Can't help but feel guilty mehhhhh Minnesota 368 posts
Nov 29th '12

I have a married friend who has been TTC since almost 2 years ago. And it just isn't happening. I feel horrible, because I post ultrasounds and statuses a lot. It's to the point I hide them from her.

She's happy for me, or so she says, but I wonder if deep down, she resents me. I got pregnant on accident after only being with SO for a week and a half. But she's been trying forever.

I don't know if it's normal to feel guilty or what, but I do.

user banned California 36390 posts
Nov 29th '12

Totally normal. My aunt and I were pregnant at the same time. I was aix weeks steady with SO, she was married and TTC after a missed miscarriage. She really was happy for me. Just remember it's posaible to be happy for someone else and sad for yourself too.

XJS♡6.14 1 child; Panama City, Florida 379 posts
Nov 29th '12

I've been in a similar situation (but we were actually trying) and it's hard when you have friends who are also trying to get pregnant and it just isn't happening for them. Sadly, the couple stopped being friends with us because of it. I felt guilty for a while, but eventually they had their baby and still do this day won't speak to us.

bloopbloop♥ 2 kids; 1 angel baby; Illinois 14726 posts
Nov 29th '12

I'm sure she does feel upset but you can't withhold your happiness. I have a cousin who has been trying for years and it was killing me to tell her but she seems fine about it.

Commander Shepard TTC since Aug 2016; 2 kids; Jacksonville, Florida 6447 posts
Nov 29th '12

My BIL and his wife have been trying and just found out that they probably wont be able to have kids. I feel really guilty and so horrible that we got pregnant on accident. I honestly think that they didn't come over to MIL's on Thanksgiving because of me. :(