Do you swear around your children? Do you swear at your children? What exactly is acceptable and what is considered crossing the line?
This stems from another forum I was just reading where it was mentioned by several people that had been yelled at/sworn at/physically abused in their childhoods that they felt the swearing, which they classified as emotional abuse, had had the biggest detrimental effect out of all them on their overall happiness and self esteem.
I do swear around him. I try not to but I've got a filthy mouth. He doesn't really repeat it unless it's something new.
I'll never swear AT DD. I don't think that is acceptable at all, especially with her only being 23 months old. I try my best not to swear around her, but it has slipped out on accident though and that has to stop because now she repeats everything she hears. I hit my toe on the dresser a while back and said 'shit'...then here comes DD walking down the hall, she looked at me, smiled and whispered 'shit' :oops: :lol:
i don't swear at her, and i try not to swear around her.
swearing at kids is never acceptable imo.
Pet peeve of mine!! We don't swear at all, and especially hate it when people cuss in front of children. We've gone round and round with my mother about it and she's finally trying to be better.
I would never swear AT my child. That's just not right. I don't really cuss around him, either. Something might slip out very occasionally.
I do not swear at them and NEVER will, That is just F'ed right up in so many ways.. No adults swore at us when we were children, no way in hell my mom would stand for that.
I occasionally slip up and say a 'bad word' and my 3.5 year old doesn't let me forget it. Everytime I do he quickly says "Mommy that was a bad word, say sorry". I rarely slip up. I was never a trucker mouth type person though.
I swear around my child and I'll admit that I sometimes swear at her (I'll say something along the lines of "little shit" when she's being...ya know, a little shit), but she's only 4 months and has no idea what I'm saying haha. When she gets to the age where she can talk and whatnot I will definitely not be swearing at her, and I'm gonna try my best not to swear in front of her. I have sailor's mouth though so I'm sure not swearing around her will be somewhat challenging. I can see where that might be considered emotional abuse. Calling your child a stupid b***h or a f**k face could definitely do some damage if you're saying it out of spite and in a hateful way, IMO. I know some moms that swear at their children but it's more in a joking matter and their children know that, so I don't really see the harm there. Plus their children are much older (teens).
I don't swear at my kids but I do swear around them. They're going to hear the words at some point anyways so why not use them where I can teach them that there is a place and time to use them?
I can see how being a young child and having your parents swear at you "you p***e o* s**t.." or "You are just a big f**k up" kind of sentences could be emotional abuse. I don't think swearing alone is emotional abuse, but combine it with anger and hate and it can be.
Personally we try not to swear as we think having a toddler swear isn't cute. We believe swear words have it's place and can actually be very powerful, but should be used appropriately like all words..
I don't swear at her, and I try to not swear around her, because she repeats them in awkward situations.
Quoting CaityCakes:" I swear around my child and I'll admit that I sometimes swear at her (I'll say something along the lines ... [snip!] ... a joking matter and their children know that, so I don't really see the harm there. Plus their children are much older (teens)."
Yes, a 4 month old can definitely be a little shit.....
i dont not swear at my children. i am very overprotected over my children so i dont fight infront of them either. the only time they hear me cursing is when i am using it in just my normal talk, however i do not shelter my children from cursing. My daughter who is 3 years old does not curse contrary to thinking the more cursing that is around a child the more the child is to curse. children are going to curse with or without your permission. they will curse behind your back if you refuse to allow them to curse. thats why i do not shelter my daughters. also when they get older you have to explain to them what is and is not acceptable.