Baby only stops crying when held London's Mommy ☼ 1 child; Ontario 97 posts
Dec 11th '12

Not only does she stop crying when she's held but she will only fall asleep if she's being held and I don't want her to get into this habit. She is now 3 weeks and 2 days old, would you say it's okay to leave her in her crib to cry it out? She's been fed, changed, etc, all of that. As I said the only way she will stop crying or fall asleep is if she's held.

EasyComeEasyGo 2 kids; 2 angel babies; Maryland 8035 posts
Dec 11th '12

I would not let your 3 week old CIO, just hold her.

ETA: when was her last bm? could she be constipated? also, it could be colic or something stomach related..if her crying is non stop, I would call your dr.

user banned (boy); 2 kids; f**king, Austria 36337 posts
Dec 11th '12

She just came out of the most comfiest womb. She wants to be next to her momma. Hold her, and don't let her cry it out.

That would tear my heart up.

XJS♡6.14 1 child; Panama City, Florida 379 posts
Dec 11th '12

Honestly, she's a baby and wants to be held. Just hold her. IMO that's way too early to CIO, but that's not for me anyway.

Vivialopod 2 kids; Vantaa, Finland 42788 posts
Dec 11th '12

She's a newborn. She wants mommy, who is all she's known to be safe for as long as she's been aware of anything. That's not a bad habit :? Just hold and comfort your kid.

Andie. 3 kids; Oregon 7883 posts
Dec 11th '12

There was a recent study that found that CIO under 6 months (I believe) is not good for baby at all.

She just wants to be close to you, she spent 9 months inside of you all snuggled in. Its a big shock to them to be born and in the world, especially at first. You can try swaddling her before she sleeps then laying her down.

2 kids; Milford, Ohio 334 posts
Dec 11th '12

Like other ladies said, she's 3 weeks, hold the babe.

Think about it she was just inside a warm, cozy, loving place for 9 months and all she wants is the comfort of her mommy.

If you need to get stuff done and you can't because you're holding her, either it can wait, or invest in a baby carrier, wrap, or sling.

melindapple 1 child; Michigan 5425 posts
Dec 11th '12

She just wants the comfort from you. I wouldn't CIO until at least 6 months. We still haven't done it yet with our DD. I'm avoiding it totally if I can, or at least putting it off until I feel it's necessary. So far though DD always has a reason to cry, even if it's just wanting comfort/to be held.

Jays*Mama 2 kids; Michigan 5689 posts
Dec 11th '12

I didn't let my baby CIO exactly. But if you lay your baby down while they are asleep, its ok to let them cry for 30 seconds. Sometimes they just cry for a few seconds when they realize you don't have them. But my baby would fall to sleep after crying a few seconds. Literally just like 10-30 seconds. If they cry more than that at that age I would pick them up.

K+J+G 2 kids; 1 angel baby; Fargo, ND, United States 4629 posts
Dec 11th '12

Welcome to being a mom. She's 3 weeks old...a newborn. It's normal for her to want to be held. Your smell, your touch, the sound of your breathing, your voice, and your heartbeat are the most comforting things to her.

London's Mommy ☼ 1 child; Ontario 97 posts
Dec 11th '12

Okay thanks ladies! :)

mom2andrew&carter 18 kids; Leesburg, Florida 2159 posts
Dec 11th '12

hes way to young to cry it out just hold her until she falls asleep. i rock my 3 month old to sleep every night and just put him in his crib gently and he usually stays asleep