Quoting Due *March 8th* w/ a boy!:" He has not received mail here in over 2 months. He is trying to tell me that he lives here. I am done ... [snip!] ... see this child I just want to be able to take him to court and prove to his ass that he did NOT have the last laugh WHATSOEVER!"
it is very hard for a judge to allow someone to sign over their rights, espeicially if there isn't another man to step up as the father. You can go for child support, but know that he can also go for visitation.
Try not to let him affect you so bad. I was a single mom for a year & being a mother with or without a man is an extremely rewarding experience.
I agree call the police u have a right as long as he isnt on your lease
Quoting Due *March 8th* w/ a boy!:" Well this stupid f**king a*****e, has done it he has hurt me to no extent, I can't even put in enough ... [snip!] ... have ever been in my whole entire life :( he told me he shouldn't have made this child. I just need advice. Something PLEASE!!"
The laws are different for every state.. Here in TX if someone lives with you or stays with you for longer than a week, and doesn't want to leave.. You have to get a 30 day eviction notice... My parents went through this with my brothers girlfriend. My brother is an alcoholic and used to beat up his girlfriend.. and sadly she JUST WOULDNT LEAVE. This is no excuse but my parents toldl her multiple times that she couldn't live there anymore and one time the cops were called and my parents asked the cops to ask her to leave and they said they cant without an eviction notice of 30 days..
i would absolutely be done with him! The way it works here tho...if he were to bring the cops in and show that he stuff is in your house then legally they cant remove him and he has 30 days. Me personally i would call someone when he is out and sit all his shit on the porch and change the locks! Good luck mama you can do this!
<blockquote><b>Quoting Due *March 8th* w/ a boy!:</b>" He said he will just not pay and sit his 30 days in jail. I am so freaking hurt :( I honestly wish I ... [snip!] ... :( I honestly wish I had someone here with me. I just can't believe this happened :( why did I make such a horrible choice :("</blockquote>
Lol, riiight. Not paying court ordered CS would get you in more trouble than that. He'd have to work under the table the rest of his life. Oh & his license would get taken away at some point from not paying, so he'd have to drive illegally. Lol. He is just being a major dumbass right now. Try to relax & not let someone so petty affect you
Well I had some people living in my house once that I didn't want living there (thanks to my ex-roommate :roll:). I called the cops to get them out, and he said he couldn't do anything because they'd been there for three weeks... so I would have to go to the courthouse and get an eviction notice and give them thirty days notice.
He also said if I kicked them out on my own by locking them out and throwing all their stuff on the curb, they could press charges. So... yeah, eviction notice would be your best bet.
I am an idiot and will probably get bitched at for this. I am just like my mom in so many ways. I love my mom, and I used to never be able to understand why she ever took back/stayed with my dad, who was an alcoholic, and beat her almost everyday and almost ended her life several times. She stayed with him for 14 years, I guess for the first little while it was great and all but then they had those problems and shit happened. I don't know how in the world I did mishear what he said to me, which doesn't excuse what he said. But he did tell me after we got done fighting more and more, he said you "You f**king misheard me, I clearly said that I SHOULD leave when I get my taxes back and go help *her* raise her son, since I KNOW for a fact she'd let me see him everyday whenever I wanted no matter whether or not we fought and argued since I know that if I don't stay if we can't make this work that you won't EVER let me see my f**king son, I didn't say WOULD I said I SHOULD leave after my taxes come back because you are driving me away, and driving me crazy and the only thing I can to shut you up is to say rude shit that hurts you, and I didn't call him a stupid little mother f****r you hear shit to much, I said you wouldn't let me see my stupid mother f**king son because I was mad. And yeah you knew I didn't want a baby in the beginning of this you knew that, but I laid down with you and made him too. And all your going to do is tell my son shit that isn't true that hopefully I will get a chance to correct it and let him know even if it has to wait until he's 18 that it wasn't because I didn't want to be there it's because his mama wouldn't let me, because you kept me away. I want to be there to help raise him but I know if I don't stay glued to you all the time you won't even let me know him or get to know him. And don't think I wouldn't take your ass to court for visits with him because I have a right. I already know that shit about child support and court and visitation, I done seen my friends go through with all that so I said what I said to shut you up, since I know for a fact you haven't seen what happens first hand." I don't know if I should just let it go, I told him to let me sleep on it, that we would continue the conversation later. He even said if I still want him out, can he have until Tuesday when he gets his check to at least have money to find somewhere to stay that way he doesn't have to go and sleep on the street or inside his car. I just I don't know, I feel like it's all bullshit, but part of me feels like he wouldn't even try to still make it work, or have begged me to forgive the rude comments and name calling he did, that he did it out of anger from the whole entire argument. I am hard headed and stupid and I believe just about anything, and it's sad that I can admit it and actually know that I am a gullible ass person. I don't know what exactly I should do, he didn't hurt me physically just emotionally, and apparently he even called his best friend to ask her advice on how to fix what he just said to me...I guess all the things he said was advice from her but I am not completely sure. I still have a lot of thinking to do. I just thought some of you might like to hear an update on what's happened so far.
Quoting Due *March 8th* w/ a boy!:" I am an idiot and will probably get bitched at for this. I am just like my mom in so many ways. I love ... [snip!] ... sure. I still have a lot of thinking to do. I just thought some of you might like to hear an update on what's happened so far."
hurting you emotionally is bad too. I would ask him to leave. You guys need some time apart. You can always get back together in the future if things work out. But it seems like a very toxic environment right now.