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**GONE *D & S's Momma * 2 kids; 2 angel babies; Winter Haven, Florida 1889 posts
Feb 16th '13

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user banned 33 kids; Blytheville, Arkansas 7534 posts
Feb 16th '13

Fighting immaturity with immaturity is definitely a good way to fix the communication issues in your marriage.Keep at it, girl. You should be proud of yourself.

user banned (boy); 2 kids; f**king, Austria 36337 posts
Feb 16th '13

Sounds immature.

homes cool Due July 25; 2 kids; 2 angel babies; Indiana 63165 posts
Feb 16th '13

I'm sorry he has hurt your feelings so consistently in the past, sounds like there's more to the story -- ya know? Have you guys ever tried to work on this stuff?

*D & S's Momma * 2 kids; 2 angel babies; Winter Haven, Florida 1889 posts
Feb 16th '13
Quoting The Andromeda Strain:" Fighting immaturity with immaturity is definitely a good way to fix the communication issues in your marriage.Keep at it, girl. You should be proud of yourself."
user banned (boy); 2 kids; f**king, Austria 36337 posts
Feb 16th '13
Quoting *D & S's Momma *:" Oh I am proud, I make all the money in the house, I take care of the kids and work full time, and he ... [snip!] ... everything I can to make things work, i'm not giving 100 percent and not having him do anything to make things better in return"

then consider counseling? or a divorce?



You're going about this the wrong way if you want to make your marriage work..

user banned 33 kids; Blytheville, Arkansas 7534 posts
Feb 16th '13
Quoting *D & S's Momma *:" Oh I am proud, I make all the money in the house, I take care of the kids and work full time, and he ... [snip!] ... everything I can to make things work, i'm not giving 100 percent and not having him do anything to make things better in return"


Well if you're the one enabling him then it sounds like it all goes back to you. You don't really have the right to complain about little instances like this if you refuse to resolve the underlying problems. If you really provide everything while he sits around and buys leafblowers without contributing, why are you with him?

*D & S's Momma * 2 kids; 2 angel babies; Winter Haven, Florida 1889 posts
Feb 16th '13
Quoting grace life:" I'm sorry he has hurt your feelings so consistently in the past, sounds like there's more to the story -- ya know? Have you guys ever tried to work on this stuff? "


I've tried marriage counseling with him, he laughed in my face when I explained how I felt hurt and betrayed by the way he treats me. I've done everything in my power to make things work but he just constantly thinks he runs the show, even though i'm the one supporting the family. I'm the one who pays the insurance, medical and vehicle, i'm the one who pays all the bills in the house, on my days off the house is spotless the kids are taken care of and he comes home and gets a good night sleep. Not once has he ever offered to give me a break, even considering the fact that I work 12 hour shifts the next morning. Considering the fact that i'm on a diet and trying to better myself he still puts me down, so now i'm looking out for me and my kids, he can do whatever he needs to do to make himself feel like a "man"

user banned 2 kids; Georgia 24891 posts
Feb 16th '13
Quoting *D & S's Momma *:" Oh I am proud, I make all the money in the house, I take care of the kids and work full time, and he ... [snip!] ... everything I can to make things work, i'm not giving 100 percent and not having him do anything to make things better in return"


Why did you guys get married then?

vagina. 3 kids; Titz, No, Germany 30934 posts
Feb 16th '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting The Andromeda Strain:</b>" Well if you're the one enabling him then it sounds like it all goes back to you. You don't really have ... [snip!] ... If you really provide everything while he sits around and buys leafblowers without contributing, why are you with him?"</blockquote>




:!:

*D & S's Momma * 2 kids; 2 angel babies; Winter Haven, Florida 1889 posts
Feb 16th '13

He was a TOTALLY different person when we got married, and he works but he spends his money on "his needs"....the reason for not getting a divorce is that I have literally not had the time to go and file. Between working 12 hour shifts full time and then taking care of the kids on my days off, my daughter has pulmonology apts, GI specialist appts, and dr appts that consume my days off.

user banned (boy); 2 kids; f**king, Austria 36337 posts
Feb 16th '13
Quoting *D & S's Momma *:" He was a TOTALLY different person when we got married, and he works but he spends his money on "his needs"....the ... [snip!] ... care of the kids on my days off, my daughter has pulmonology apts, GI specialist appts, and dr appts that consume my days off."

Kick him out?

Jays*Mama 2 kids; Michigan 5689 posts
Feb 16th '13

I don't think a lot of men think of anyone other than themselves.

user banned 2 kids; Georgia 24891 posts
Feb 16th '13
Quoting Jays*Mama:" I don't think a lot of men think of anyone other than themselves."



not true at all.



*D & S's Momma * 2 kids; 2 angel babies; Winter Haven, Florida 1889 posts
Feb 16th '13
Quoting ℳary ℐane:" Kick him out? "


Only way to get him out is an injunction (which isn't warranted, he's not abusive just an a*****e) and in the state of florida it's 50/50 during marriage including property and children, unless the court decides who should stay or go or who has custody of the kids...For instance if I changed the locks, he legally could break into the house because it's his established residence...I'm trying to find something now for me to move