Help:( *Daughter in possible danger and need advice and a ca Rebecca Stanford 1 child; Weymouth, United Kingdom 19 posts
Dec 22nd '12

I don't know if this is me being tired & over worked but since a few months into my pregnancy I have slowly but surely started falling out of love with my OH. I really hoped when my LG came along it would fix itself but 8 weeks later it's getting harder.
I do everything; change every nappy, clean every bottle, feed her, clothe her, bath her, cuddle her, get up with her, clean the house top to bottom, think about dinner, and bills. I pay everything while he throws his money away on rubbish. I but everything our LG needs, gas, electric, food ect.
He still acts 14 at 21 and is showing no signs of growing up while I've had to grow into an adult so quickly. Now I'm an adult and he's a child.
It's getting so hard to handle, I am starting to hate him but I feel if I leave him I'm doing bad by my daughter.
He also admitted to me he ran across a busy road with our daughter (the pram was close to being hit by a car going about 45mph when she was about 2 weeks old) and says when she cries he feels like hitting her to make her quiet. I can't take it, I am terrified that one day he will snap on her. I feel like if I leave I'm doing wrong by my girl and he will kick off and his family will give me grief.
I have only told one person about it (I know my sister and brother in law would go mad if they found out he nearly killed my daughter)
I need some advice! Do I leave or stay? How do I leave.
A friend advised writing a note while he's out, taking Bethany to my mum's for a couple days until it's calmed down but I'm worried thats cowardly. Thanks in advance.

greenmamabecky☮ TTC since Jul 2013; 18 kids; Enfield, Connecticut 20987 posts
Dec 22nd '12

I would leave ASAP

Novelidea 2 kids; Louisiana 1217 posts
Dec 22nd '12

Leave!!! You're doing your daughter a disservice by staying. You need to leave as soon as possible.

Chibs 2 kids; Missouri 12147 posts
Dec 22nd '12

Make him get help and then go from there

hi puddin 4 kids; Lawrence, Kansas 2118 posts
Dec 22nd '12

Just up and leave. Your daughters safety is more important than anything

Mother of One plus One 2 kids; Ware Shoals, South Carolina 4418 posts
Dec 22nd '12

Leave. You will be failing your daughter by putting her into harms way. He SAID it himself that he feels like hitting her. That is completely unacceptable.

Daydreamingaway 2 kids; La, CA, United States 289 posts
Dec 22nd '12

Leave leave leave, if he admits to wanting to hit a baby for crying leave. That is just ridiculous. It's a baby for crying out loud.
Your working your butt off to be a good mom and God forbid anything happen and he actually does hurt her. Think about it, what if cps gets involved if something happens and you lose your child?

Your child is more important, leave for her sake.

Meli ❤ 1 child; Don't worry about it, CA, United States 31152 posts
Dec 22nd '12
Quoting Mother of One plus One:" Leave. You will be failing your daughter by putting her into harms way. He SAID it himself that he feels like hitting her. That is completely unacceptable."

I agree, if my BD ever told me that I would do what I could to make sure my DD stayed away from him. There is something REALLY wrong there and it is more than likely he will snap sooner or later. You NEED to get out of that situation.

SavageDarling 3 kids; Webster, Massachusetts 10381 posts
Dec 22nd '12

Leave ASAP.

1 child; United Kingdom 1719 posts
Dec 22nd '12

Leave a.s.a.p.
If you're worried about housing or money go to citizens advice.

MommyToWesley 1 child; Delaware 3847 posts
Dec 22nd '12

It's not cowardly to try to protect your daughter. What do you think he would do if you try to leave while he's there?

babydelicious 2 kids; Connecticut 169 posts
Dec 22nd '12

LEAVE!! If he loved ur LG he wouldnt have ran across the road with cars coming and if he wants to hit her when she cries than that tells u something.. RED FLAG! LEAVE ASAP

Mama Crash ☮ Due April 2; 3 kids; 3 angel babies; Ocoee, Florida 15509 posts
Dec 22nd '12

Don't mean to sound harsh here, darlin, but you need to get the f**k away from him! He is a very serious danger to your LO. I didn't even finish your post, I got so mad about him "wanting to hit her to make her quiet." f**k THAT. You need to leave. If you stay with him, you could potentially be doing even worse by your daughter than leaving her without a dad. She deserves so much better than that, and so do you.

Please please PLEASE make the right decision and get away from him. You're already doing a wonderful job at being a single mum, you can do this.

☮Sugar Magnolia 1 child; Indiana 18298 posts
Dec 22nd '12

Leave. Now. Today. Just f**king leave.

He said he wants to hurt her, so what's the next step? He will hurt her.
You need to go.

KissMeFinnNelson<3 1 child; 2 angel babies; Glasgow, Scotland, UK, United Kingdom 5419 posts
Dec 22nd '12

I agree with others, leave ASAP! Go to your Mother's for a few days and figure out your situation, you should go to Citizen's Advice. Find out what your entitlements are to tax credits and things, healthy start vouchers, just leave!