Quoting May ♥:" Ugh. So ever since I was pregnant SO has said that he would tell DD that Santa isn't real. He says "It's ... [snip!] ... best things about childhood and I don't want her to miss out because her dad is being a stubborn ass. Don't know what to do..."
We don't do santa here, but only because we make Christmas more about Jesus. I was raised the same and still had the spirit of christmas and felt the christmas magic and all that! Thing is, my husband and I BOTH agree on this. If you and your husband disagree he should not be telling her santa isn't real until you two come to an agreement. She's small now so you have awhile to decide.. talk to him about it..
Quoting Legendary Amanda:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Jude the Super k******r:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting ... [snip!] ... some people believe in magical elephants and trees, it's whatever, You don't raise kids to f**k with other people's beliefs."
Why should my little sister be forced to lie when she has santa shoved down her throat at every instance? There is a general double standard in that I have noticed. In that she is expected to keep her mouth shut, and go along, but parents pitch the b***h when she pipes up she doesn't believe.
Quoting EnnaBennaBanana:" We don't do santa here, but only because we make Christmas more about Jesus. I was raised the same and ... [snip!] ... her santa isn't real until you two come to an agreement. She's small now so you have awhile to decide.. talk to him about it.. "
Quoting MysticWitchKat:" *rolls eyes*"
Why the rolling of eyes? That was quite rude.
I was offering advice.. I'm sorry you get botherd easily.
Lie to your child. Please, do. It's for a greater good.
You will make their childhood so special and full of memories of this magical Santa.
Anyways, what is childhood but a dream world, full of fantasy and fairytale?
every child whose parents let them believe.
Quoting MysticWitchKat:" Why should my little sister be forced to lie when she has santa shoved down her throat at every instance? ... [snip!] ... that she is expected to keep her mouth shut, and go along, but parents pitch the b***h when she pipes up she doesn't believe."
I don't think she should be forced to lie. I also think she needs to be aware though that other people do believe. As long as that is done, I think it is fine. If others are allowed ot speak their beliefs so is she. That is as silly as saying a Hindu child shouldn't speak about not believing in Jesus just because that child lives in a culture that is predominantly Christian. It is MY job, if I want to teach my child Santa is real, to also let them known not all people believe that & that is okay.
I have a lot of mixed feelings about this...
We don't do any of the naughty/nice things, but DD does talk about Santa, and wants to leave him cookies.
I'm not Religious, I do enjoy the holidays, though. If she asks questions, I won't lie to her. I understand the argument against it. I do.
But it really chaps my butt when you're viewed as an awful and deceitful parent if you let Santa happen. (I also really hate the argument that parents do all the work, and then someone else gets the credit for the hard work they've put in all year to buy presents, blah blah... I don't need credit for giving DD things to entertain and learn from. That's my job as a parent. And if she was unappreciative, or if she whines and cries for something, she damn well knows she's not going to get it. And that has nothing to do with Santa.)
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Quoting Legendary Amanda:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Fatty McRunnerPants:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting ... [snip!] ... told this already."</blockquote> Lol what was that even? That surely didn't help my side any more than it hurt yours."
IKR? It's like WTF?
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My mom never told us that Santa was real but I also never believed in him. She didn't go out of her way to make us believe. She just signed some presents from Santa, but we were really smart kids and actually always thought it was fake. It wasn't mean, my childhood was not robbed because I didn't believe in Santa.
I plan to tell my kids ABOUT Santa but not that he is a real person who flies around the world in one night. I will let them play along. We never set cookies out or anything like that when I was a kid. I always knew the presents were from my mom. Personally I would rather my kids not allow some imaginary person to take credit for MY hard work. I want them to know their parents work hard and that they need to appreciate that. I'll still let them play along, but they're going to know that it's just for fun and not real.
Quoting Legendary Amanda:" <blockquote><b>Quoting khigh:</b>" <blockquote><b>Quoting Legendary Amanda:</b>" ... [snip!] ... hate the joy of children and will purposely ruin it for my children." And then the p***y shop would just be closed up for him."
Not believing in Santa doesn't take away imagination and happiness from children.
Quoting Fatty McRunnerPants:" Empty threats about some imaginary figure giving you coal intead of a new iPad is bad parenting IMO. ... [snip!] ... that is neither real nor tangible. Teaches the child to behave for presents and not because it's the right thing to do."