned 3 kids; Los Angeles, California 54034 posts
Feb 26th '13
Quoting Back to Noob Status:" :!: I don't care if it was a one-time thing. Once that trust is broken, it can never be as it was before."

Right. You don't get an "Oh, I was drunk." free pass to stick your wang in someone else.

I'd feel grossed out and degraded and I couldn't respect myself for staying with a cheater-no matter the circumstance.

NICKEL☮POLIS 2 kids; Ontario 6268 posts
Feb 26th '13
Quoting Smartass *TTC*:" Your husband goes out, gets drunk, and has protected sex with another woman. He feels HORRIBLE. He ... [snip!] ... his life. I am Jesus and I can 100% gaurentee you that it will never happen again. Do you want to know that he cheated?"

Yes because regardless of all of those factors I would still have to leave. For the simple fact that I could never forgive him, and it wouldn't be fair to he, nor I, nor our children that I stay with him.. I would be miserable and in turn treat him like shit.

nothingness Arizona 3578 posts
Feb 26th '13

If we were married, yes, if not then no because I'd leave and never get over it.

lacTAYtor. ☮ 3 kids; North Carolina 4500 posts
Feb 26th '13

I would want to know. And I would leave him. I don't care if he 'would never do it again', he should've never done it in the first place. Trust is THE single most important thing and respect comes in at a close second and I, personally, would feel like our relationship had neither.

Man. Bear. Pig. 2 kids; Arizona 25443 posts
Feb 27th '13

There's a reason he strayed in the first place. I would want to know why so we could fix whatever issue we were having.