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Forever theirs Due July 16; 2 kids; 3 angel babies; San francisco, CA, United States 3269 posts
Nov 30th '12

I think for DH and I's relationship it would not work. Honestly all I want is him...and I would rather spend time with than anyone else if I had the time. Aslo I think relationships can be complicated enough with just two people. Adding more people in could be really unpredictable and hectic. I don't think DH would okay with the idea either...




However it does work well for some people. N since its not my life it doesn't bother me in any way. Some people need different things in there life than others.

That Girl. 2 kids; Florida 4109 posts
Nov 30th '12
Quoting ☮Sugar Magnolia:" This. Plus, I'm the jealous type. So I never could lol."


So am I. People would end up dead. (jk)

kitermom 2 kids; Beaverton, Oregon 740 posts
Nov 30th '12

An open relationship no. We are swingers though. The most important thing to us is each other's time. So if my husband were to give another women his time with out having fun with me I'd be annoyed.



I know a lot of people won't get this but it works for us.

LIVE.OUT.LOUD Due July 11 (boy); 2 kids; 1 angel baby; Lawrenceville, Georgia 1624 posts
Nov 30th '12

<blockquote><b>Quoting ☮Sugar Magnolia:</b>" This. Plus, I'm the jealous type. So I never could lol."</blockquote>




I am too. Lol I couldn't do it. My fiance would come home and it would be time for 100 questions. Lol.

kitermom 2 kids; Beaverton, Oregon 740 posts
Nov 30th '12
Quoting .Colleen.:" We tossed this around for abit. Ultimately, not for us but it was fun :oops:"


And that shows that you guys are a strong couple for being able to talk it out and recover from it.



Things haven't always gone perfectly swinging but we've had to talk out a lot and we've learned so much about ourselves and each other.

Always♥Faithful 2 kids; CHERRY POINT, North Carolina 21738 posts
Nov 30th '12

I don't have an opinion on it really. Whatever pulls someone's trigger. I am not now, nor do I believe in the future will be, part of an open marriage. My husband and I are very similar in the aspect of our marriage being between him and I only. I don't believe others are wrong for choosing to be unconventional in the sense of an open marriage though.

user banned 3 kids; Los Angeles, California 54034 posts
Nov 30th '12

I wouldn't have gotten married if I still wanted to f**k other people. I got all that out of my system in my 20's.



Whatever anyone else wants to do is fine with me, as long as everyone is consenting. Knock yourselves out.

EnnaBennaBanana Due January 21; 3 kids; Maryland 6203 posts
Nov 30th '12
Quoting LIVE.OUT.LOUD:" So I know a few women who are in open marriages/relationships. What are your opinions on this? What would ... [snip!] ... try it? Thoughts opinions? This is not based on my personal experiences. I'm just curious as to what others think about this."


I'm not going to sit and judge others.
But I would NOT be in a relationship like that. And idk if I'd want to be with a man who even asked me if we could.
I believe God gave sex as a gift for married couples to share with eachother and only eachother.

MysticWitchKat 2052 posts
Nov 30th '12
Quoting Fancy Asparagus Beef:" If I were just in a relationship, I might go for it. But, in a marriage, I feel like there's really ... [snip!] ... a ceremony? I married my husband because I could see myself with him and only him for the rest of my life and he did the same. "


You just hit the nail right on the head though. Just because someone deems to spend the rest of their life with someone does not mean they always desire to f**k only that person. Many people can put a disconnect between sex, and emotions.

MysticWitchKat 2052 posts
Nov 30th '12
Quoting Fancy Asparagus Beef:" If I were just in a relationship, I might go for it. But, in a marriage, I feel like there's really ... [snip!] ... a ceremony? I married my husband because I could see myself with him and only him for the rest of my life and he did the same. "

double...

MysticWitchKat 2052 posts
Nov 30th '12
Quoting They call me mama.:" I think for DH and I's relationship it would not work. Honestly all I want is him...and I would rather ... [snip!] ... people. N since its not my life it doesn't bother me in any way. Some people need different things in there life than others."


Usually the open aspect is just for sex nothing else.

The Doctor 2 kids; Boulder, CO, United States 60775 posts
Nov 30th '12
Quoting MysticWitchKat:" Usually the open aspect is just for sex nothing else. "


There are many varieties.



Some couples are ok with having full relationships with other people-- emotions and all.

.t a y l o r. 3 kids; Indiana 3847 posts
Nov 30th '12
Quoting MysticWitchKat:" You just hit the nail right on the head though. Just because someone deems to spend the rest of their ... [snip!] ... someone does not mean they always desire to f**k only that person. Many people can put a disconnect between sex, and emotions."

That's just what I'm saying, though. You don't have to connect sex to emotions to think it's wrong to f**k other people while you're married.
Marriage is a commitment to one person, in ALL aspects of your life, forever. To stray in any way would make the marriage in it's entirety meaningless. So, why?
I understand open relationships, they don't hold the type of commitment a marriage does. So, if you can't see yourself staying faithful in all aspects of your life to one person, don't get married to that person. Simple.

MysticWitchKat 2052 posts
Nov 30th '12
Quoting The Doctor:" There are many varieties. Some couples are ok with having full relationships with other people-- emotions and all."


Yes well that falls under a more Polymory situation which I would distinguish from just an open relationship. When people tell me 'open relationship' it usually just means they want a f**k buddy or 2.

The Doctor 2 kids; Boulder, CO, United States 60775 posts
Nov 30th '12
Quoting Fancy Asparagus Beef:" That's just what I'm saying, though. You don't have to connect sex to emotions to think it's wrong to ... [snip!] ... if you can't see yourself staying faithful in all aspects of your life to one person, don't get married to that person. Simple."


Just for shits and giggles....



What makes how you define a marriage any more valid than how two other consenting adults define a marriage?



I just have to play devil's advocate for a hot second. haha