Quoting Buzz and Almond Joys momm:" <blockquote><b>Quoting -A-:</b>" im really in hawaii and she realy moved from texas ... [snip!] ... And just a side note- maybe she needs some special time with you? You are her tempory mom even if she won't admit it."
:!: agreed. For it to work both will have to come to an agreement/understanment.
punish the 12 yr old shes living in ur house if she dont listen to u make her ground her, time out, take her things away but dont sit there and not do something
<blockquote><b>Quoting MyPurrrtyBabies:</b>" Tough, tough. Its OP's DD room and if OP's SIL doesn't want her stuff messed with SHE needs to put it ... [snip!] ... doesn't want to be around a 2 yr old......shit the 2 yr old probally doesn't want to be around a bossy-impatient 12 yr old, lol"</blockquote>
Its not always black and white like that.
<blockquote><b>Quoting -A-:</b>" as of right now no the reason she is here is cause her mom lost her job and has no money to support ... [snip!] ... not wanting to be around DD all the time but what else can i do, we live in a 2bd house cant just up and move cause of her. "</blockquote>
Oh wow, that sounds hard. She is. robably really hurt amd projecting ho she was raised onto the kid. Honestly I had a shitty life growing up, also lived with randompeople. I learned to become a better person when my dad loved me unconditionally and talked about my problems with me. He also taught me all I know about compassion and morality. I got a late start learning at fourteen. I was not nice or personable until living with him. She probably needs someone to tw ach her and talk to her. Hard situation for all of you, good luck.
Quoting ♥ darah ♥:" <blockquote><b>Quoting MyPurrrtyBabies:</b>" Tough, tough. Its OP's DD room and if ... [snip!] ... doesn't want to be around a bossy-impatient 12 yr old, lol"</blockquote> Its not always black and white like that."
Well, if she doesn't want her stuff messed with she should keep it put up...there is no grey area for that, that is just common sense. I feel bad for OP's sil bc she probally is going through a hard time being with out her Mother, living in a unfamilar house and location BUT she knows a 2 yr lives in the house and gets into everything, OP's sil had cabinets to put her stuff away in yet she doesn't.
Maybe OP and her SIL can come into a agreement/arrangement or understandment on what they can do. Putting a 2 yr old in time out only goes so far, she( the sil ) is gonna have to put her stuff up.
Good luck OP, keep us updated!