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<blockquote><b>Quoting *Kay*:</b>" I see. I don't really see anything wrong with it. As long as every bottle they get isn't just propped ... [snip!] ... it's caregiver to always have it's bottle propped. (Not saying any of you ladies are neglecting your babies. Just wondering)"</blockquote>
If baby falls asleep with milk, either bottle or breast, or any juice, it can ruin their teeth because of the lactose, even if they haven't come in yet. If you prop, you should always use water!
Quoting justanothamotha:" I breastfed....so there was no point. I have a thing about propping. I figure if we were meant to prop ... [snip!] ... it was my 3 yr old & that was not often nor for long. Plus he could reason fairly well & was easy to appease often."
My son always waited until we were getting in the car before he wanted his bottle :x he did it so often it was an automatic when I strapped him in I would just put his bottle there...the only time at home I would is if I really had to pee. Then I would hold him as long as I could and if I couldn't wait until he was done put him down, prop the bottle, pee and come right back. It is a matter of choice, but some times schedules get messed up and it isn't possible to just stop what you're doing to hold the baby and feed them. There were a lot of times I would make him cry to get to town (10 min drive) and it made me feel awful. I'd rather prop a bottle than let my son CIO just because we are in a car and I can't stop to feed him. KWIM?
No, never. I wasn't able to breastfeed so it's important to me to hold her while I feed her so we can get a similar bonding experience, if that makes sense haha. I could see myself doing it in the car though, with one of those bottle holder things that hang from the carseat, but not if I'm just sitting at home with her.
Quoting CaityCakes:" No, never. I wasn't able to breastfeed so it's important to me to hold her while I feed her so we can ... [snip!] ... car though, with one of those bottle holder things that hang from the carseat, but not if I'm just sitting at home with her."
It makes perfect sense :)
Quoting ~Raylan's Mama~:" My son always waited until we were getting in the car before he wanted his bottle :x he did it so often ... [snip!] ... me feel awful. I'd rather prop a bottle than let my son CIO just because we are in a car and I can't stop to feed him. KWIM?"
Yes & no. CIO is leaving an infant alone to cry to teach them something. It is the decision to purposely allow crying (alone) so that the child learns they "aren't getting their way". Crying because momma has no control to change the situation is different entirely. If my then 3 yr old had fallen & was unconscious & I was tending to him, I wouldn't stop tending to him to go pick up the crying newborn right? And in that case, leaving him to cry isn't a form of CIO, even if the baby is alone in another room, it is just dealing with what you have to deal with. It's a more extreme example, but it is meant to show that accepting the fact your child is going to "have to" cry in a given situation is a different thing than leaving a child to cry alone to teach them to give up trying to get what they want through crying. I have no idea if I would have ever decided to try letting him have a bottle in the car if I used bottles with him. He had them when I worked but never when with me. I am sure it would have been tempting if it had worked, but nursing him in the seat barely worked half the time, so I doubt it would have worked for him.
Funny story though,.. Once when we were coming back from camping our air conditioning crapped out. We had to roll the windows down & the only thing he hated as much as cars almost was wind - so BAD mojo. So I dug out a bedsheet & had it draped over his seat & me & was trying to sing to him & nurse him & such to get home with some sanity. We got pulled over because I guess it looked crazy & the cop was wondering WTH was going on under that sheet. He was super nice & apologetic in the end though. He asked me to take the sheet off & I explained my b**b was fully out & I didn't want to hook it back up right away & do a bunch of maneuvering when he walked up in case he thought I was being hinky under the sheet, so I said "Give me a minute to hook back up" and he laughed & said, no, never mind. :P
You & I chatted about this in a different thread about how both our kids hated the car. I understand the purple screaming & the whole bit about a kid who hates car rides. If Dh was there I did contortionist tricks trying to nurse him while in his carseat & all of that. The rest of the time though it was me & him & I had to just deal with the crying.
Quoting ~Raylan's Mama~:" It makes perfect sense :)"
Ok good haha. Other than the obvious benefits, and just the fact that it's completely natural, the bonding experience was one of the main reasons I wanted to BF, I was so sad when it didn't work out for me. But I guess as long as I hold her while she eats we're still building that same bond.
Quoting justanothamotha:" Yes & no. CIO is leaving an infant alone to cry to teach them something. It is the decision to purposely ... [snip!] ... in his carseat & all of that. The rest of the time though it was me & him & I had to just deal with the crying."
I just HATE hearing him cry, especially while I'm trying to drive :x To me letting him cry out of control is CIO...I do understand what you're saying about the difference tho. :)
That is a HILARIOUS story!!! When I was breastfeeding I would get him out and put him in the seat with me while in a parking lot if I was able to. I can't imagine that happening tho LOL
Quoting ~Raylan's Mama~:" I just HATE hearing him cry, especially while I'm trying to drive :x To me letting him cry out of ... [snip!] ... get him out and put him in the seat with me while in a parking lot if I was able to. I can't imagine that happening tho LOL"
Yeah - it really wasn't about feeding. We had a 3 hr drive & we already discussed how much he liked the car. So I was trying ANYTHING to just keep him as happy as I could.
No, Never. I struggled to BF and for me that time feeding her was so so precious, she got to 6 months and wanted to hold her own bottle and i miss it horribly. Its vital fir babies mental health and wellbeing to be held as much qas possible, If you are'nt holding them for feeds when are you? I held/hold DD alot but i wa lucky that I had time I know not all mums have time to justsit and cuddle up with their babies.
I started doing it at 4 months. He was holding his own bottle at 6months.
No, we do not prop DS's bottles.
I especially wouldn't prop a bottle up in the car before leaving. Even though we have a little mirror we can see, if he started choking and I am driving there would be a lot of situations where I may not be able to stop the car right away. Not safe or smart in my opinion.
No, never needed to, my oldest fed her in the morning while I got my middle raedy for school, and she did the same while I got ready for work every morning when she was 6 and my middle dd was little.
Or if I was cooking etc......In the van I sit behind her so as a nb I would just feed her myself in the seat.
But she has been holding her bottle on her own since 3 months, so I never really needed to at all. lol She is 1 now and obviously holds all her on straw cups. (no bottles since 8 months)
I propped on occasion. I didn't with my oldest but the more kids I had, the higher the occurrence of propping. :lol: It was mostly when I was pumping or bathing. They always picked bad times to be hungry.
Quoting ~Raylan's Mama~:" Say that when you have a screaming baby in the car while you're trying to drive because you have to be somewhere at a scheduled time and can't just pull over to feed them"
Babies cause unpredicted disturbances in life. It's life. I have a 9 year old and have babysat my niece and nephew MANY times when they were young. Never once did I bottle prop, and never once did my sister. Yes there were times that we had to be somewhere and Lily wanted to eat, but I either waited until we got there or pulled over and was late to whatever I was going to do.
I ESPECIALLY think bottle propping in the car is lazy and incredibly dangerous. If the child chokes, lets see how fast you pull over to assist in helping the child out. OR... lets NOT put the childs safety at risk or other drivers because you are driving like an a*****e trying to pull over to help a choking child because of bottle propping.
And if anyone says "Well the choking would hardly ever happen...." well the "Man I need to get somewhere and the baby is hungry!" would hardly ever happen, if at all, if you just planned better.
Yep, sometimes. But only started it after 4 months of age. I ONLY do it while doing something(in the kitchen cooking,helping my girls with homeworkk,ect) and DS is always right beside me in my view so I can see him. Other than that I really don't, like another Mama said, gives me a good 20min to sit and do nothing, lol