We call DD Pants McGee and she gets really pissed about it. Do you think I'm doing permanent damage? :lol:
Some people dont like when I call my oldest daughter an a*****e... but.. she's an a*****e. lol
I'll tell mykids they're being a brat, punk, or butt head when the are. I never raise my voice while saying it, I would never call them dumb stupid etc.
<blockquote><b>Quoting Man. Bear. Pig.:</b>" Some people dont like when I call my oldest daughter an a*****e... but.. she's an a*****e. lol"</blockquote>
Mine are a*****es too. :(
There are too many variables in the situation that can influence the outcome. The child's personality, the parents demeanor, the family dynamic etc.
Personally, I hate to see parents constantly pointing out the negatives in their child's behavior to begin with. My parents were the kind of people to always make sure you knew when you were "annoying", "being stupid", "getting on their nerves", etc., but they would never tell you when you did anything positive. Those are the kinds of children who end up far more damaged from their parents "name-calling". Encouragement goes a long way.
Quoting Crystallized:" There are too many variables in the situation that can influence the outcome. The child's personality, ... [snip!] ... Those are the kinds of children who end up far more damaged from their parents "name-calling". Encouragement goes a long way. "
I agree, but there must be a balance. Too much encouragement can be just as detrimental.
I tell my kids lots of things like they're acting like babies or being butts things to that nature. I do not like it when parents call their kids stupid or dumb asses or worthless. I will tell my children they did do something dumb and explain why it was dumb and why they shouldn't do that.
I don't like name calling in that way at all. I've told my son "You're being bad" or "You're being a brat" if he's not behaving. "You're acting like a baby"
But I'd never say "You're a baby." or "You're bad." I hate that. HE isn't bad. His ACTIONS are bad, and actions can be changed.
I have no problem with terms of endearment though. "baby" as a petname isn't the same as using it in a mean way.
I don't see how it couldn't be detrimental. It's all about how the child perceives what is happening I guess. If it's something you say jokingly and your child knows it then no big deal. If you're pissed off and can't control yourself so you call your child names then yes I would say that would definitely have some type of negative effect on the child.
Quoting Conservative MAMA:" I over head a father at a birthday party yesterday "name calling" his 5 year old. What is your thought ... [snip!] ... self esteem as modern day psychologists make it seem? Does it matter how frequent a parent name calls a kid? Just curious! "
lol. how can it be damaging to tell a kid who is being annoying that he/she is being annoying? I think a parent must be aware of how and when harsher words are used, but i think they can be very good tools when used appropriately.
They are around annoying behavior with their friends and they should not be "shielded" from appropriate criticism of their own behavior when warrented. They should have a good example from their family on how and when to call annoying friends on their annoying behavior.
I tell my kids to quit being annoying when they are, I tell them the are acting like fools when they are.....
I also call my littlest one stinky pants, as a term of endearment.....I call my son weirdo and my oldest pretty much anything that comes to mind...... I get the MOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOM response from here....They'll live
Quoting Man. Bear. Pig.:" Some people dont like when I call my oldest daughter an a*****e... but.. she's an a*****e. lol"
Lol, that sounds like me and my mom. We would constantly go back and forth calling each other a b***h or say "you're being such an a*****e" - and sometimes she meant it and a lot of times thats just how we communicated and showed affection.
When my son actually misbehaves, I let him know the type of behavior he is displaying. If he is being annoying, I tell him he is being annoying. If he's being mean, I tell him he's being mean. If he's whining, I tell him he is acting like a baby.
But when he's good or does something out of the ordinary in a good way (like helping me pick up dishes after dinner or helping me put clothes in the dryer or giving daddy an extra hug because he doesn't feel good) I tell him that was nice of him and that he's being a big help - you can't be negative ALL the time, but there isn't harm in telling a child how they are acting, how else will they know that that behavior isn't acceptable?