I don't think its worth it. *Tawni* 2 kids; 1 angel baby; California 1081 posts
Feb 15th '13

My kids dad and I went to court in November for child support and custody. The judge ordered him to pay $233 a month for our 2 kids. He doesn't work but collects unemployment and works under the table. They didn't attach his unemployment but said that I could if I felt like he wasn't paying as he should be. Well he has NEVER paid the full amount. Maybe $100 a month but that's all. I didn't attach his unemployment at first because I wanted to give him the benefit of the doubt but now I feel like I should. I'm struggling to buy the kids their stuff while he's out buying beer and weed. I know that I SHOULD but honestly he's violent and I spent the months before court dealing with daily threats (threats to hurt me or SO, to kill us both) and in fear of what he was going to do. I know that it'll be back to that once I fill out the papers to do this and I just don't know if its worth it. I just wanted your opinions on what you would do in my situation.


Jeronimo 2 kids; California 1436 posts
Feb 15th '13

You probably should've had it come out of the unemployment check to begin with to guarantee the full amount to have been paid. But hindsight is 20/20... doesn't all that go as "backpay" on his record though?

user banned 2 kids; New York 34017 posts
Feb 15th '13

Get a no contact order and put his unemployment on.

GavinsMomJohnnysWife 2 kids; Texas 2789 posts
Feb 15th '13

They took the CS money from my ex's unemployment checks before he had a chance to dispute it, and when he filed taxes all that he was behind was taken out and sent to me as well.

Mrs.Mud 6 kids; 2 angel babies; North Dakota 3314 posts
Feb 15th '13

He needs to take responsibility for his actions. Stand up for yourself and your children, who deserve the money. They'll take the CS off the top of his unemployment checks. Does he not have any visitation rights? Get a protection order as well if the threats continue and use a third-party mediator for the kids if needed. But don't let this a*****e off the hook!