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Onalee's Mummy Due August 26 (boy); 1 child; Newcastle, Australia 5355 posts
Dec 9th '12

MIL used vinegar with my SO. It seems like a better alternative and I'm sure it would have the same effect

Devil Duckie 3 kids; New York 48700 posts
Dec 9th '12
Quoting Viv, Ev & Gwen ♥:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Devil Duckie:</b>" It would be very interesting to see how many ... [snip!] ... house while their children are asleep. "</blockquote> No pot on our property ever, even if my kid isn't even home."


I'd put money on that you're not the majority.

Tarynosaurus Rex San Antonio, Texas 1271 posts
Dec 9th '12
Quoting Regina George:" That is crazy and not true. My Aunt was the sweetest woman ever and when I accidentally said f**k in ... [snip!] ... said f**k in front of her she surely did make me bite down on a bar of Dove. She would never have hit us or her children."


It absolutely is true for MANY many people. I've yet to meet someone who shoved a bar of soap in a kid's mouth who didn't feel it was appropriate to spank or belittle their children. I'm not saying every single person who does it will be more abusive (keyword *more* because I 100% believe it is abuse) but it's worth an investigation imo. And yes I believe spanking is abuse too.

Jenaren86 2 kids; Sheridan, Oregon 178 posts
Dec 9th '12

my brother always said that soap in the childs mouth was more abusive because they child could get sick not including the germs that can sit on soap can make then sick so with my 2 nieces and nephew he would get a drop of vinger and put that in there mouth if they would talk back to the point that they just would not listen, his children listen to him to this day and 2 of them are teenagers!!!! now in my case I have always felt that it is better to talk to your children, and they will talk back, I have been giving my son options and valuing his opinion since he could give it back to me, and my son listens very well, if he need disipline then its time out and normally mom can count to 3 before he is saying he is sorry and will be good, so talking is the best in my case

¡VinHaute! Kansas City, MO, United States 47397 posts
Dec 9th '12
Quoting Regina George:" Getting it in your teeth was horrid. "


True story :lol: I thought I was being all badass/smartass. Didn't think about the ill-effects :lol:

Devil Duckie 3 kids; New York 48700 posts
Dec 9th '12
Quoting Jenaren86:" my brother always said that soap in the childs mouth was more abusive because they child could get sick ... [snip!] ... time out and normally mom can count to 3 before he is saying he is sorry and will be good, so talking is the best in my case"


that's what clean fresh bars are for :roll:

Rafael's Mommy ♥ Texas 764 posts
Dec 9th '12

I got hot sauce in my mouth for talking back when I was little...that shit sucked :lol: I never experienced soap though.

Monica♥YASDYARDFR Due February 27 (girl); TTC since Jan 2011; 1 child; 2 angel babies; Beverly Hills, California 57197 posts
Dec 9th '12
Quoting Onalee's Mummy:" MIL used vinegar with my SO. It seems like a better alternative and I'm sure it would have the same effect"


If the vinegar tastes like pickles I would've enjoyed that lol

K[♥ E&C] 2 kids; Nevada 25704 posts
Dec 9th '12
Quoting Devil Duckie:" I'd put money on that you're not the majority. "


We don't have pot in our home, we don't smoke it outside of our home either. Last time I smoked was when I was 19. It's just not my thing anymore.
And I still stand with what I said originally, it "can" be a form of abuse, it certainly is a physical punishment and if taken too far it can be harmful. Many parents know when the cut off is, many don't. It's all case by case stuff.

Ecstasy 2 kids; 1 angel baby; Perth, WA, Australia 7757 posts
Dec 9th '12
Quoting Regina George:" What do you think? Is it a form of abuse to wash a child's mouth out with soap for talking back or using ... [snip!] ... curse words? Do you think it should be reportable to CPS? Do you think it would effective in cleaning up a child's vocabulary?"


In this day and age im sure it would be..



BUT



My parents used it with us kids when we were little (it was either soap or hot mustard powder or tobasco sauce) ... i tell you what, we NEVER did it again after having to go through that.



So yes, very effective in the case of me & my two siblings haha!!

AFK Australia 18873 posts
Dec 9th '12

I think it's disgusting.



Not something worth having your children taken away for though, unless it's like a regular occurrence.

khigh 1 child; Fort Sill, Oklahoma 8101 posts
Dec 9th '12
Quoting Tarynosaurus Rex:" It absolutely is true for MANY many people. I've yet to meet someone who shoved a bar of soap in a kid's ... [snip!] ... *more* because I 100% believe it is abuse) but it's worth an investigation imo. And yes I believe spanking is abuse too."


How can you judge parenting and discipline styles if you aren't a parent yourself? Have YOU been bitten by your child hard enough to draw blood multiple times?

Monica♥YASDYARDFR Due February 27 (girl); TTC since Jan 2011; 1 child; 2 angel babies; Beverly Hills, California 57197 posts
Dec 9th '12
Quoting Devil Duckie:" that's what clean fresh bars are for :roll:"


You're supposed to use the bar out of a public men's restroom for it to be effective. Duh!

Vivialopod 2 kids; Vantaa, Finland 42788 posts
Dec 9th '12

<blockquote><b>Quoting Devil Duckie:</b>" I'd put money on that you're not the majority. "</blockquote>




I don't think most people against using soap as punishment are potheads.

RushLimbaugh Due August 2; 1 child; Leander, Texas 2236 posts
Dec 9th '12

good question. I had something happen to me I rarely talk about. My mom is as nice as can be, has helped my family out in the past. But when I was a kid..she was different. I was a normal kid, never said bad words or got in trouble. I think she was kind of psycho back then. I remember we were at my grandparents house and I was sooo hungry. I knew dinner wasn't going to be served for a while, and I couldn't wait. I told my mom I was hungry, I was about 6 or 7 at the time. She tried to quell my hunger with crackers and cookies. I was still hungry, so she finally gave in to my bitching and started making tuna sandwich. Finally she gave it to me, and I was thrilled. I started eating it, and about halfway through it tasted weird, but couldn't make it out. I finally picked out the culprit..a piece of bar soap, cut up in the sandwich! since tuna and mayo is white and bar soap is white it was blended in completely. I told my mom the sandwich had soap in it, and she got mad at me for saying something stupid and told me to finish it. so i did. I was too afraid to ask for juice so I went to the bathroom and started drinking water from the faucet, drinking it, swishing it in my mouth, spitting it. I felt sick the whole night. I don't think it was physical abuse, but more emotional the fact she tampered with my food. That soap feeling was something I'll never forget.