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    • YES -- Votes: 54
    • NO -- Votes: 17
Crystallight 2 kids; 1065 posts
Dec 1st '12
Quoting T-Swizzle+2:" It sounds like he's looking for an excuse to get in your pants :?"


EnnaBennaBanana Due January 21; 3 kids; Maryland 6203 posts
Dec 1st '12
Quoting C A R M E L A:" this guy I am talking too...he's a really sweet guy, we've been talking for a while. ( only ... [snip!] ... But, do you think there needs to be physical attraction, for a relationship ? Please don't laugh...I really don't know."

Personally I would back up away from this guy now. He needs to "test" out sex before a relationship starts? For me that doesn't seem like someone I'd want to try and be with at all. Infact I wouldn't want to.
If you are ok with it.. then that's something you need to think about.
But I honestly think dating and taking things slow, growing close emotinally first is what's best.

AwkwardTurtle 34 kids; Syracuse, NY, United States 2085 posts
Dec 1st '12

If you sleep with him to "see if hes attracted" to you, you will be set up for an emotional disaster. He clearly wants to smurf without a relationship. What happens when you do it and he still doesent want the relationship, just the b***y c**l? Id dump him now, since it sounds like you actually want a relationship.

_______Nope_________ 23772 posts
Dec 1st '12

You know if there is any attraction first. It sounds like he wants to have no strings attached sex. You don't "try before you buy" when it comes to relationships, that's just stupid (not meaning you, but him). It seems like such a line too. . . And I wouldn't want to be with someone who felt that way. "Before I can decide if I want to be in a relationship with you, I need to find out how good our sex is." That's just silly. . . Relationships aren't marriage. . .

I'd back away from him personally. It's either a line he uses to get into bed with girls, or he honestly thinks that and has his priorities skewed IMO.

C A R M E L A💜 1 child; Mahopac, New York 16272 posts
Dec 1st '12

thanks ladies !!

Kaylee Nelson 2 kids; Mt Juliet, Tennessee 17 posts
Dec 2nd '12

You'd think he would feel it just by kissing you. I mean I do. That's where I feel the connection. Is break it off with this guy. They all seem nice at first. He is putting it nicely that he just wants sex

MysticWitchKat 2052 posts
Dec 2nd '12
Quoting khigh:" I don't think so, but I've been dating SO for almost 8 weeks now and we've only had sex a handful of ... [snip!] ... He would rather hang out and discuss current events and politics than get down and dirty and that's why I really like him."

o.O I also originally read that for 8 years.

MysticWitchKat 2052 posts
Dec 2nd '12

Unless you are asexual yes.