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non-CIO advice needed Brantley+Savannah 2 kids; Mills River, NC, United States 3119 posts
Nov 18th '12

my 3 month old (almost 3 months, in 6 days) will not sleep in his own bed, he wont even nap in his own bed, only in his bouncer or if someone is holding him. i do not know what to do, i co-sleep at night but DH works 3rd shift so when he gets a night off id like to cuddle in bed but DS refuses to sleep in his bed, he wakes up and starts screaming if i lay him down. HELP?!

loser mom 4 kids; 1 angel baby; Oslo, Norway, ,,, Europe 12277 posts
Nov 18th '12

I don't think you're going to be able to transition back and forth. He's used to sleeping with you, that's what he wants.

Jennybananna 2 kids; Gilbert, AZ, United States 25079 posts
Nov 18th '12

Put his bed in your room next to the bed. 3 months is way to young to CIO even if you were going that route.

Drunk Blair Waldorf 2 kids; Alpharetta, Georgia 19630 posts
Nov 18th '12

Does he sleep on his stomach or his back? You might try putting him on his stomach and then either laying your hands on his back until he soothes back to sleep or patting him to sleep in his bed. I snuggle my infant to sleep every night and then put her to bed in her own bed and she's 8 months old now. It will probably take a few nights to get him used to it, so you'll probably have to give up a few nights of cosleeping until he's used to sleeping either way.

Wanted: #2 Due August 26 (boy); 33 kids; Illinois 4726 posts
Nov 18th '12

Put him down before he actually is fully asleep. Nurse or feed until he is very drowsy (almost out) an put him down than. Its the only thing that worked for my son and it took a few days and nights to get used to it, but eventually it worked. Good luck!

Brantley+Savannah 2 kids; Mills River, NC, United States 3119 posts
Nov 18th '12
Quoting Jennybananna:" Put his bed in your room next to the bed. 3 months is way to young to CIO even if you were going that route. "


not going that route, his bed is in our room, i have the front bumper off his crib so he can see me, but he still screams untill i pick him up, and he doesnt stop, i also think my pedi is a dumbsmurf because shes been telling me since he was 4 weeks old to let him cry for 15 minutes before picking him up and im just like yeah ur smurfing kidding i am not going to subject my son to that, nothing against people that do, its just SOOOOOO not for me.

Thorian's Mommy TTC since Jan 2016; 1 child; 1 angel baby; Westbrook, ME, United States 8459 posts
Nov 18th '12

Im having the same issue :) SO works nights as well. im thinking about Side Carrying his crib. its when you take the front off and push the two beds together. gives more room and a place for baby to sleep?im hoping eventual we can pull the beds apart.

lolajessup 3 kids; 1 angel baby; Beaverton, Michigan 44076 posts
Nov 18th '12

You can try putting him in a bassinet or pack n play next to the bed. But really babies are still new and they call the first 9 mos of life the second half Of gestation. They still want to be close to you. Just like u wanna cuddle DH, DS wants to cuddle you. Wait for him to fall asleep and then cuddle DH. He can sleep on the edge of the bed. We bought a mesh bed rail from Walmart for like $20 so DD could sleep by the edge so SO and I could cuddle.

Brantley+Savannah 2 kids; Mills River, NC, United States 3119 posts
Nov 18th '12
Quoting lolajessup:" You can try putting him in a bassinet or pack n play next to the bed. But really babies are still new ... [snip!] ... edge of the bed. We bought a mesh bed rail from Walmart for like $20 so DD could sleep by the edge so SO and I could cuddle."


hmmmm.....bed rail is sounding pretty good now. lol.

Thorian's Mommy TTC since Jan 2016; 1 child; 1 angel baby; Westbrook, ME, United States 8459 posts
Nov 18th '12
Quoting Brantley's mama 8-24-12:" not going that route, his bed is in our room, i have the front bumper off his crib so he can see me, ... [snip!] ... yeah ur smurfing kidding i am not going to subject my son to that, nothing against people that do, its just SOOOOOO not for me."



What O_o i am for letting babys fuss for a little bit but if LO fusses for more than 30 seconds and im not there he will make a blood crding cry and turn red.
theres no way in hell i would let him do that for 15 minutes. ge a new doc

Thorian's Mommy TTC since Jan 2016; 1 child; 1 angel baby; Westbrook, ME, United States 8459 posts
Nov 18th '12
Quoting Brantley's mama 8-24-12:" not going that route, his bed is in our room, i have the front bumper off his crib so he can see me, ... [snip!] ... yeah ur smurfing kidding i am not going to subject my son to that, nothing against people that do, its just SOOOOOO not for me."



What O_o i am for letting babys fuss for a little bit but if LO fusses for more than 30 seconds and im not there he will make a blood crding cry and turn red.
theres no way in hell i would let him do that for 15 minutes. ge a new doc

October2011 Due August 5; 2 kids; Pennsylvania 8705 posts
Nov 18th '12

White noise! works like a charm

Jennybananna 2 kids; Gilbert, AZ, United States 25079 posts
Nov 18th '12
Quoting October2011:" White noise! works like a charm"

Not always

Drunk Blair Waldorf 2 kids; Alpharetta, Georgia 19630 posts
Nov 18th '12
Quoting Jennybananna:" Not always"


:!: DD hates white noise.

October2011 Due August 5; 2 kids; Pennsylvania 8705 posts
Nov 18th '12
Quoting Jennybananna:" Not always"


Okay..still a suggestion....its at least worth a shot.