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Mama♥Breezy Due December 2 (girl); 2 kids; Los Angeles, California 35010 posts
Jan 7th '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting lolajessup:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting breezy l0ve ♥:</b>" Where are you living right now? And ... [snip!] ... to be safe. If u get caught doing something "wrong" they could deport baby back to Canada and you risk never seeing him again."</blockquote>




!! Sadly.... If you're married, I don't think you can legally leave without his permission. Is there any place you can get free legal aid? Better to be safe than sorry.

sillygirltracyb_caius1222 4 kids; North Richland Hills, Texas 614 posts
Jan 7th '13

They r so stupid. . Do either of them really think this is a relationship that will last? Jump from one bed to the next and think they have a relationship. Its amazing how stupid people are. Id tell him you are going to visit the fam for a while... for a few wks... then call him afterbubare here and see if he minds you staying.. chances are he won't. . He can't be dragging be dragging LO from woman to woman. Thats not stable and not a good example.

t r i s h a . Due July 26 (boy); 2 kids; Gotham, NH, United States 2168 posts
Jan 7th '13

We both told the border I was only going to be staying with our son for a month.
Its been a year.

t r i s h a . Due July 26 (boy); 2 kids; Gotham, NH, United States 2168 posts
Jan 7th '13

My son was also born in America. In New Hampshire, we live in Ontario, illegally.

lolajessup 3 kids; 1 angel baby; Beaverton, Michigan 44076 posts
Jan 7th '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Mason'sMommy;:</b>" We both told the border I was only going to be staying with our son for a month. Its been a year. "</blockquote>



Did u have your son in the us?

lolajessup 3 kids; 1 angel baby; Beaverton, Michigan 44076 posts
Jan 7th '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Mason'sMommy;:</b>" My son was also born in America. In New Hampshire, we live in Ontario, illegally."</blockquote>



Oh so technically you're both visiting.

t r i s h a . Due July 26 (boy); 2 kids; Gotham, NH, United States 2168 posts
Jan 7th '13

Yeah, we're on visiting status.
So I can leave.
Mason was born in NH, we're both illegal.

t r i s h a . Due July 26 (boy); 2 kids; Gotham, NH, United States 2168 posts
Jan 7th '13

I tried to give him another chance.
I told him to come to the house to talk to me.
He said though text, no we can talk through this ( texting ) he said but I will try to get home? I said, no because you barely text back, get your ass home, your dad can pick you up. I said but if you text me after 530-600 I am so far from gone.
I said that because his new girlfriend had to go to work at 6:00 and that would prove he doesn't care.
And it is now 6:30 and I got no text to pick him up.

lolajessup 3 kids; 1 angel baby; Beaverton, Michigan 44076 posts
Jan 7th '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting Mason'sMommy;:</b>" I tried to give him another chance. I told him to come to the house to talk to me. He said though text, ... [snip!] ... girlfriend had to go to work at 6:00 and that would prove he doesn't care. And it is now 6:30 and I got no text to pick him up."</blockquote>



f**k him. Thats rediculus.

sillygirltracyb_caius1222 4 kids; North Richland Hills, Texas 614 posts
Jan 7th '13

<blockquote><b>Quoting lolajessup:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting Mason'sMommy;:</b>" My son was also born in America. In New ... [snip!] ... born in America. In New Hampshire, we live in Ontario, illegally."</blockquote> Oh so technically you're both visiting."</blockquote>




I think u cud leave then. Also. I moved outta state w my kids when i left their dad. He didnt fight it.. knew I was leaving. . If your dude dsnt have money for a lawyer chances are he wouldn't do anything either.. and likely his visitation would be one for parents more than 100 kiles away. Id even bet he's soo concerned about this girl he already considered u wud leave w your son when he decided to choose her. Honestly given u r illegal id say there is little to nothing he can do. Even be vindictive and turn him n too... then u both get sent home... im sure this would work in your favor

thankheavenforlittlegirls 18 kids; Georgia 233 posts
Jan 7th '13
Quoting Mason'sMommy;:" I ask him and he says they are just " close " friends. And he deleted his Facebook, and I tried looking ... [snip!] ... and I tried looking at his phone, but he won't let me near it.. and he has a passcode on it that I don't know the passcode...."


The phone thing is all I would need. There's obviously a reason he doesn't want you to see it...you don't just do that if you have nothing to hide.

Mama Lizzy :] 1 child; Texas 5575 posts
Jan 7th '13

This whole thread broke my heart. I went through something similar a couple years ago...He almost left me for his ex



You are right to move back..staying under those conditions will really screw with you. I know that pain and have often wished I would've left even just temporarily to save my sanity.



Feel free to PM if you need to vent

t r i s h a . Due July 26 (boy); 2 kids; Gotham, NH, United States 2168 posts
Jan 7th '13

I can't call on him, he is a citizen of Canada :P
But I am returning back to New Hampshire Wednesday or Thursday.

Its Eh-Lei Ocala, Florida 4303 posts
Jan 7th '13

-late in this.



whoa... I'm sorry an your only 17... holy effin cow. I apologize for you going through this..



he just took her side? have you tried contacting this c**t? wow I really dont know what to say. I'd gone bizurk but youll be better off home.. with your family

♥BUG 2 kids; Las Vegas, Nevada 5307 posts
Jan 7th '13

This same thing happened to me. I caught my ex-husband (father of my daughter) emotionally cheating with his coworker. I was hurt, left him in hopes of him realizing how it was without me. He didn't realize a thing until a year and a half later when he found out I was talking to someone else. Guys like that aren't worth it. I am not for throwing out things instead of fixing them, but some things you can't fix. You've tried. You have done nothing wrong, and you tried standing up for your family. Back then all I wanted was for my ex to just wake up, come back, and realize he was wrong. Now, I am SO happy that he didn't do that and cloud my chance at true happiness. Do what is best for you and your son. You need to take this time to focus on making the both of you ok without him. Everything will fall into place just as it should be.



As far as the coworker goes.. f**k that girl. Excuse my language, but I absolutely hate females like that. Never in my life would I want to cause any problems in anyones marriage or family. I just don't understand girls like that, and how they could ever be "ok" with doing that. But, you need to be strong, do not let your husband or her see any type of jealousy. My one regret, was belittling myself. Crying isn't going to get him back, like I said you've tried, now it's all about standing up for yourself and your son. This needs to be looked at as his loss, not yours. You're gaining your life back and a chance at true happiness. He's gaining a homewrecker. That is how it needs to be looked at by all sides in order for you to leave with some sort of dignity.



I am sorry you're going through this, and I know everything is a lot easier said than done :cry: I am here if you need to talk!