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T♥B♥A Due June 27; 3 kids; 1 angel baby; Denver, CO, United States 12591 posts
Nov 30th '12
Quoting heygirlheyyy♥:" <blockquote><b>Quoting T♥B:</b>" i know there won't be anything like that happening ... [snip!] ... smoking is still legal, would you let them experiment instead of going with a bunch of friends and trying it behind your back?"


honestly... no. but it's a really hard situation because me and DH have very different opinions on it so i guess i'll just have to see :?

T♥B♥A Due June 27; 3 kids; 1 angel baby; Denver, CO, United States 12591 posts
Nov 30th '12
Quoting Heeeeeey, Sexy lady. ;):" <blockquote><b>Quoting T♥B:</b>" i know there won't be anything like that happening ... [snip!] ... my dad was too and that still did not stop me from drinking and smoking. Not that he had to worry anyways, I dislike/d both."


my dad was straight edge like yours and i drank, smoked and did drugs too... but DH is straight edge as in no alcohol, smoking, drugs, etc. ever.

b.r.i.t.t.a.n.y. 1 child; Washington 433 posts
Nov 30th '12

I had my first drink when I was 15. Started smoking weed around the same age. And by 17 I was taking ecstasy and doing prescription drugs. Needless to say, I grew out of it. My boyfriend's dad and stepmom bought alcohol for us underage, as long as we stayed in the house. They also let us smoke weed in the house too. There were many, many times when we were all upstairs just fucked up and I am not sure if they knew about it, and ignored it. Or were just oblivious to it.



I hope that when my son is curious about drugs and alcohol that he comes to me first. Rather than going to his friends. There is tons of info out there, I just want to make sure he gets the right info.

T♥B♥A Due June 27; 3 kids; 1 angel baby; Denver, CO, United States 12591 posts
Nov 30th '12
Quoting Brittany&Ethan:" I had my first drink when I was 15. Started smoking weed around the same age. And by 17 I was taking ... [snip!] ... me first. Rather than going to his friends. There is tons of info out there, I just want to make sure he gets the right info."


that's one of my main things! my parents never educated me and drugs or alcohol just said not to do it and i ended up doing a lot of stuff i never would have done if i had known the consequences

M&M12/13 Due October 15; 2 kids; noidea, TX, United States 7598 posts
Nov 30th '12

<blockquote><b>Quoting Heeeeeey, Sexy lady. ;):</b>" So there was this debate going on in Facebook and I just want to get your opinion. The way I see it, ... [snip!] ... to drink or do drugs at home rather than going out behind your back and doing them or do you feel that would be irresponsible?"</blockquote>




I never did drugs i did drink at 18 on my wedding night and ill have an ocasinal glass of wine maybe once a month but i never did anything in HS

b.r.i.t.t.a.n.y. 1 child; Washington 433 posts
Nov 30th '12
Quoting T♥B:" that's one of my main things! my parents never educated me and drugs or alcohol just said not to do it and i ended up doing a lot of stuff i never would have done if i had known the consequences"


Same with me. My parents never brought anything up with me when it came to drugs and alcohol. So I went out and found out the hard way. I hung out with a bad crowd in high school. But after I graduated, we drifted apart. My senior year, I had 2 friends die drunk driving. And in the years since, I had 3 friends die from overdosing. And 1 friend commit suicide. I am glad I just left that scene and never looked back.

Bad Things Blacksburg, SC, United States 21226 posts
Nov 30th '12

There won't be a lick of alcohol in my house, so no, I don't find it nessacary to buy it just for them to "try" it. It is more likely if you do that, they will think it is okay to do with friends as well...then might show off and get alcohol poison. DS It's not like he is going to want to stay home and get drunk around sober parents anyway.



They are going to do what they are going to do anyway and I would rather DS think he is going to get in big trouble than to think it might be cool with me after a little while. Maybe when he is thinking about the situation he will somehow picture my face crying or something...or his father angry at him.



