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I think it is crossing a line! MommaOfTwoLovies 2 kids; Massachusetts 7519 posts
Dec 9th '12

What do you think?



If your DH had a client/friend/business associate who texted your DH at 130 in the morning talking about "Withdrawals?! From me of course ;-)" Your DH says its nothing, but you feel as though she has a thing for him and flirts a lot. You know your DH wouldnt cheat on you and is completely open and honest about everything. He says that he will check her and tell her not to contact him
so late anymore. Some things that have happened that make me uncomfortable:



Inviting your husband and some other business people over to her house for drinks and dinner after business hours.



Very flirty (I think)



Text from her: Sangria tonight ;-)
Text from her: LOVEEE you (from me and Alana ;-))
Text from her: Withdrawals?! From me of course ;-)



That is all I can think of right now. But, she texts him at 130am and has called him really late on more than one occassion When they were doing a business trasaction she would call him at least 10 times/day about "business related things".



DH said that she is a business asset, but if I felt really uncomfy about the situation he would cut her off for good.



I just think that knowing he has a wife and kids and still does some of the things she does that she is being disrespectful and is crossing a serious line.



DH was honest with me and said that he has checked her before but he is a little flattered that she flirts with him so he didn't really shut it down completely.



Thoughts? Am I being overreactive because of my own insecurites? Is she crossing a line? Is me feeling some type of way about the situation normal even though I trust my DH?

thewininghooker. TTC since Jan 2013; 1 child; 1 angel baby; Somewhere, In, Canada 74873 posts
Dec 9th '12

I think it's crossing a line, he's not shutting it down each time.. Therefor leading her to think its ok.

greenmamabecky☮ TTC since Jul 2013; 18 kids; Enfield, Connecticut 20987 posts
Dec 9th '12

You're better than I am because I would have already picked up DHs phone, called her, and told her skanky ass that she had better erase my husbands number out of her phone and never even think about contacting him EVER again.

Mutha. TTC since Jan 1995; 3830 posts
Dec 9th '12

My DH had a female friend that would cross the line, know that we were married & I was pregnant. I eventually told him that I didn't like it & he stopped talking to her. She was a friend since he was little, but I don't think that kind of stuff is approriate!

Logan and Noah's Momma 18 kids; North Carolina 982 posts
Dec 9th '12

I agree with you, it's completely crossing a line.. Personally for me i wouldn't of let it go on for so long. If it's nothing to him, then why is he leading her on in a way? I dunno, i'd be asking more questions and having a serious conversation with him about her.

MommaOfTwoLovies 2 kids; Massachusetts 7519 posts
Dec 9th '12
Quoting Will☮Creedence:" You're better than I am because I would have already picked up DHs phone, called her, and told her skanky ... [snip!] ... skanky ass that she had better erase my husbands number out of her phone and never even think about contacting him EVER again."


I was seriously going to do that last night because it is directly disrespecting me. I told him and warned him that he had better shut it down because if it happens again then I will deal with it myself. GAH- pisses me off!

Madi's*Mama Due November 2; 1 child; Holland, Michigan 7391 posts
Dec 9th '12

<blockquote><b>Quoting Will☮Creedence:</b>" You're better than I am because I would have already picked up DHs phone, called her, and told her skanky ... [snip!] ... skanky ass that she had better erase my husbands number out of her phone and never even think about contacting him EVER again."</blockquote>



!!!!!!!

greenmamabecky☮ TTC since Jul 2013; 18 kids; Enfield, Connecticut 20987 posts
Dec 9th '12

<blockquote><b>Quoting Conservative MAMA:</b>" I was seriously going to do that last night because it is directly disrespecting me. I told him and ... [snip!] ... and warned him that he had better shut it down because if it happens again then I will deal with it myself. GAH- pisses me off!"</blockquote>




Yeah I just don't understand what kind of woman does things like that.
What were his responses?
He should have said No I'm with my wife.

Triple "A" 34 kids; New Jersey 34482 posts
Dec 9th '12

All inappropriate in my opinion. The one that has me most curious is the withdrawals one. Why would she say that if nothing ever happened? I would shut it down. Them working together does not permit her access to his personal phone and allow her to text him all hours. Day or night.

Amanda Contento Florida 2302 posts
Dec 9th '12

Why would he even say "if your uncomfy, I will cut her off for good" WHY NOT JUST DO IT. If she is a "business asset" then why would he cut her off? Obviously he likes the attention or he would have said the FIRST time she texted him at 1am "Hey look, I am spending time with family now, it's late and there's no reason to text me that late" he should have stopped it the first time she texted him. It's time for her to chill the hell out and I would tell him it's time to stop. If she has something to say then it can wait until the next day DURING BUSINESS HOURS. What she's texting him is not business so he shouldn't EVEN look at the text after hours.

MommaOfTwoLovies 2 kids; Massachusetts 7519 posts
Dec 9th '12
Quoting Will☮Creedence:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Conservative MAMA:</b>" I was seriously going to do that last ... [snip!] ... don't understand what kind of woman does things like that. What were his responses? He should have said No I'm with my wife."


Most of his responses are short 1-2 answer texts. Like "okay". There was one that really upset me



Her: Are you in your office? I need to drop off this paperwork.
Him: I am now
Her: Coming
Him: Thats what she says.
Her: haha your terrible.



That is the only one that he has sent that made me go :shock: DH is naturally flirty and is a jokester, but I immediately said something about that. He said it was an inside joke from when she was on the phone with her father and she was trying to explain to her dad what "coming" in sexual terms meant and he made a joke out of it.

Amanda Contento Florida 2302 posts
Dec 9th '12
Quoting Conservative MAMA:" Most of his responses are short 1-2 answer texts. Like "okay". There was one that really upset me ... [snip!] ... with her father and she was trying to explain to her dad what "coming" in sexual terms meant and he made a joke out of it. "

that's not funny

greenmamabecky☮ TTC since Jul 2013; 18 kids; Enfield, Connecticut 20987 posts
Dec 9th '12

<blockquote><b>Quoting Conservative MAMA:</b>" Most of his responses are short 1-2 answer texts. Like "okay". There was one that really upset me ... [snip!] ... with her father and she was trying to explain to her dad what "coming" in sexual terms meant and he made a joke out of it. "</blockquote>




:?

Ollie's Mami+1 Due May 16 (girl); 1 child; New Jersey 272 posts
Dec 9th '12

Definitely crossing the line! My husband came home from his Christmas party on Friday night saying a notorious work slut, lol, put her hand in his shirt and rubbed his chest and tried putting her finger in between his butt. I freaked out! She's known to be way to pushy. At another party, she hooked up and have head to his friend in his car and he's married also! Where do people like this come from?!

MommaOfTwoLovies 2 kids; Massachusetts 7519 posts
Dec 9th '12
Quoting Amanda Contento:" Why would he even say "if your uncomfy, I will cut her off for good" WHY NOT JUST DO IT. If she is a ... [snip!] ... the next day DURING BUSINESS HOURS. What she's texting him is not business so he shouldn't EVEN look at the text after hours."


He admitted that he was flattered by the attention. He told me that himself. But, he said that he would tell her to keep it strictly business, but if I still feel uncomfortable that he would just tell her to loose his number regardless if she is a business asset.