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WTF Executionista Due May 20; 3 kids; Chatsworth, Georgia 568 posts
Nov 26th '12

So my boyfriend of 2 years tells me the day before thanksgiving he's lost all emotion toward me, but not just me, toward everything.
He says then that he doesn't want to break up, but he doesn't feel anything nonetheless. But 2 days later he doesn't want to be touched by me, or even for me to be close to him. Just to be left alone. He then says that he feels trapped here, that he is either trapped at work or trapped here with me. But he still hasn't changed his relationship status on facebook from being engaged to me even though hes always online.
He won't pack up and leave even though he's got the car and the main income and the total ability to leave.
We've been arguing more lately, but I didn't know it would come to this.
Any advice?

Chibs 2 kids; Missouri 12147 posts
Nov 26th '12

maybe he doesnt want to leave?
he sounds depressed

drunk faith1 1 child; Alabama 10081 posts
Nov 26th '12

That's how I started feeling when I was developing depression.

Severus Snape 2 kids; Tennessee 3568 posts
Nov 26th '12
Quoting Executionista:" So my boyfriend of 2 years tells me the day before thanksgiving he's lost all emotion toward me, but ... [snip!] ... income and the total ability to leave. We've been arguing more lately, but I didn't know it would come to this. Any advice?"


You may or many not want to hear this.. but I'd dump his ass. Any man who has no emotion towards you doesn't deserve for your emotion towards him. He's not leaving and packing because he A) doesn't want to be alone or B) doesn't have anywhere else to go. Either way if he really feels no emotion towards you, the second he finds either of those he's out of there. I suggest breaking it off before he starts looking for someone else that he does have emotions for. I'm sorry you're going through this.

Executionista Due May 20; 3 kids; Chatsworth, Georgia 568 posts
Nov 26th '12
Quoting ♡Sarah♡ + 2:" He sounds depressed, would he go into see a doctor?"

He did tell me he's depressed but he's not good with communicating.
He said he doesn't want to be with me, yet he won't leave?
That's the part that's strange to me

drunk faith1 1 child; Alabama 10081 posts
Nov 26th '12
Quoting Executionista:" He did tell me he's depressed but he's not good with communicating. He said he doesn't want to be with me, yet he won't leave? That's the part that's strange to me"

Maybe he doesn't realize he's depressed, or doesn't know how to talk about it. I've been dealing with it for over a year and still can't bring myself to say 'I'm sad' out loud.

drunk faith1 1 child; Alabama 10081 posts
Nov 26th '12
Quoting Big'n:" Op. if you love him, the best you can do is support him and try to get him the help he needs. He sounds ... [snip!] ... a reason he hasn't left. He may say he doesn't want to be with you, but maybe he just doesn't want to be anywhere. He's numb."

This. Couldn't explain it better myself.

Lilly and Laya's momma 3 kids; 4 angel babies; Chesapeake, Virginia 8559 posts
Nov 26th '12
Quoting Jas ♥:" You would dump someone you loved because they were going through an issue? That's not what love is. You ... [snip!] ... they are dealing with personal and life situations. You're suppose to be there for them. You must be one shitty ass gf/wife."

This!! Sounds like when things get difficult she is the type that will just say F U and leave

Executionista Due May 20; 3 kids; Chatsworth, Georgia 568 posts
Nov 26th '12

He said he's depressed and he doesn't think the fighting will change. He said he needs a break from everything and a change and he wants to leave by himself. But he won't go

Severus Snape 2 kids; Tennessee 3568 posts
Nov 26th '12
Quoting Executionista:" He did tell me he's depressed but he's not good with communicating. He said he doesn't want to be with me, yet he won't leave? That's the part that's strange to me"


This is why I said dump him. He may very well be depressed but If a guy was telling me that he didn't want to be with me anymore and felt no emotions towards me then I'd leave him. No reason to stick around with someone who doesn't want to be with me. But maybe that's not what's going on. It was just my first impression.

Severus Snape 2 kids; Tennessee 3568 posts
Nov 26th '12
Quoting Jas ♥:" You would dump someone you loved because they were going through an issue? That's not what love is. You ... [snip!] ... they are dealing with personal and life situations. You're suppose to be there for them. You must be one shitty ass gf/wife."


That's not what I meant. I was under the impression that he just walked up to her and said "I don't feel anything towards you anymore and I don't want to be with you." not that he was going through a hard time. Obviously if he's going through something than I would say differently. Maybe I had the wrong impression. Way to be a b***h though :D

Severus Snape 2 kids; Tennessee 3568 posts
Nov 26th '12

If it is just depression and not him being an a*****e then obviously I'd recommend supporting him in any way you can. Recommend therapy or even medication and watch for any negative signs. I hope he feels better and you both work it all out.

NerfHerder 2 kids; Denver, CO, United States 6255 posts
Nov 26th '12
Quoting Executionista:" So my boyfriend of 2 years tells me the day before thanksgiving he's lost all emotion toward me, but ... [snip!] ... income and the total ability to leave. We've been arguing more lately, but I didn't know it would come to this. Any advice?"


This literally just happened to my friend. Turns out he was cheating on her, and now they're divorced.

Severus Snape 2 kids; Tennessee 3568 posts
Nov 26th '12
Quoting BeccaSauraus:" This literally just happened to my friend. Turns out he was cheating on her, and now they're divorced."


Exactly my concerns. Good luck OP!! I really hope it all works out :)

NerfHerder 2 kids; Denver, CO, United States 6255 posts
Nov 26th '12
Quoting ♡Sarah♡ + 2:" I think he'd be more eager to leave her if he had another relationship going."


That's what I thought when my friend told me about him acting this way. She came home one day to him f**king another woman. So, it happens. He said he had no feelings and did exactly the same things OP is describing.