Sorry bud, your obeying the law and me until you are out the house...pretty much.

Thorian's Mommy TTC since Jan 2016; 1 child; 1 angel baby; Westbrook, ME, United States 8464 posts
Nov 30th '12

IMO no, i dont condone(sp) underage drinking or drugs. I do not want it in my house. If he does it out of my home and gets caught then he will have to deal with the consiquences from that. I dont drink or do drugs and im not going to risk myself getting into trouble over my sons disscisions.
however his father has a different opinion so im sure there will be alot happening behind my back....its the only topic we cant agree on.

M&M12/13 Due October 15; 2 kids; noidea, TX, United States 7598 posts
Nov 30th '12

Id like to add ive still never had a beer. :p it smells gross, and i hung out with the pot heads in school and outside of school and never felt pressured to do it nor did i ever want to

Bad Things Blacksburg, SC, United States 21226 posts
Nov 30th '12
Quoting Jas ♥:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Thorian's Mommy:</b>" IMO no, i dont condone(sp) underage drinking ... [snip!] ... agree on."</blockquote> Actually, it's legal in the state of Maine to consume alcohol underage with parental consent."


Wisconsin, too.



And my friend used to go "party" with her POS mother all the time and go to bars, which landed her with two kids and fighting with alcoholism at the age of 21. I could never serve a 14/15 year old that is shit faced as a bartender. That would kill me. lol.

user banned 1 child; Golden, Colorado 28482 posts
Dec 1st '12

I'll let Lily drink in a responsible setting underage. Drugs.... depends on what it is.



I'd much rather know about it and help her be safe than ignorant to what can happen to you.

Thorian's Mommy TTC since Jan 2016; 1 child; 1 angel baby; Westbrook, ME, United States 8464 posts
Dec 1st '12

I have never had a drink or done any drugs ever and im 22. the worst ive taken is vicadon for a kidney infection. My parents have never talked to me about drugs infact they smoke weed behind my back. they deny it but i know they do. ive been per pressured more than anyone i know cuz they try and see if i will cave in. i have no interest in any of it. i know not everyone is like this but what makes you curious about the stuff? what makes you loose self control??? i guess ive always wondered this cuz i remember growing up, in the seventh grade everyone was "good" always said they would never do drugs,drink or have sex. by the time everyone came back from summer break half the class was doing drugs.

Thorian's Mommy TTC since Jan 2016; 1 child; 1 angel baby; Westbrook, ME, United States 8464 posts
Dec 1st '12
Quoting Jas ♥:" <blockquote><b>Quoting Thorian's Mommy:</b>" IMO no, i dont condone(sp) underage drinking ... [snip!] ... agree on."</blockquote> Actually, it's legal in the state of Maine to consume alcohol underage with parental consent."



ive never heard of that before. Ive always heard of parents getting into trouble for providing it and the law being no drinking under the age of 21.
either way i wont give consent.

justwanttodelete Due July 23 (girl); Switzerland 1021 posts
Dec 1st '12

i hung out with pot heads all the time...that was 95% of the kids i went to school with and i was never pressured. they would offer but i said no and no one questioned it. i had my first drink at 17..a sip of beer. after that sip i didnt drink again until i was 18 on prom night....then not again for a year or more. i didnt have sex until i was 18. my parents taught me right from wrong..explained why i shouldnt do certain things..i saw what drugs did to 3 family members and i knew i never wanted to live like that. maybe thats what kept me from drugs. i never felt the need to try anything. i also never saw my parents drink until i was 18.

S U Z I E 3 kids; Venezuela 18567 posts
Dec 1st '12

Hell no, there will be absolutely NO drug or alcohol consumption by my minor children, or anyone else's minor children, in my home! Just like I wouldn't have my daughter's boyfriend staying the night so she's not out having sex in a car or some bushes... I won't even entertain the "at least it's a safe environment" theory! :D