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Mother of One plus One 2 kids; Ware Shoals, South Carolina 4418 posts
Nov 25th '12

Ng.<blockquote><b>Quoting Jas ♥:</b>" Its the internet. She can act anyway she wants. You telling her to act this or that way is not going ... [snip!] ... you're just contributing to her "rudeness" by arguing with her about it. You and the cookiemonster girl. Save it and move on."</blockquote>




:lol: :lol: I am not arguing. Just stating facts.

It's Delivered 33 kids; Georgia 15057 posts
Nov 25th '12
Quoting Mother of One plus One:" S th<blockquote><b>Quoting I'm Marbles:</b>" I was helpful, I told her dolls are ... [snip!] ... That's not really helpful,just your opinion on the doll. You're not doing anything but being a bully. Act like an adult."


stating the truth is not being a bully.
She will be a senior in high school when her kid starts kindegarten.

user banned 2 kids; New York 34017 posts
Nov 25th '12

OP you should really consider adoption.



You are being very selfish in keeping this baby.

SavageDarling 3 kids; Webster, Massachusetts 10381 posts
Nov 25th '12

<blockquote><b>Quoting The Devil's Squeekerz:</b>" Aren't Reborn Dolls kinda expensive? Wouldn't it be better to use that money on something more useful, ... [snip!] ... expensive, and I agree with the other momma that said that kids only get harder. They are easy peasy before they get mobile... "</blockquote>




Absolutely! And now my son, almost 6, is so freaking expensive and a lot more work than he was as a baby.Never mind diapers as a baby, what about now with Doctor bills, dentists, new clothes every few months, new winter coats and boots ever year cost at least 100 dollars. And that's just necessities, he also wants to play sports and do other activities with his friends. And if he gets hurt or sick you can tack another 250 onto our Medical bills for that month. He just needed a new bed in October, 700 dollars. And that's just my son! I'm not even talking about all the different expenses for my daughter.
Op, I just don't think you've thought of all of this. I know I hadn't before I had him. He was unplanned and I got pregnant when I was 19 had him when I was 20, and even I wish I could have just waited to have kids. There is so much I wanted to do but right now my kids need me to focus on them. My dreams and aspirations will have to wait. It sucks.

user banned 2 kids; New York 34017 posts
Nov 25th '12
Quoting Jas ♥:" I agree."


In another post she said her MIL bought a crib. No, OP, you do not have a MIL.



but seriously, she can't get a job unless it's a paper route or she works on a farm, and the chances of that are slim to none depending where she lives. She's asking her parents and whoever else to foot the bill for her mistake.

Casbutt 3 kids; 1 angel baby; Columbus, OH, United States 13914 posts
Nov 25th '12
Quoting MommaSav2:" <blockquote><b>Quoting The Devil's Squeekerz:</b>" Aren't Reborn Dolls kinda expensive? ... [snip!] ... so much I wanted to do but right now my kids need me to focus on them. My dreams and aspirations will have to wait. It sucks."


:!:

SavageDarling 3 kids; Webster, Massachusetts 10381 posts
Nov 25th '12

<blockquote><b>Quoting JiLLiAN.:</b>" OP you should really consider adoption. You are being very selfish in keeping this baby."</blockquote>



Agreed. The only person you're thinking of in deciding to keep this baby is you and what you want. Not wht would be best for the baby and the other people involved. I'm sure your parents didn't plan on having to take care of our kid while you finished high school.
You're just being selfish. Please consider adoption, it would be the most selfless parenting decision you could make.

user banned 2 kids; New York 34017 posts
Nov 25th '12
Quoting MommaSav2:" <blockquote><b>Quoting JiLLiAN.:</b>" OP you should really consider adoption. You ... [snip!] ... school. You're just being selfish. Please consider adoption, it would be the most selfless parenting decision you could make."

If she actually goes through with and finishes high school. :?

SavageDarling 3 kids; Webster, Massachusetts 10381 posts
Nov 25th '12

<blockquote><b>Quoting JiLLiAN.:</b>" In another post she said her MIL bought a crib. No, OP, you do not have a MIL. but seriously, she ... [snip!] ... of that are slim to none depending where she lives. She's asking her parents and whoever else to foot the bill for her mistake."</blockquote>




And she can't drive baby to its doctor's appointments for the first two gets until she gets her drivers lisence. So that's an appointment at 7 days, 2 weeks, 4weeks, 2 months, 4 months, 6 months, 9months, 12 months, 15months, 18months, and 2 years. ThT someone else will have to miss work to take HER kid to the doctor, and that jut well visits! Nevermind the kids getting sick! And since she can't work someone else will also be paying that bill.
Jut selfish.

SavageDarling 3 kids; Webster, Massachusetts 10381 posts
Nov 25th '12

<blockquote><b>Quoting JiLLiAN.:</b>" If she actually goes through with and finishes high school. :?"</blockquote>




And her odds at doing that are what? 1 in 10? (I don't actually hav those stats in front of me)

Punk Rock Princess {EBFT} 3 kids; Killeen, Texas 26911 posts
Nov 25th '12

:roll: If her parents are willing to help then that's their business, not yalls. Having a baby is hard and she wants to take responsibility for her actions by raising it, more power to her. I hope she comes back on BG for advice when she needs it and ignores the b***hes.
If my kid had a kid I would be more devastated by not having the baby in our lives than I would by helping them. Family is family. A lot of you disagree and that's fine, for y'all.

MunchkinWrangler 4 kids; Rīga, Latvia 47032 posts
Nov 25th '12
Quoting Punk Rock Princess {EBFT}:" :roll: If her parents are willing to help then that's their business, not yalls. Having a baby is hard ... [snip!] ... having the baby in our lives than I would by helping them. Family is family. A lot of you disagree and that's fine, for y'all."


Agreed. Why put baby up for adoption, creating one less loving family for one of the thousands of children in the system if this baby has a family willing to care for it. So be it that she can't raise the kid on her own. If her family wants to help, that's great!



If one of my kids had a baby young, it would break my heart to say goodbye to my grandchild. I'D ADOPT the baby myself if my child wasn't smart enough to take responsibility.



God, there are so many kids in the foster system already. What a horrible suggestion. And it CAN be done. She will have to take a taxi for at least a year with baby, but hell.... In many locations people dont even bother with cars.... They ride the bus. We dont know her situation.

MunchkinWrangler 4 kids; Rīga, Latvia 47032 posts
Nov 25th '12
Quoting Jas ♥:" Where did anyone say they disagreed? I never said that I wouldn't HELP my daughter or son in any way ... [snip!] ... would be pissed. By the way, there's a difference between helping and taking on full responsibility. Let's be realistic here."


Who said she wasn't going to care for her baby, and let her parents take full responsibility? Of course she will need a roof over her head and help affording child care so she can finish school, but id like to think she would at least be the one waking up with baby, feeding baby, changing diapers and working min wage to buy diapers and such. If not, its her parents decision to help her or not.

MunchkinWrangler 4 kids; Rīga, Latvia 47032 posts
Nov 25th '12
Quoting Jas ♥:" :lol: Private adoption. :idea:"



Who says she will be able to find someone to adopt her baby? There are many babies being put up for adoption yearly. Foster homes are all too real. many of which are not too great. :(

MunchkinWrangler 4 kids; Rīga, Latvia 47032 posts
Nov 25th '12
Quoting Jas ♥:" :lol: Private adoption. :idea:"



mind you, private adoptions are a big reason that kids already in foster care aren't being adopted... Because people are giving up their newborns in higher demand. How sad.. If anything abortion should come before adoption IMO