My DH and I started dating when I was 19, we got pregnant 4 months in and didn't get married until I was 23. I don't think i settled at all, but I do wish we could have had more time to just be a young couple together, travel make plans etc, before we started having kids. I think we were limited as a couple by having kids young.
But as far as he and I together go, I definitely didn't settle. He makes me a better person, he the most supportive partner a person could ask for and he continues to be my best friend. We've been together 7 1/2 years and married 3 1/2 and I still get butterflies when I see his name come up on my caller ID. I'm lucky to have found him young.
Quoting Big Booty Heaux
Quoting Saffy Sly:" Biology on a molecular level is fascinating. I wanted to work in pharmaceutical research but math just ... [snip!] ... kids. It may not pay well but there are plenty of other rewards to teaching. I get a lot of joy from watching kids learn."
Same here. Im thinking about going into school social work. Doing IEPs and just overall helping kids with issues outside of school adjust and function in the classroom setting.
Quoting kr.r:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Big Booty Heaux
I know I did. My ex and I were kids and instead of us growing together as a couple, we grew apart. I realized what I wanted in life, where I wanted to go, and who I wanted to be....and my ex is still in the process of figuring those things out.
Quoting Big Booty Heaux
ive been with SO since i was 18 and now im 22 we broke up for a couple of months last year and i thought it was a waste of time but now that were back together i know hes the one!!!
I was with my ex for 6 years. Im glad that the couple times that we made plans to get married we didnt. I was with him from 16 to 22. I am on year 3 of being single and I dont mind because I dont know how to date, but I know what I kinda want in a SO. I dont want to ever feel like I settled. The last 2 years of my relationship with my ex, I felt like I had settled and I dont want to be there.
I don't think I limited myself at all. In my opinion, I found the person who balances me out the best, who knows me as well as I know myself and who is my partner in everything in our lives together.
Sometimes I am afraid that maybe HE thinks he limited himself. (We are each other's firsts) and didn't get to experience life and being with girls, etc. We partied in college before our kids were born, so that phase of our lives is in the past. But I definitely think that DH and I found each other and will last a pretty decent amount of time. (I don't wanna jinx anything)
I got with SO when I was 20 and he was 19. Now 9 years later we've been through a lot of hard times together and have problems, but I don't feel like I settled
<blockquote><b>Quoting Saffy Sly:</b>" I wish we would have waited too. Because putting of our marriage would have meant we would have put off starting a family. I really was better suited for becoming a parent at 24 than I was at 19."</blockquote>
This may sound crazy but I felt way more prepared with my first at 19, than I do for number #3 at 24... That may be because I wasn't battling depression when I was having my first baby, though?
My husband may have settled but I didn't, lol. We were 27 and 23 by the way.
I got married at 17, and I knew it was a mistake as I was standing outside the church doors, about to walk down the aisle. The marriage was a mistake, but I was pressured into it, and it is what it is. But he treated me like a trophy wife, I was only good enough to sleep with and show off. I felt like a live in prostitute. I dropped out of high school, and he wouldn't allow me to go back or get a job...so I was stuck home with him 24/7. He was afraid I'd find someone new and leave him so he kept me home. We had our daughter a few weeks after I turned 19, so I devoted myself to her and put school on the back burner. For 3 years I was rarely ever away from him for more than an hour. Finally, I put my foot down and went back to school and got my GED. During this time, we filed for divorce because I couldn't take the controlling bullshit anymore. I was proud of myself for finally going back to school, even if I was 21....Graduated at 22 (took a while to take the tests since I don't drive), And the divorce took a year to go through, So we were married for 5 years. It's been almost a year since the divorce was finalized, and I can't remember a time in my life when I've ever been so happy.
Anyways, I knew I "settled", for a guy who treated me like a hood ornament, and saw me as nothing but a sex toy. I knew I deserved better deep down, even though I was being verbally abused every day telling me differently. Logically, I knew he was wrong...but sometimes emotions can get in the way.