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user banned California 36390 posts
Dec 17th '12

<blockquote><b>Quoting ~Ice Princess~:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting Jude the Super k******r:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting ... [snip!] ... can get married) though. If you can get married and refer to someone as such, why not just do it? Overall, I don't care though."</blockquote>




Well not.everyone can is the problrm

......... nowhere, NW, United States 25972 posts
Dec 17th '12

<blockquote><b>Quoting Jude the Super k******r:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting ~Ice Princess~:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting Jude ... [snip!] ... someone as such, why not just do it? Overall, I don't care though."</blockquote> Well not.everyone can is the problrm"</blockquote>




And I agree with that for same sex couples/poly..but for a man and woman? They most certainly can. It's like 20-100 bucks..

LumpySpacePrincess 2 kids; New Zealand 17060 posts
Dec 17th '12

Don't care. If that's what they want to call themselves then sure.



Back in the day you didn't have to go through a wedding ceremony to be married. You just had to get engaged in front of people. Before that just sleeping together meant you were married. So meh. Semantics.



Plus, two people calling themselves husband and wife isn't going to change my life in any way whatsoever so whatever. Do what you want. It's not hurting anyone.

MissMommyJacquie 1 child; Nebraska 460 posts
Dec 18th '12

Yes it bothers me because there is a big difference between being boyfriend and girlfriend than husband and wife. Lots of people say that marriage is just a piece of paper but to me its so much more than that. The sacrament and bond of two people that truely love each that want to be entwined for life is a beautiful thing.

Vivialopod 2 kids; Vantaa, Finland 42788 posts
Dec 18th '12

Only if they're too damn young to even get married :lol: My sister calls her girlfriend her wifey all the time and I just :roll:



Otherwise... idfc.

AFK Australia 18873 posts
Dec 18th '12

<blockquote><b>Quoting Derpy the Duck:</b>" Nope. Because SO and I are one of those couples. We've been together going on 9 years now. We're not ... [snip!] ... laws and he calls mine his in laws as well. We are not some high school fling so excuse me if I don't call him my "boyfriend." "</blockquote>




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This. We've been together for 7 years. I never wanted to get married but he always did, now I've been thinking lately maybe I do want to get married because we've already been living in a marriage-like committed relationship for over 6.5 years anyway. I will refer to him as my husband, say if I'm talking about him with say the cashier at the grocery store or something and I know he talks about me as his wife.



Boyfriend/girlfriend just doesn't fit for what we are.



Just to add, I'm not fond of the "hubby/wifey" terms, in general.

The Master Due September 8; 2 kids; Perth, Australia 20023 posts
Dec 18th '12

I've been with my partner 9 years, lived together 8 1/2 , and been legal defacto for 8. I believe I'm fully within my rights to call him whatever I want

justanothamotha Due January 20; 130 kids; Climax, Michigan 5120 posts
Dec 18th '12

Does it bother when couples who are not legally married call each other "husband" or "wife"?
It annoys me.
If so, why? It would annoy me if you called a child you watch your son or daughter. There is a difference in the legal status of a non-married & a married couple. If you aren't married, then calling someone your spouse is inaccurate. I like facts....and things that are clear.
Do you feel like it's an insult to "real" married couples?

No - I just think it shows they lack an understanding of what the real legal differences are between unmarried partners & married couples. You can call him your Dh all you want but he isn't your Dh & if he is in an accident & someone has to make medical decisions for him, it WON'T be you doing it. You aren't legally allowed to. You also aren't legally allowed a whole lot of other things. I would have been pissed if Dh had ever referred to me as his ife while we were living together.



JUST wanted to add - Dh & I were living together for 9 yrs when we got married - and I still never referred to him as anything but my BF....because legally that is all he was. It is dishonest ot me to say it any other way.

Nameless Ghoul 2 kids; Sweden 6452 posts
Dec 18th '12
Quoting Madi's*Mama:" It depends. If they have been dating for like a month, yes it bugs me and I find it insulting but if they've been together years I don't care."


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The Master Due September 8; 2 kids; Perth, Australia 20023 posts
Dec 18th '12
Quoting justanothamotha:" Does it bother when couples who are not legally married call each other "husband" or "wife"? It annoys ... [snip!] ... referred to him as anything but my BF....because legally that is all he was. It is dishonest ot me to say it any other way."


I have all the same legal rights as a married couple being legal defacto (in the states I believe you call it common law), does that mean I still have to call him my boyfriend even though IMO he's so much more.

justanothamotha Due January 20; 130 kids; Climax, Michigan 5120 posts
Dec 18th '12
Quoting The (super kinky) Master:" I have all the same legal rights as a married couple being legal defacto (in the states I believe you ... [snip!] ... I believe you call it common law), does that mean I still have to call him my boyfriend even though IMO he's so much more."

Common law marriage is a form of marriage. We don't have that in most states here, but some do. I was not common law with Dh even if we lived that way 20 yrs as there is no common law in my state.



There is a legal definition to common law marriage.

user banned California 36390 posts
Dec 18th '12

<blockquote><b>Quoting justanothamotha:</b>" Does it bother when couples who are not legally married call each other "husband" or "wife"? It annoys ... [snip!] ... referred to him as anything but my BF....because legally that is all he was. It is dishonest ot me to say it any other way."</blockquote>




What about in cases where the two cannot legally be married but they have a ceremony anyway?

The Master Due September 8; 2 kids; Perth, Australia 20023 posts
Dec 18th '12
Quoting justanothamotha:" Common law marriage is a form of marriage. We don't have that in most states here, but some do. I was ... [snip!] ... Dh even if we lived that way 20 yrs as there is no common law in my state. There is a legal definition to common law marriage."


Here there's legal definitions as well thats why its called legal defacto. However its not marriage, which I'm beginning to think is different in the US. Here I can't just go to the courthouse and get a marriage certificate for $20. The cheapest wedding is a registry wedding which at its cheapest is $700, and thats to book the room, music, and celebrant. The very cheapest non-registry wedding will set me back $1500 and that's solely for the celebrant and marriage certificate.



I have far more important things in my life to spend that money on.

The Doctor 2 kids; Boulder, CO, United States 60775 posts
Dec 18th '12

In general, I don't care.



But when someone starts calling their SO of a week or two "hubby" or "wifey".... yeah, I'll admit. I roll my eyes. :lol:

GTFOGTFO 6 kids; Italy 5611 posts
Dec 18th '12

I couldn't care less what people call each other.