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Leaving DH & already have someone new.. BG Secrets Arizona 4906 posts
Feb 12th '13

Yesterday morning, DH and I split up. He moved in with his ex-girlfriend/babymama.
I've liked this other guy for a while now, and last night we hooked up.
I don't feel bad at all, actually. I feel free... I really like this guy, and he says that he has strong feelings for me too.
I just don't know what to do, or think.
I mean, I know I want to be with this other guy. He's an amazing man, he's wonderful with my daughter, but I don't know how the whole divorce process works.
I don't know. I'm confused, and I'm so happy. I guess I just need someone to tell me it's okay.


And before anyone goes off saying "you JUST split up with your husband and you already slept with someone else, blah blahblah" I left my husband for the ridiculous amount of mental and emotional abuse I was getting from him.

Blythe. 1 child; Indiana 23001 posts
Feb 12th '13

sounds like a rebound. Of course this guy is a great guy and blah blah blah, thats the way it feels when you get out of a relationship where you are treated like shit.



Don't jump too fast

bloopbloop♥ TTC since Sep 2016; 1 child; Illinois 14322 posts
status Feb 12th '13

Just take is slow with this new dude...But it sounds like he has been part of your life for a while now since he is amazing with your child.

Elle&Cole⛄️ TTC since Oct 2016; 2 kids; 1 angel baby; Rio Rancho, NM, United States 32438 posts
status Feb 12th '13

Honestly who the f**k cares what other people think. As long as your happy and healthy.

A&J. ♥ 1 child; Philadelphia, Pennsylvania 5613 posts
Feb 12th '13

Don't feel guilty at all.. But don't rush. Give your heart and mind time to heal from the abuse. If its meant to be he won't care how long it takes you to be fully ready.

*KatteyBug* 2 kids; My City, AL, United States 2706 posts
Feb 12th '13
Quoting A&J. ♥:" Don't feel guilty at all.. But don't rush. Give your heart and mind time to heal from the abuse. If its meant to be he won't care how long it takes you to be fully ready."


:!: This for sure!

♔ BαtMαɳ Due April 8; Gotham, DC, United States 90922 posts
status Feb 12th '13
Quoting LEGENDARY JAS ♥:" If I had just left my husband, I wouldn't be jumping into a relationship. Having sex, etc etc etc is ... [snip!] ... to be alone for awhile. JMO. You also have to think about your daughter..she's more "in the know" than you think she may be."


:!:

Mama Charli Due August 8; 6 kids; Texas 6387 posts
Feb 12th '13

Take is slow. Its something new and exciting but who knows if that'll last?! You don't have to feel guilty about being happy, just don't rush anything with someone new. KWIM?

user banned Due December 20; Georgia 1823 posts
Feb 12th '13

You always meet the worst guys when you're on the rebound...

Lin Brown TTC since May 2015; 2 kids; Tunnel Hill, Georgia 1941 posts
Feb 12th '13

as long as you think your ready and happy then why not go for it. Just take it slow and don't let him and your daughter get to close just in case it doesn't work out.

<3Sav 3 kids; 1 angel baby; Amelia, OH, United States 30399 posts
Feb 12th '13

I started seeing someome the same month i left dh...



Weve been together nearly a year