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user banned Altadena, California 11084 posts
Feb 3rd '13

He sounds like he needs his ass beat. You shouldn't put up with a 5 year old threading you, you're letting him run the house. "I'll wake up my sisters" let him wake them up, he's old enough to hold a bottle and help change.

Mason, Carmen & Nolans Mo 3 kids; 3 angel babies; Michigan 6508 posts
Feb 3rd '13

My son is 4 and has his moments but not constantly and he will be hurting if he EVER spit in my face. take him back to get checked out and don't take "he's just being a boy" for an answer! maybe video tap his actions and show them to his doctor (or super nanny lol srry)

Shannon +4 Due February 22 (boy); 4 kids; Beaumont, Alberta 9281 posts
Feb 3rd '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting I'm Marbles:</b>" He sounds like he needs his ass beat. You shouldn't put up with a 5 year old threading you, you're letting ... [snip!] ... letting him run the house. "I'll wake up my sisters" let him wake them up, he's old enough to hold a bottle and help change."</blockquote>




Beating your children is not the way to go.

HamHam 18 kids; India 3485 posts
Feb 3rd '13

Sounds like he knows how to get his way, and how to push your buttons. Seek out some help from a therapist, and maybe they can help you guys figure out consequences that work and ways to get him to act appropriately. He must know you guys are givin in or that he can get away with stuff, so he just does what he wants. Good luck. Sounds tough:(

willoughfam Due May 26 (girl); 3 kids; Burlington, North Carolina 331 posts
Feb 3rd '13

DS3 is the exact same way. He isn't even 2 yet and beats his head on the walls, destroys everything, bites, hits, he even yanked DH Xbox off the TV stand today for no reason. He is a very hard child to take care of. He is special needs (can't speak, learning to sign) and has several different types of therapy (OT, speech, developmental) and now he is getting behavioral therapy because his coordinator said we needed to get this behavior stopped before DD is due in May. I'd definitely look for some behavioral therapy.

Punk Rock Princess {EBFT} 3 kids; Killeen, Texas 26911 posts
Feb 3rd '13

I've got 2 boys and neither of them act like that, not even my 4 yo with autism/adhd..



I think he sounds very angry..do you show him affection often? Hug him, tell him you love him, etc throughout the day?



Does he get a lot of outside time? My boys are 2 and 4..they need at least an hour a day outside. The older they get, the more they need...

Shannon +4 Due February 22 (boy); 4 kids; Beaumont, Alberta 9281 posts
Feb 3rd '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting HamHam:</b>" Sounds like he knows how to get his way, and how to push your buttons. Seek out some help from a therapist, ... [snip!] ... He must know you guys are givin in or that he can get away with stuff, so he just does what he wants. Good luck. Sounds tough:("</blockquote>




The thing is we never give in that's why I don't get it!

user banned Altadena, California 11084 posts
Feb 3rd '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Married with children AIO:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting I'm Marbles:</b>" He sounds like he needs his ass beat. You ... [snip!] ... them up, he's old enough to hold a bottle and help change."</blockquote> Beating your children is not the way to go."</blockquote>



Yeah it's not, but her son acts like an a*****e because she lets him walk all over her. It's not always the kids fault it's the parents and how they are parenting. It would be the day my kid spit in my face hit their baby sibling. f**k that.

Shannon +4 Due February 22 (boy); 4 kids; Beaumont, Alberta 9281 posts
Feb 3rd '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Punk Rock Princess {EBFT}:</b>" I've got 2 boys and neither of them act like that, not even my 4 yo with autism/adhd.. I think he sounds ... [snip!] ... a lot of outside time? My boys are 2 and 4..they need at least an hour a day outside. The older they get, the more they need..."</blockquote>




He gets most of the attention he is in school it's winter here (-25c) so we can't go outside so we go swimming to the play cafe and when hubby has to go somewhere he always gets to go just him.

user banned 1 child; Portland, Maine 20613 posts
Feb 3rd '13
Quoting I'm Marbles:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Married with children AIO:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting ... [snip!] ... it's the parents and how they are parenting. It would be the day my kid spit in my face hit their baby sibling. f**k that."


She's the OP :lol:



I don't spank and that behavior would be getting a spanking every time he acted that horribly. At the very least get that kid in therapy, because that is NOT normal 5 year old behavior.

The Blissful Six 4 kids; 1 angel baby; Massachusetts 10260 posts
Feb 3rd '13

The bottom line is that nothing you've done up to this point has affected his behavior in a positive way. I would seek out a second opinion. You need outside help with him and now is the time to get it done. If you don't get him sorted out now, his behavior will only get worse.

HamHam 18 kids; India 3485 posts
Feb 3rd '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Married with children AIO:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting HamHam:</b>" Sounds like he knows how to get his way, and how ... [snip!] ... does what he wants. Good luck. Sounds tough:("</blockquote> The thing is we never give in that's why I don't get it!"</blockquote>



I see. Then please get a second opinion from a dr or a therapist. Not sure what your son's behavioral history is but I'd think if it's been going on for a little while, then an assessment is warranted. All the best to you guys.

user banned Altadena, California 11084 posts
Feb 3rd '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Thisperyears:</b>" She's the OP :lol: I don't spank and that behavior would be getting a spanking every time he acted ... [snip!] ... every time he acted that horribly. At the very least get that kid in therapy, because that is NOT normal 5 year old behavior."</blockquote>




NFG the kid needs to learn respect for his mom and fast.

Shannon +4 Due February 22 (boy); 4 kids; Beaumont, Alberta 9281 posts
Feb 3rd '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Ravey Candyass:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting Married with children AIO:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting ... [snip!] ... out of his room and make him sit there in complete emptiness. He can earn absolutely everything back by acting right."</blockquote>




I've thrown everything in his room in the garbage and made him sit there for a day I have taken him to a doctor and they say he is fine. So don't say I'm not trying thanks I ask for outside advice and beating my child is not something I am going to do.

user banned Altadena, California 11084 posts
Feb 3rd '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Amαndα ♕:</b>" Oh man.. if anyone even my child spit in my face, my husband would f**king lose it. I would NOT want to be them if my husband walked in on that. "</blockquote>




Exactly! DH would be furious if my kids did that.