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    • Yes, that would definitely bother me -- Votes: 63
    • No, that wouldn't bother me -- Votes: 16
Dovahkiin 1 child; 1 angel baby; Kentucky 16776 posts
Feb 23rd '13

Maybe I am analyzing it too deeply. I just feel like $50 is kind of a lot on a surprise gift for a work friend...

Snotface 1 child; Storybrooke, ME, United States 34017 posts
Feb 23rd '13

That's a bit much and yes, I would be bothered by it. I guess it really does all depend on how long they've been friends, though.

user banned Altadena, California 11084 posts
Feb 23rd '13
Quoting SavageDarling
user banned TTC since Apr 2014; 2 kids; Middelfart, Denmark 15320 posts
Feb 23rd '13

Yes. That's not a normal platonic gesture. While he may not be interested, her actions state that she is.



Did you tell your husband that it made you uncomfortable?

Dovahkiin 1 child; 1 angel baby; Kentucky 16776 posts
Feb 23rd '13
Quoting Red Bottom:" Yes. That's not a normal platonic gesture. While he may not be interested, her actions state that she is. Did you tell your husband that it made you uncomfortable?"


I did. He told me I have nothing to worry about. I trust him completely, I just feel kind of weird about it, like she is crossing a line. It's certainly something I would never do.

user banned California 36390 posts
Feb 23rd '13

No because I'm like that. I love seeing my friends happy.

user banned TTC since Apr 2014; 2 kids; Middelfart, Denmark 15320 posts
Feb 23rd '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting bbbt:</b>" I did. He told me I have nothing to worry about. I trust him completely, I just feel kind of weird about it, like she is crossing a line. It's certainly something I would never do. "</blockquote>




I'm sure you have nothing to worry about, but did he have an opinion on it being weird too?



What was the gift?

SavageDarling 3 kids; Webster, Massachusetts 10381 posts
Feb 23rd '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting bbbt:</b>" Maybe I am analyzing it too deeply. I just feel like $50 is kind of a lot on a surprise gift for a work friend... "</blockquote>



Maybe she got an awesome deal on it or happened upon one for free or something and just thought she'd be nice.

Snotface 1 child; Storybrooke, ME, United States 34017 posts
Feb 23rd '13
Quoting bbbt:" I did. He told me I have nothing to worry about. I trust him completely, I just feel kind of weird about it, like she is crossing a line. It's certainly something I would never do. "


In my opinion, especially if they haven't been friends long, that is crossing a line.

Dovahkiin 1 child; 1 angel baby; Kentucky 16776 posts
Feb 23rd '13
Quoting Red Bottom:" <blockquote><b>Quoting bbbt:</b>" I did. He told me I have nothing to worry about. ... [snip!] ... I'm sure you have nothing to worry about, but did he have an opinion on it being weird too? What was the gift?"


He seemed surprised but not really uncomfortable.



It was a baseball cap.

*KatteyBug* 2 kids; My City, AL, United States 2706 posts
Feb 23rd '13
Quoting bbbt:" I did. He told me I have nothing to worry about. I trust him completely, I just feel kind of weird about it, like she is crossing a line. It's certainly something I would never do. "


If you trust your husband I wouldn't worry too much. Since you let him know that it bothered you, maybe next time (if there is one) he can politely refuse to accept it?

user banned California 36390 posts
Feb 23rd '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting bbbt:</b>" He seemed surprised but not really uncomfortable. It was a baseball cap. "</blockquote>




Maybe she had a coupon for it? It seems like such an innocent gift.

user banned TTC since Apr 2014; 2 kids; Middelfart, Denmark 15320 posts
Feb 23rd '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting bbbt:</b>" He seemed surprised but not really uncomfortable. It was a baseball cap. "</blockquote>




Yeah that's just weird and creepily thoughtful.

Dovahkiin 1 child; 1 angel baby; Kentucky 16776 posts
Feb 23rd '13

Yeah, I'm probably just reading too much into it... I trust him so I know there's nothing to really worry about. I just thought it was kind of.. random. I don't know, I would never do that. Maybe I'm a stingy friend? :lol:

SavageDarling 3 kids; Webster, Massachusetts 10381 posts
Feb 23rd '13

I have gotten similar gifts for my male friends before and I'm certainly not interested in any of them. Lol I'm happily married. But if I see something that I KNOW someone has been looking for, I'll pick it up for them. If a friend of mine had told me about a baseball cap he wanted and I happened to see it on sale or something, I would totally pick it up for him. No alterior motives here.