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Cast Your Vote:

    • Natural, didn't tear. -- Votes: 7
    • Natural, did tear. -- Votes: 12
    • Epidural, didn't tear. -- Votes: 15
    • Epidural, did tear. -- Votes: 21
    • I had a c-section. -- Votes: 14
Cakes. 1 child; Michigan 2837 posts
Nov 28th '12

I didn't have an epidural but I did have an intrathecal (sp?), which didn't make me numb from the waist down so I knew when I needed to start pushing. I didn't tear at all either and pushed her out like 10 minutes.

Mrs. Conan O'Brien 3 kids; Colorado 21082 posts
Nov 28th '12
Quoting kthx.:" Yeah I know it's easier to prevent tearing if going natural... because you can feel it. I'm just REALLY ... [snip!] ... about tearing. That's the one thing I'm scared most of when I give birth. I don't know why. And I'll cry if I have to get cut."


yea it definitely sounds bad but I feel better about it going all natural. I read Ina May's book "Guide to Childbirth" & there were tons of birth stories in there (all of them natural births) & only like, a few stories did they tear, & not much at all. so I feel hopeful, lol.

heygirlheyyy♥ 1 child; Iowa 1303 posts
Nov 28th '12

I went all natural and didn't tear. I walked a lot and had a lot of sex lol, I don't know if that contributed to anything though;p

justanothamotha Due January 20; 130 kids; Climax, Michigan 5120 posts
Nov 28th '12

My experience was that I could not feel the tearing until after the fact & an epi makes tearing more likely. With #2 I was a bot more prepared & large & in charge (I was totally out of it with #1 due to long labor, being overwhelmed, would even et up to push so FLAT on my back) & squatted & tore so slightly my hemmorhoids were more of a bother than my couple of stitches.



If you think labor is too intense, than an epi often helps - if you wan tot feel good when labor is done, go without the epi. The way I figure it (and I had long labors that were hard back labor) - I wanted it to be as safe as possible & feel as much like myself as I could as fast as I could. Going med free DOES give you that. It also increases your odds significantly of less interventions & no c-section.



Whatever you do - don't let them cut you. They cut me with #1, 3 times & then I still tore through my rectal muscle (and yes - I am serious when I say I didn't feel it - I was in a long hard labor that was far more intense than what was happening down below). Your babies head puts pressure on nerves that help to block vaginal pain as well remember. So although you are feeling stuff, it is not the way you are imagining you feel it.



HOWEVER - if the ONLY reason you don't want an epi is because you don't want a needle in your back, labor will likely get you over that fear. You're going to have to dig deeper for some other reasoning & conviction to actually not cave when the going gets rough.

✨Kati✨ Due May 20; 1 child; Memphis, TN, United States 3232 posts
Nov 28th '12

I got the epidural and had 2nd degree tearing. The epidural was still worth it to me.

kthx. TTC since Mar 2016; 1 child; Harrison, OH, United States 69890 posts
Nov 28th '12
Quoting snglemama:" I had sections.. but as a L&D nurse.. I can tell you... you dont' really feel tearing, or getting ... [snip!] ... what it has to do with epidural. You;ll either tear or not.. your pain control methods won't effect how far you can stretch."


It was more along the lines of having an epidural... you can't feel when you're pushing too hard. Versus going natural... you can feel when you're going to fast/hard.

Mrs. Conan O'Brien 3 kids; Colorado 21082 posts
Nov 28th '12
Quoting kthx.:" It was more along the lines of having an epidural... you can't feel when you're pushing too hard. Versus going natural... you can feel when you're going to fast/hard."


:!:

kthx. TTC since Mar 2016; 1 child; Harrison, OH, United States 69890 posts
Nov 28th '12
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✨Kati✨ Due May 20; 1 child; Memphis, TN, United States 3232 posts
Nov 28th '12

You're going to be in so much pain,you wont even care about that needle. I was never so happy in my life to get a needle stuck in my spine. I begged for that shit.

kthx. TTC since Mar 2016; 1 child; Harrison, OH, United States 69890 posts
Nov 28th '12
Quoting justanothamotha:" My experience was that I could not feel the tearing until after the fact & an epi makes tearing more ... [snip!] ... You're going to have to dig deeper for some other reasoning & conviction to actually not cave when the going gets rough."


Part of the reason I don't want the epi is what you stated -- I want to be aware and able to feel alright after giving birth. I don't want to be groggy and out of it. The needle is a big factor, but there are other factors in not wanting it. I'm just scared I'll cave.

user banned Due July 3; 2 kids; Australia 14351 posts
Nov 28th '12

Epidural with my first and was cut. Failed apidural with my second so felt everything and tore. I felt him crowning but never felt myself tear, so much is going on down there that u dont even think about the tearing hurting

Grniz 2 kids; Illinois 45725 posts
Nov 28th '12
Quoting justanothamotha:" My experience was that I could not feel the tearing until after the fact & an epi makes tearing more ... [snip!] ... You're going to have to dig deeper for some other reasoning & conviction to actually not cave when the going gets rough."


needle in my back was the nly reason I didn't want an epidural.
made it without.
with pitocin induced labor lol.
I was pissed as shit when the nurse said she had one ordered.
"just in case"
f**k you b***h.

__Julia__ 1 child; Phoenix, Arizona 136 posts
Nov 28th '12

I had an episiotomy and while I was pregnant I was so afraid of getting cut or tearing but honestly (and I don't know if this was just me) I barely felt it considering all of the other pain I was going through.. I think it had something to do with the pressure down there too. So I would think tearing would be the same way. Getting stitched up after wasn't fun though.

kthx. TTC since Mar 2016; 1 child; Harrison, OH, United States 69890 posts
Nov 28th '12
Quoting Kati Iss Rollinn:" You're going to be in so much pain,you wont even care about that needle. I was never so happy in my life to get a needle stuck in my spine. I begged for that shit."


I've heard the pain is intense... but, our bodies are made to do this. So I want to at least attempt it, lol.

justanothamotha Due January 20; 130 kids; Climax, Michigan 5120 posts
Nov 28th '12
Quoting kthx.:" Part of the reason I don't want the epi is what you stated -- I want to be aware and able to feel alright ... [snip!] ... be groggy and out of it. The needle is a big factor, but there are other factors in not wanting it. I'm just scared I'll cave."

Why are you scared you'll cave? What about labor makes you think you can't handle it?



My mantra is - "Pain can make you wan tot die but it will NOT kill you" and I just kept saying it. LOL