<blockquote><b>Quoting kr.r:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting Ryloonjimama:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting lamr - ... [snip!] ... he was going to keep it a secret is what's bad. He shouldn't be doing something he knows would crush me in the first place."</blockquote>
I fully agree.
We all have things that we don't like & I hate seeing women on here downgrade another woman's feelings just because they don't have that same view on that thing.
I mean, I don't care what it is, if someone posted and said they were upset because their SO ate cheese behind their back & they absolute hate their SO eating cheese... As silly as that would seem, she's entitled to feel the way she does... and when you commit yourself to someone, you need to be prepared to make sacrifices and do (or not do something) whatever you can to make that person happy. No one deserves to be lied to "just because he knew she might be angry."
Quoting InkDMomma:" Guys talk, guy talk. They don't act/talk that way with us the same as they do their buddies. I mean... ... [snip!] ... heard the way DH talks with his friends and it surprises me but still... it's just what he does with the guys it's whatever."
Yeah and I understand that I guess, that was just the cherry on top of the sundae I guess. The main part is the part where he avoided telling me he went to a strip club, which I probably wouldn't have been entirely happy about since he didn't answer his phone the couple times I called (now I know why), and since he didn't tell me on the way, but I would have gotten over it fairly quick. Versus finding out two weeks later.