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lolajessup 3 kids; 1 angel baby; Beaverton, Michigan 44076 posts
Dec 22nd '12

Sex drive fluctuations are normal. I don't think the one without the issue should go out and get it somewhere else. Can't u guys do other stuff? Get some fun new stuff for the bedroom. Work to spice it up. When my sex drive goes low I really have to work to bring it up.



I couldn't handle the thought of my SO getting off to someone else. I couldn't hand the thought of what diseases he could bring back. Or what if he knocked her up? It's not worth it IMO.

ღ.ღ.ღ 3 kids; South Carolina 7316 posts
Dec 22nd '12

<blockquote><b>Quoting Jas ♥:</b>" I agree. If the thought of f**king someone else turns him on and YOU can't even do that, its time to reevaluate your marriage."</blockquote>




Where exactly do you get she can't turn him on? All she said was she had a low sex drive.

lolajessup 3 kids; 1 angel baby; Beaverton, Michigan 44076 posts
Dec 22nd '12

<blockquote><b>Quoting Jas ♥:</b>" But f**king someone other than his wife would all of a sudden heighten it? Okay. A low sex drive is a low sex drive. Its not having the desire to have sex with anyone."</blockquote>



:!: just because your wife doesn't want sex all the time doesn't mean u should want it with some one else instead. I feel like opening that can of worms only has a destiny for disaster.

Chick+6.5! Due October 18; 6 kids; 1 angel baby; Colorado 7766 posts
Dec 22nd '12

<blockquote><b>Quoting Jas ♥:</b>" lol. I'm sorry but that is just ridiculous."</blockquote>




:!:
He has a hand. And there are stores that sell *ahem* things that help. If my husband was excited to screw other women, I'd be just as excited to hand him divorce papers.

.:Stacy Renee:. 19 kids; Ohio 6585 posts
status Dec 22nd '12

Making a thread of this nature is going to open a door for people to tell you all the reasons that it's wrong... Lol



Do what feels right for your relationship. Just because other people don't understand or agree doesn't mean it's not for you guys. Nobody else knows what goes on & feels right in your marriage, only what goes on & feels right for their marriage.



Different strokes for different folks.

.:Stacy Renee:. 19 kids; Ohio 6585 posts
status Dec 22nd '12
Quoting Jas ♥:" Right. Oh his sex drive is low with OP but he is all about screwing other women. That says something ... [snip!] ... about the OP and his feelings towards her, sexually. He has a low sex drive...with her. She should probably work on that."


She is the one with the low sex drive, not him.

Jacob'sKeeper 2 kids; some little town, MT, United States 9806 posts
Dec 22nd '12
Quoting .:Stacy Renee:.:" Making a thread of this nature is going to open a door for people to tell you all the reasons that it's ... [snip!] ... feels right in your marriage, only what goes on & feels right for their marriage. Different strokes for different folks."


Yeah, I figured I'd get peoples opinions even if I didn't ask for em lol. It's no biggie, this is a touchy subject. I don't think that it would cause problems in our marriage but ya never know. Idk he'd even do it anyway.

Jacob'sKeeper 2 kids; some little town, MT, United States 9806 posts
Dec 22nd '12
Quoting Jas ♥:" Right. Oh his sex drive is low with OP but he is all about screwing other women. That says something ... [snip!] ... about the OP and his feelings towards her, sexually. He has a low sex drive...with her. She should probably work on that."


:roll: you should work on reading the OP. It's my sex drive is low, not his.

doors33 1 child; Tonawanda, New York 478 posts
Dec 22nd '12
Quoting .:Stacy Renee:.:" Making a thread of this nature is going to open a door for people to tell you all the reasons that it's ... [snip!] ... Do what feels right for your relationship. Just because other people don't understand or agree doesn't mean it's not for you guys. Nobody else knows what goes on & feels right in your marriage, only what goes on & feels right for their marriage. Different strokes for different folks."


:!::!::!:
This, exactly.

doors33 1 child; Tonawanda, New York 478 posts
Dec 22nd '12

OP, maybe all you need is a good date night to reestablish your relationship with your DH, because it doesn't look like he's going to be going for the whole open relationship thing from what you said. Maybe leave your LO at a family member's house for a few hours and really try to focus on YOU TWO.



Sometimes, if there's a low sex drive, there are other problems you need to look at other than just the sex.

Jacob'sKeeper 2 kids; some little town, MT, United States 9806 posts
Dec 22nd '12
Quoting doors33:" OP, maybe all you need is a good date night to reestablish your relationship with your DH, because it ... [snip!] ... on YOU TWO. Sometimes, if there's a low sex drive, there are other problems you need to look at other than just the sex. "


Honestly things are great between us. I just haven't been all into having sex lately. We have sex maybe once a week. We do need a date night, the neighbors offered to watch the boys on NYE for us so we can go out. They have a nice steak and shrimp supper at a place here in town on that night. I think people got the wrong idea thinking that our relationship is rocky, it really isn't. We have a great marriage.

Jacob'sKeeper 2 kids; some little town, MT, United States 9806 posts
Dec 22nd '12
Quoting Jas ♥:" Well I apologize but you can keep your eye rolls to yourself. Its still a bad idea and I still think its just as stupid. *shrug*"


Think what you want, fine by me. Like I said before to each their own. Idk why you got all fired up about it anyway.

doors33 1 child; Tonawanda, New York 478 posts
Dec 22nd '12

It's not that I think you guys have a rocky marriage at all. This kind of thing happens all the time with long term relationships, and especially with a LO running around, it's even more common. Sometimes, there are just too many things going on around you to think about sex, and by the time you ARE thinking about it, it's just like... meh. Maybe later.



Sometimes just switching up your routine a little bit can help, which was why I was suggesting a date night or something. (Have fun by the way. :D ) If that doesn't help, maybe buy some toys you guys could both use? I'm not big into toys myself, but they definitely have their purposes.

Jacob'sKeeper 2 kids; some little town, MT, United States 9806 posts
Dec 22nd '12
Quoting Jas ♥:" Who's fired up? Lol. Its your marriage, not mine. I'm not against married couples having 3 somes or ... [snip!] ... your sexual problems with letting your husband have sex with other women is not a great solution. Like I said, its stupid."


Yeah, I get that. I don't know why I put me having a low sex drive in there, it really doesn't bother him or anything. Idk, I just think I would be willing to have an open relationship with him. It's something I've thought for a while.

lolajessup 3 kids; 1 angel baby; Beaverton, Michigan 44076 posts
Dec 22nd '12

<blockquote><b>Quoting bananapancakes:</b>" Honestly things are great between us. I just haven't been all into having sex lately. We have sex maybe ... [snip!] ... night. I think people got the wrong idea thinking that our relationship is rocky, it really isn't. We have a great marriage."</blockquote>




I don't think once a week is low sex drive. I think that's being busy adults and parents. I think once a month would be low sex drive if it was like "eh I could take it or Leave it".